i have a serious boyfriend, but we had split a couple times.1 of these times I met someone new.I was really attracted to him.I saw him for about 7 months but then my ex & I ended up back together. It wasn’t expected. My ex was a cheat and so on, so our relationship was up & down. Well anytime I broke up with my man, this other guy (who I couldn’t leave alone) would always be the one I started seeing. It never got too deep with him though b/c he seemed to pull away when I got to close. I never really understood it all. He’d act like it was all great one minute and the next, he would avoid me almost. But he still continued to see me anytime I broke up with my boyfriend. I know this seems terrible of me to seem like I was playing games with them-but theres more to the story & it wasn’t like that. I just always wonder if this other guy really liked me & was just scared to let his guard down or if I was a booty call?
2007-10-18 07:47:58 · 13 answers · asked by Yellowtulips 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He would say "I have never been "cool" with a girl this long, i just mess with them and when its done, its done, but look at this-you are with me, 3 yrs later"
2007-10-18 07:48:55 · update #1
Well you repeatedly breaking up with him to go back to your cheating ex made him skittish no doubt. It wasn't just a booty call for him but I bet he thinks he was one for you.
2007-10-18 08:20:51 · answer #1 · answered by abrennan01 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The second guy may have been afraid to become too attached because you keep going back to the ex boyfriend. you have to decide one way or the other if you are going to get back with the guy who cheats on you all the time - you shouldn't - try to make a life with the new guy - possible perhaps - or dump them both and concentrate on getting your self esteem back so that you can have a friend first with no booty call and have a good relationship develop from the friendship
2007-10-18 15:08:34 · answer #2 · answered by Al B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie hopefully you're not seriously thinking that you're with this man??? You're a jump-off, a booty call, a $ $ on speed-dial, that's it. He hasn't been in a relationship with you for 3 years, he's been booty calling you for 3 years. And the sad part about all this is that you don't really see how you're being used. Yeah I understand that you were broken up or seperated with your bf, but the other guy is not a relationship. And to be honest with you, how could you really expect him to take you seriously as a gf? Everytime you and your bf go through issues you run to him, he breaks you off and then you're right back with your man. If you want anyone to take you seriously or treat you with respect, you have to begin with respecting yourself...
2007-10-18 15:04:03 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its a booty call sweetie, he knows you are gonna give it up. why hasnt he settle down yet, do you think its because of you? its probably because he cant commit to anything, but if the sex is good more power to you. I would definitely see if the relationship could go anywhere and hope that its just not a sex thing, which isnt that bad unless you get attached cause you will get hurt.
2007-10-18 14:54:40 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
"I have never been "cool" with a girl this long, i just mess with them and when its done, its done, but look at this-you are with me, 3 yrs later"
Wow, be sure to thank him for the favor...
Booty call, sorry.
2007-10-18 14:55:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he was scared to let his guard down, he was smart for doing so. Because given opportunity, you kept going back to your boyfriend.
2007-10-18 15:10:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you know how to pick the wrong men. I would stay from the one you don't want to be with and not worry about what they think or what it was....That is the past....
2007-10-18 14:53:13 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
basically he was just using you for sex. you have been around for 3 years and no one else has because all the others girls have had the sense to leave him alone.
2007-10-18 14:52:08 · answer #8 · answered by redpeach_mi 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
it seems like he is playing some games of his own.I would sit down and tell hi how you feel amd if no answer comes of it then it should be done game.
2007-10-18 15:08:42 · answer #9 · answered by SADIE R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he didnt want to put his self out there for you thats why he didnt let you that close to him. you were a booty call... sorry to say that... its not a bad thing.
2007-10-18 14:52:22 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋