My husband and I are seperated because he's a chronic cheater. Everytime I decide to move on and get out and meet new guyz he comes right back wanting to be with me again. If I'm at home alone with the baby crying and upset he could care less. But when he sees me out at parties or with another guy I can guarentee he will be calling or showing up at my door. How come he never cares until I move on? This can't be real love. Right?
2007-10-18 07:32:38 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
no, its not real love, he just doesnt want to see anybody in the perfect situation he could of had. I think you should definitely move on. He will keep cheating, maybe not for a month or two, but his true colors will always come back and you are too good for that mess, dont take him back unless you want to get hurt over and over and over and over and over and over again.
2007-10-18 07:38:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
This is not about love but rather about control. He doesn't love you but wants to control you. File for the divorce and a restraining order to keep him away from your door, but don't move on too fast with another guy until you learn to be yourself and raise your self esteem so that you don't get into another relationship too fast for the wrong reasons. Perhaps even get some counseling to understand why you picked him in the first place.
2007-10-18 07:48:57 · answer #2 · answered by Al B 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
No its not real love. He just wants you to sit around and cry for him until he decides its time to come back. He is controlling you emotionally. Don't let him dictate what you do. Go out, meet guys, have fun, spend time with friends.. but whatever you do.. don't sit home and cry for him cuz that's exactly what he wants.
2007-10-18 09:01:02 · answer #3 · answered by musicgrl42002 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No its not real love went through that to its a control issue if you keep going back to him then he has you and who ever else he wants and you have nothing but him when he lets you put a stop to it now and find someone who makes you happy and show him he cant hurt you any more its better for you and your baby
2007-10-18 07:47:15 · answer #4 · answered by ? 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
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2016-10-21 09:13:27 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi,
RIGHT!!!
I'd say it sounds like the typical "Peter Pan" syndrome.
You were his "toy" first and even though he may not want to "play" with you anymore, he doesn't want anyone else to have you.
I hope you have changed your locks, if not please have them re-keyed.
Move on with your life, which will enable you to make you and your child happy. When he comes over or calls, tell him VERY calmly and seriously that you want him to be in his child's life but you are moving on and away from him in your's and you'd prefer it if he didn't waste his time or yours trying to get you back.
Find someone that deserves you.
Good Luck
2007-10-18 08:21:41 · answer #6 · answered by Grannie 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
No its abuse. He wants you to think that he loves you and needs you but he figures if he cant have you no one should. Move on for good and dont take him back. If you keep doing that he will always think he has the upper hand and you will be trapped forever with him and his ways.
2007-10-18 07:39:52 · answer #7 · answered by llexiann30 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You are right. I think he just doesn't want anyone else to enjoy your company. He needs to move on. Let him go for good.
2007-10-18 07:43:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
It could be real love in his mind but real love isn't necessarily a good thing in itself. You're better off without him.
2007-10-18 07:37:12 · answer #9 · answered by abrennan01 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
No, that's called abuse. He wants to have his cake and eat it too. And he wants you sitting at home crying over him. Move on.
2007-10-18 07:36:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋