My husband has threatened to get a divorce if I don't come across?

Question

within 6 months.Can he do this? I've been married for nearly 20 years! I've had ill-health for several years and am on medication. I look tremendous though, don't look or act my age, very fashion conscieous too. Why is this happening anyone having similar problems? What should I do?

Answer 1

let him get a divorce,tell him don't you threaten me because you can't get your own way.for goodness sake don't they ever think of anything other than a certain part of their anatomy.instead of demanding why does'nt he try to make you feel sexy and good.its like shirley valentine said sex is like shopping at tescos all that pushing and shoving and you still get very little at the end of it.a good divorce lawyer would get him laughed out of court tell him to go for it.why do you want to divorce your wife?well your'e honour she wont come across!!!how stupid does that sound to you.at the end of the day you are not a tap to be turned on and off when he feels like it,bl**dy cheek.say if he wants to mnake a bit of an effort then you will to and see how it goes.good luck

Answer 2

6 months without coming across with some sex?
Unless your ill health prevents you from being sexual, I can't blame him.

Sexuality is a part of marriage. I can understand it if this were directly related to a physical ailment but there is nothing in your questions which indicates that this is that situation. In fact it sounds like it was your choice. If you look so good why don't you start acting your age and do your husband.

I think that he is doing the right thing. He has told you straight out that he is not waiting for more than six months to get some. He is not going out and cheating. This is the correct way to handle things. Frankly, I would not have waited three months.

Answer 3

I'm a bit confused like the others about come across. If you mean have sex with him then yes he can get a divorce. But hey, you can get divorced for any reason. He must be a jerk to think of himself being sexed when you are in poor health. If you do not or cannot have sex then don't. Don't be bullied into anything. You will get through this just fine.(smile)

Answer 4

well were all human and we all have needsand he is bringing it to you but i think everyone has a limit to what they will accept and what they wont and i think the way hes seeing it as maybe he feels you dont find him attractive anymore maybe hes worried you found someone else and are using your illness as an excuse. now it depends on you he told you one of his needs he wants some lovin. now you can say no and let the chips fall were they may.it depends were your at and yes he can do that hes telling you that this particular thing is not working for him.

Answer 5

I am not sure what you mean by "come across" but any husband who threatens his wife should be thrown out regardless of how long you have been married. He should be more concerned with your health problems than anything else!! Let him leave and find someone who appreciates you for who and what you are!!

Answer 6

Come across what? The ocean? The bed? The backyard?

Answer 7

let him try it and when he See's the lawyers bill it will no doubt change his mind anyway if you do not want a divorce drag it out and make him look bad
how can he prove you did not come across of course you did????

Answer 8

come across where, across the road? Are you living across the street from each other?

Answer 9

Come across what in 6 months????

Answer 10

Come across? As in have sex? Well, threats of divorce are usually NOT very much of a turn-on. He sounds like a selfish clod.