getting married next year help!!!!?

Question

i am marrying my girlfriend and i keep having the jitters.
I am so nervous that i am taking someones freedom does anyone have any advice

Answer 1

How long have you lived together? Because if you have not done this, you are definitely going to be nervous. You are basically entering into a major life long commitment with someone you don't fully know. If you live with someone for a year or two it really lets you get to know what married life would be like. Then you will know if you are doing the right thing or not. Otherwise it's total guesswork, and you just have to hope you made the right guess.

Answer 2

Getting married is a huge step, some nervousness is normal. I have been married for 7 years, and sometimes you do feel like you need more freedom, my husband feels the same way sometimes, it is normal I think. When two people come together in marriage there are things both parties have to give up or change, but if you love the person enough and are commited to them, the sacrifices will be worth it. Have you talked to your girlfriend about this? Does she feel like she is giving up her freedom? If she has agreed to marry you then maybe she doesn't feel like she is losing anything. I think n marriage and love you gain more than you lose, yes there will be hard times, every marriage has them, yes you will argue, you won't always agree and you will both have to make sacrifices, some small, some not so small. and yes after a few years you guys will even annoy each other at times, but if you stick with it in the end you will be able to look back and see that it was all worth it. When i think of my freedom versus what i share with my husband and our family it far outweighs anything i have had to give up, including my freedom.
bottom line tho, talk to your girlfriend, she might be able to put some of your fears to rest, and that really is the key to a good relationship. Good Luck!

Answer 3

You should talk to your girlfriend about your fears. I'm sure that she doesn't feel you are taking away her freedom. Unless it's a forced or arranged marriage, which I'm assuming it's not.

I've been married over 13 years, and I've heard some good advice over the years:

1. Marriage is not 50/50. It's 100/100. You give everything you have to make the marriage work, and your spouse should do the same.

2. Do not try to change your spouse. If you want to change them, you probably shouldn't be marrying them.

3. Attend a Weekend to Remember marriage retreat -- before you get married. Just do a google search for "Weekend to Remember." They actually have sessions specifically for engaged couples.

Answer 4

Keep cool and calm. If you love that woman it is worth it and by the way the jitters are only temporary. When you and her decided to get married, you are not giving up freedom but you are committing yourselves to sharing sharing each others life.
Good Luck and God Bless

Answer 5

Hi,the jitters will go once you get married.You are not taking anyones freedom she wants to marry you.Are you sure thats what is causing you to be nervous maybe you yourself have doubts about getting married & losing your freedom.That is also normal.Good Luck

Answer 6

i think your thinking of your freedom not your girlfriends' this is normal. but really if your not hundred per cent certain. then call a halt to it all. i never did, i got swept away with all the family doing the planning, by the day my wedding came, it was to late to back out of it, 17 years , i stuck it for. Please make sure,she's the love of your life, take a small holiday together, see if you still have the jitters. it might put things into perspective

Answer 7

Just relax (I know, easier said than done). Almost everyone has the jitters. I was with my husband for 9 years before we got married, knew without a doubt that he was "the one", and still almost completely freaked out.

And by the way....she would let you "take her freedom" if she didn't want you to have it. Congrats! :)

Answer 8

OMG DON'T DO IT lmao ...J/K Marriage is a huge step if you keep getting jitters talk to her or push the wedding back a bit. Nothing to worry about marriage is a lifetime commitment and very normal to be nervous and scared.

Answer 9

Taking someones freedom? What are you talking about? You are both committing to a bond of matrimony. You are looking at this the wrong way. If you are looking for an excuse out then just tell her you don't want to marry her.

Answer 10

If she is willing to marry you, you are not "taking" her freedom away. She is voluntarily doing so. Do you feel that she is taking your freedom away? Don't ever feel rushed or pressured into marriage, it only leads to resentment later down the road. Honesty truly is the best policy. Be open and honest with her. Express to her how you are feeling,after all this is the woman you want to spend your life with. Most women are relieved to hear that their husband/boyfriend is feeling the same way they are.