Does a "mamma's boy" ever grow out of it?

Question

I posted a question earlier about the serious issues I'm encountering with my mother-in-law who has resisted me from the beginning. My husband is an enabler of her manipulation and refuses to acknowledge her twisted behavior even after she begged him to leave me (for no reason at all other than her wanting her little boy back) My question: Does a Mamma's boy ever grow out of it? How can I deal with this? I love my husband & this is the only marital problem we have, but it's becoming very very serious and we've only been married a few months

Answer 1

honey they never do I left my boyfriend whom I was engaged to at one time because of this and she never wanted us to be together . she lied a couple of times that we were split up and said he was seeing someone else (which was a lie ) . then my mom got involved with it and told her she needed to keep her nose and her butt out of it . then he was mad at me because my mom confronted his mom . so I left him to his family he can have them . he still to this day lives in his moms house and pays his moms electric bill and his sister who has been married like 4 times is living there too waiting for her husband to get out of prison ,she married him in prison . Boy am I glad I got out of that sittuation . I am now married to a wonderfull man whose parents are both passed and he is delightfull to be with . good luck and you need to run to divorce court dont walk RUN !!! this will never change .

Answer 2

Every woman who has dealt with a momma's boy will all tell you the samething.."GET OUT" and it is very true. They will never change and will never pick you their wife who they should be respecting and supporting over their mom. I dealt with this for 7 years and to make things worse I had a lil immature sister in law who made the situation 100 times worse so be glad you dont have a tag team like I did. My ex fought me tooth and nail for them. No matter what I did, even if I had a reasonable point never made sense to him but let them come and cry their side to him and it made all the sense in the world. You say that this is the only problem you guys have but believe me this type of problem is enough to kill your marriage. We will all tell you that. Dealing with a momma's boy and his mother is the worst type of problem to have and rarely do we the wifes ever win in this situation. It will all come down to you having to accept his ways and his mother or else just file for divorce now. The woman will never stop, she will continue and continue and continue until she wins and your gone. So really at this point you need to step back and ask the real question...can I live with this and accept the situation?? or which divorce attorney is the best in town?? Seriously.

Answer 3

I agree with pp's. I don't think they grow out of it, from what I have seen with my 2 bil's. One's wife actually moved them out of state and he still wasn't able to cut the apron strings., they are now divorced. The other bil has never married and doesn't date, he's almost 50 yrs old.

Since youv'e only been married a few months, maybe he's going through an adjustment period. I suggest telling him in firm terms that you will not put up with it.

Good luck

Answer 4

Nope. I've been married to my "mama's boy" husband for 15 years. He thrives on the attention and praise he gets from her, and since he likes it, he doesn't have any incentive to change. He does things for her and she calls him her "favorite son". Kind of ridiculous but they both get a kick out of it. I decided to accept it and learn to live with it. It is still a challenge at times, but he is wonderful in every other way so I have chosen to let it go. There are worse things in life.

Answer 5

Your husband is not just going to wake up one day and say I had enough of my mom treating me like a child he enjoys being baby-ed. I can understand your frustration as he should not be entertaining or allowing her to bad mouth you to him or any one else. He has made it clear based on his response to her that it's OK to say what ever is on your mind mom.

I would ask him if he wanted to stay married or move in with his mother. This can not continue. It is his job to tell his mom although she may not like his choice in a partner. You are his wife and he picked you. She is to respect you and stop making her remarks and inter fearing in your marriage

You are not asking him to cut ties you are asking to be treated with respect. If you won't put your foot down now you will have a miserable marriage

Answer 6

Set up boundaries with him!! I had this problem too.. like he would go to her house for supper every night and then when I made supper wouldn't eat!! He would go to her house before he even came home in the evening!!! You need to explain that it WILL ruin your relationship if he does not detach a bit and back you up at ALL times!! Communication is the key!!

Answer 7

I went through the same thing with my exs mother kill her with kindness start inviting her out shopping with you and treat her like your best friend and no the men never grow out of it but that will help you deal with it because it will show him you are going to try to deal with it for him

Answer 8

GET OUT WHILE YOU STILL CAN! once a mammas boy, always a mammas boy. He will do what ever his mamma wants. Even if that means lying, cheating and stealing from you.

SERIOUSLY GET OUT!

Answer 9

I was married for 20 years and his love/hate relationship with his mother spilled over eventually into every corner of our marriage. We divorced and then she DIDN'T want her boy back!! LOL

Answer 10

sorry to say but no they don't grow out of it he might one day grow up but he will always be a mommas boy regardless