2007-10-18 06:50:15 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
your husband has no right to control you no matter what the reason is. if you lost your job he should be supportive and help you get through this.
2007-10-18 07:11:51 · answer #1 · answered by isla 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is on equal ground, he just doesn't realise it. You need to sit him down and make him face facts. Ok, so it was unfortunate you lost your job, but a womans job is never done and I'm sure you are still doing plenty of work. Give him a list of all the jobs you do and the time you take to do them. Then give him a costing of the wages you would have received, had you been working as a housekeeper, elsewhere.
That might open his eyes abit.
2007-10-18 07:17:16 · answer #2 · answered by missyme 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Equal ground? "Put him"?
There are many, many cases of unwarranted accusations of "controlling". Your callous remark of "putting" your husband anywhere brings out questions of what you consider "controlling".
It sounds like you and your husband desperately need to find where your heads are at. What are each of your expectations, because it sounds like they are worlds apart.
For some women, their husbands wanting to know where they go when they leave the house would be considered "controlling". But in reality, that is healthy and shouldn't be any other way: for both.
Are you two living separate lives? Sounds like it. If that's the case, then anyone, husband or stranger, who wants to keep tabs on you is considered controlling.
The best thing for you is to regain your relationship and closeness, and please each other as a spouse only should. Any trust factors melt away, and your issues of "controlling" will minimize. You also left out many unanswered questions like, since you're not working, are you helping around the house since he is working? Things like that I'm confident will make a difference in your questions.
2007-10-18 06:57:40 · answer #3 · answered by splashdesign238 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Getting a job would seem to be the first step.
He equates control with income. The more income you provide the more control you have over the home.
To some degree he is right. If your husband had lost his job and you were the sole bread winner would you allow him to spend money foolishly? Of course you wouldn't.
The question is way is he questioning your decisions now?
Are you doing something foolish in his eyes?
2007-10-18 07:01:14 · answer #4 · answered by snack_daddy10 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe it's just an ego thing, he's making all the money so he thinks he can. Not sure though, not enough info in your question. Best bet is to get another job, and he'll be fine.
2007-10-18 06:53:40 · answer #5 · answered by TootsieGirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
put yourself on "equal" ground by getting a job!
2007-10-18 07:51:36 · answer #6 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best way to get back to where you were, just say NO. I found this is a wonderful word and I use it a lot. Did you fix my food ?? NO, Did you go to the store NO, pretty soon he will catch on and get your message
2007-10-18 07:00:08 · answer #7 · answered by poppawick 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start taking interest in things tht u like to do or rty hobbies, work with a charity or write a poem and show it to him and keep urself updated with the latest news - with wch u can flaunt your smartness to ur husband.. and may be he wud stop controlling.. i don't know if it'd work or not but thats wat i wud have done if it happened with me
2007-10-18 06:58:17 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a job.
2007-10-18 06:54:34 · answer #9 · answered by Stedway 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get another job.
2007-10-18 06:58:27 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋