Marriage & Divorce - 18 October 2007

My husband and i have been arguing a lot lately over the stupidest things....like...... why didn't u turn the computer screen off? why didn't you turn the lights out? (i mean name calling and all).
I'm to the point where im thinking about leaving him.
He said we should go to counseling BUT i don't think another person is gonna help us get along.
If two people love each other do u think they should have to go to counseling to learn how to get along?
Even if this person "help us" to get along do u think its a possibility that it will last?
Anyone here who have tried counseling?

2007-10-18 08:31:58 · 12 answers · asked by redhead 2

He has been separated for 6 years, and we've been dating for 3. I live with him now and moved from Louisiana up to Virginia to be with this man. I left everything I knew. I have asked him to please get his divorce while his wife is still in jail. Im terrified that she will come back when she gets out of jail. Please help.

2007-10-18 08:27:09 · 28 answers · asked by itsallgood215 2

If they had a really bad Credit Report what should that tell you?

2007-10-18 08:25:07 · 15 answers · asked by snack_daddy10 6

A very good friend of mine is having marriage problems and has come to me for advice, the problem is i don't really know what to say to her problems. her husband has told her that he no longer fancys her and does not know if he loves her anymore. my friend is distraught, and is also having problems at work which are also adding to her stress. her husband has decided to go away for a couple of days to get his head around things. has he had enough of the relationship?

2007-10-18 08:11:05 · 34 answers · asked by Anonymous

or are tehy just trying to get us to spank them? I kid I kid..

asked this yesterday but nobody on..

2007-10-18 08:07:37 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

My friend & her husband got married & it lasted 3 months. HE wanted a big wedding (??) so HER family dished out $8,000. Before that, SHE paid $600 in cash (unfortunately) on HIS DUI. She has a 3-year old son from a previous marriage. Mind you, they are only 21 years old...but that is besides the point.

Present...
He left her one day while she was at work because he said "she nags too much." All he wanted to do was drink all night & not call home and check in like a responsible significant other. She cooked supper and catered to him on the couch on a daily basis; he had it made. He disrespected her and he has an anger problem. He claims he doesn't love her, he never did, and he didn't even have enough respect to call her and tell her why he left. NOW she is stuck with all the bills (rent and utilities) even though his name is on the lease. He says he will "stay married for 30 years" if he has too to avoid lawyers and legal fees. Is my friend entitled to justice or should she give up?

2007-10-18 08:07:26 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous

Do you look down on her, do you respcet her less? Does she look like she's not a strong person to you? What are you thinking if you see a person like this that has a hard time saving money, and sometimes finds herself going into the negative on her bank account? Would this make you not want to be with her?

2007-10-18 08:00:24 · 24 answers · asked by ilih2006 1

2007-10-18 07:50:58 · 58 answers · asked by denisleary74 2

2007-10-18 07:49:43 · 20 answers · asked by Sue B 1

i have a serious boyfriend, but we had split a couple times.1 of these times I met someone new.I was really attracted to him.I saw him for about 7 months but then my ex & I ended up back together. It wasn’t expected. My ex was a cheat and so on, so our relationship was up & down. Well anytime I broke up with my man, this other guy (who I couldn’t leave alone) would always be the one I started seeing. It never got too deep with him though b/c he seemed to pull away when I got to close. I never really understood it all. He’d act like it was all great one minute and the next, he would avoid me almost. But he still continued to see me anytime I broke up with my boyfriend. I know this seems terrible of me to seem like I was playing games with them-but theres more to the story & it wasn’t like that. I just always wonder if this other guy really liked me & was just scared to let his guard down or if I was a booty call?

2007-10-18 07:47:58 · 13 answers · asked by Yellowtulips 3

I posted a question earlier about the serious issues I'm encountering with my mother-in-law who has resisted me from the beginning. My husband is an enabler of her manipulation and refuses to acknowledge her twisted behavior even after she begged him to leave me (for no reason at all other than her wanting her little boy back) My question: Does a Mamma's boy ever grow out of it? How can I deal with this? I love my husband & this is the only marital problem we have, but it's becoming very very serious and we've only been married a few months

2007-10-18 07:46:34 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

i am marrying my girlfriend and i keep having the jitters.
I am so nervous that i am taking someones freedom does anyone have any advice

2007-10-18 07:41:38 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous

I'm 22 years old, I'm inactive It's so hard for me to get back on track,my husband & I r spiritually weak , we want to serve Jehovah.I was disfellowshiped when I was 17. I re-established then met my husband joe at a get together, I realized he was not spiritual, he was leading a dbl life,I didn't, I just stopped going b cuz I broke Jehovah's laws along with him(again). I would never lead a dbl life I'd rather just not serve. we got married, talked to the elders,disfellowshiped,re established we had not been making meetings for 3 months. we started going again regularly 3 wks ago,but i feel very guilty bcuz when we had just re established we'd go 2 worldly dances,drank alcohol. bcuz I've been disfellowshiped b4, ppl think I was bad influence on him they don't know bout his previous dbl life.I know better but i'd like words from other MATURE JW'S. is this inappropiate(asking this online)? I mean, I can tell who's a witness. ok let me know.

2007-10-18 07:34:11 · 25 answers · asked by :D 2

My husband and I are seperated because he's a chronic cheater. Everytime I decide to move on and get out and meet new guyz he comes right back wanting to be with me again. If I'm at home alone with the baby crying and upset he could care less. But when he sees me out at parties or with another guy I can guarentee he will be calling or showing up at my door. How come he never cares until I move on? This can't be real love. Right?

2007-10-18 07:32:38 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-10-18 07:29:20 · 6 answers · asked by everij2004 2

He thinks that he owns me and my belongings.He yells and screams when i let MY family borrow MY car that I paid for with MY income tax check.I am always doing something wrong and i dont understand what it is.Is there anything that I can do.I love him so much,but his yelling and screaming and fussing hurts me so bad....Suggestions??

2007-10-18 07:26:40 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

within 6 months.Can he do this? I've been married for nearly 20 years! I've had ill-health for several years and am on medication. I look tremendous though, don't look or act my age, very fashion conscieous too. Why is this happening anyone having similar problems? What should I do?

2007-10-18 07:17:29 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous

just wondering what married men talk about with female friends? do they talk about stuff they cant talk to their wives about? just curious

2007-10-18 07:17:03 · 28 answers · asked by chicksmom 2

My husband and I are going to Europe tomorrow.
And as we were sorting out our stuff, I decided to ask him for some 50 pounds to be kept with me for just-in-case stuff. He got worked up and rejected me. I felt so shocked. I stared at him in blank. He raised his voice and told me the money that he had changed is only for OUR expenses and not for anything else. I am even more stunned. I said its just for emergency. You wont know. He insisted on NOT giving me any pounds and got really worked up. I felt so cheap for asking for a mere 50 pounds and get rejected like this. I started tearing, no noise. Just plain shock. He asked me whats my problem. I felt even more lost.
I went to the room, sat there and cried. He came in and started shouting at me. I then got angry and said that I didn’t wanna go to the trip anymore. He agreed!
(all these for that??!) what is wrong with this man???
Well since he think we shouldn’t go there because of a fcuking 50 pounds, I dashed out to clear out our packed luggage. I went back to the room and weeped. (no noise, soon stopped.) then he said, “You’re unbelievable.” I exploded. I screamed hysterically. He muffled me and told me not to make him do something that I might regret. (which I don’t know what) I started banging his legs with my weak arms and he clenched his fists so that I would hit my arms with his stone-hard fists. I got bruises all over my arms now. I dare not make a noise and Im weeping quietly in the study room now. I am so sad

2007-10-18 07:11:32 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband wants me to have nothing to do with my family whatsoever. Granted there has been drama in the past and some fallings out but it's family. I do still maintain contact and see them and he knows this - there are no secrets about that but he does not want them over to visit. Not birthday's, not holiday's, nothing. It's hard on me and the kids because I love to cook and I want to invite EVERYONE over for the holidays.

Should I just suck it up and be the obedient wife and just never host anything at home? What type of behavior are we showing our children?

2007-10-18 07:10:38 · 8 answers · asked by That Deal 2

Please note if you are a husband or a wife.

2007-10-18 07:08:44 · 6 answers · asked by snack_daddy10 6

Please note if you are a husband or a wife.

2007-10-18 07:08:21 · 6 answers · asked by snack_daddy10 6

We had money, yet he borrows $20 from a co-worker. He has done this before with a female co-worker, and told me it was a tip. I said Bull! Then he said it was from this girl named Audra, then her name changed to Angelina when we talked later and now its angela. Do you think he is borrowing money from Angela again and now is telling me its a male?

2007-10-18 06:55:39 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

Please note if you are a husband or wife.

2007-10-18 06:55:05 · 36 answers · asked by snack_daddy10 6

Please note if you are a husband or wife.

2007-10-18 06:54:39 · 13 answers · asked by snack_daddy10 6

How to Make a Woman Happy


It's not difficult to make a woman happy. A man only needs to be:

1. a friend
2. a companion
3. a lover
4. a brother
5. a father
6. a master
7. a chef
8. an electrician
9. a carpenter
10. a plumber
11. a mechanic
12. a decorator
13. a stylist
14. a sexologist
15. a gynecologist
16. a psychologist
17. a pest exterminator
18. a psychiatrist
19. a healer
20. a good listener
21. an organizer
22. a good father
23. very clean
24. sympathetic
25. athletic
26. warm
27. attentive
28. gallant
29. intelligent
30. funny
31. creative
32. tender
33. strong
34. understanding
35. tolerant
36. prudent
37. ambitious
38. capable
39. courageous
40. determined
41. true
42. dependable
43. passionate
44. compassionate

WITHOUT FORGETTING TO:

45. give her compliments regularly
46. love shopping
47. be honest
48. be very rich
49. not stress her out
50. not look at other girls

AND AT THE SAME TIME, YOU MUST ALSO:

51. give her lots of attention, but expect little yourself
52. give her lots of time, especially time for herself
53. give her lots of space, never worrying about where she goes

IT IS VERY IMPORTANT:

54. Never to forget:
* birthdays
* anniversaries
* arrangements she makes


HOW TO MAKE A MAN HAPPY

1. Show up naked
2. Bring food

2007-10-18 06:54:14 · 14 answers · asked by Johnny 7

2007-10-18 06:50:15 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

Been married for 6yr have 3 kids, well over the years we have had violence on his part just yesterday he spit in my face and I had enough and I hauled off and kicked and punched him, I left with my son (other two are in school) and he called the cops and file charges I went to the court house yesterday to talk to them about getting him out of the house getting a restraining order etc. Basically the judge laughed in my face and told me I assulated him and I have no proof he spit in my face and since they have came to my house before and they have record I still shouldnt of hit him so no restraing order and they told me to stay in a shelter tell I get it toghter.. I went down to my landlord and he told me he wont take my husband off the lease cause if he have to go to court to pay the rent both our names have to be on there, but he did tell me to change the locks so my husband can't get in..

My ? is can I do that without getting in trouble with the cops again?

2007-10-18 06:46:11 · 16 answers · asked by Alexis221 4

2007-10-18 06:39:58 · 36 answers · asked by Anonymous

He is a very rich man and he is a good muslim.

2007-10-18 06:38:19 · 5 answers · asked by Ibrahim Kamrul Shafin 1