What's the reason do you guess my parents divorced?

Question

They were together since 1980,and they divorced in 2005.
I could tell that from the day my dad started sleeping in the twin beds back then with me,that somthin was up and I didn't know what it was until I heard my mom say:"David you blank blackity blank!" He tells my mom to loosen up. She says:"Don't tell me to loosen up,freakin Blank blankity!" I'm over there thiniing my mom's being to hard on my dad! What is she thinking?! I hope this doesn't lead to divorce." Then it did.
I've only cried 2x the whole 2 yrs cuz I feel like I have to hide my feelings and I've hidden my feelings so long that when I hear the right song,I makes me start getting teared up and I don't want Step-parents that are angels around my parents and de-vils behind their backs! That would be awful!

Christ help me figure out how to get them back!
-Sarah

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When I was born they had only been together 8 yrs!
I miss my dad livin at the same house and I'd always hug him after he got home from work,and the day he was moving out,I tried so hard not to cry in front of hom cuz I'm freakin close to him!
He need to think about what's better for me,Kim,and Haley!
Already pray as hard as I can just to get them back!

Answer 1

I know it's a hard thing to go through,here you have your mom and dad one day then the next they can't talk to each other without fighting. My son was 15 when his dad left us and it was very hard on him.He is 26 now and he tells me how hard it's been and how it has affected his personal life.
Don't be so hard on your mother for the things you heard her say to your dad .Remember you don't know what your dad did to get her that mad and you may never know.No parent wants to look bad in their child's eyes and either one will take the blame.
Sorry to say but there is nothing you can do to get them back together if they love each other they will get back.My husband and i got back together after 2 1/2 years and that was 10 years ago and we are still together and happy now.
Sometimes we need a brake a separation from each other to find out how we really feel towards one another. One thing you can do when you are with your dad say to him,you know dad mom still loves you because she told me she does, now do the same to your mother.Sometimes grown ups are to stubborn to say what they really feel. Give them a little help in the right direction.

Answer 2

I feel for you Sarah, you did not deserve that hurt as a child in your life. However, the persons that are responsible are your parents they messed up their marriage and you were the innocent between them.
I am not sure that you alone could bring them back together again. If they already started a new relationship with someone else I would say it is too late. If they are un-involved then a maybe.
All you can do is talk to your father and tell him that you love him very much and that you are very sad that he is not together with mom and that you miss him.
Do the same with your mom and tell her that you love her also very much and you miss dad not being there.
Tell them that if possible to try to work things out and pray to Jesus and ask Him to intervene to help bring back your parents together.
God Bless

Answer 3

There are many reasons couples divorce and it is never easy on the kids (whether they are grown or not) or on the couple. After 25 yrs I am sure the decision was not made overnight.

I know you want your parents together, but it is not fair to them to be together and not be happy. Being a parent doesn't stop after a divorce. I am sure they both still love you and always will.

About step-parents, its too soon for you to be thinking this way. Step parents are not what they are made out to be in movies and on TV. They will never replace your parent, but they are sure great to have around. If you treat them with respect you will receive the same. I have a great time with my stepmother, and I even called her mom. I always felt special because I had two wonderful mothers that cared for me and loved me. My stepmother is a wonderful lady and she makes my father happy and I love my dad and I want him to be happy. My step father is great! He spoils me like crazy, and we do a lot of stuff together.

I love "both" my families. I even "inherited" grandparents, and aunts and uncles and cousins. Life is what you make it.

It is all about your attitude. If you think and feel things are going to be bad, then they will.

By the way, we also fight and argue and disagree just like any normal family :-)

T.

Answer 4

It's difficult to pinpoint a reason for a couple to break up. Often it can be that they've just grown apart and have different priorities. Many times it's a lack of communication between the two and they land up growing apart. Sleeping apart for various reasons just compounds the problem and eventually they feel there is no reason to stay together.

What can you do to get them back? Nothing really. Accept their decision as it is but let them know you love them both and want them to be in your life. It will be difficult at first but eventually you will find (hopefully) that a ritual takes place and you find yourself immersed with your own life.

Good luck.

Answer 5

I really think you should talk about this with your parents. Or someone. Someone you know well and trust, if possible. If my parents got divorced, the first thing I would do s ask them why. I don't think you can get them back together. If they get back together, it will be through their own doing. Don't hide your feelings. It will hurt you much, much more that letting them out. If you do get step parents, it won't be that horrible. You won't be a Cinderella or anything. Step parents are just regular people, really.

Answer 6

You have to remember that you are not the cause of the marriage failing. Both of your parents love you!
I have often wonder if I could go back and not get married but then I think I wouldn't have my daughter knowing that I wouldn't change a thing. I am sure your parents feel the same way.

Good luck

Answer 7

Hard to say...maybe your Dad cheated on your mom or something. My parents are divorced, but my dad always was a **** so I don't care that much. Really evil step-parents are an overexaggeration (spelled wrong...most likely) of Hollywood, it's really not that bad...most of the time, but if they got a divorce, not a great shot of seeing them back together.

Answer 8

Sorry theres nothing really you can do, if they got back together itd probably be just for you and theyd have a really unhealthy relationship
My parents are divorced too and they have the worst relationship of any divorced parents ive ever met
i know how you feel

Answer 9

I think you need to ask yourself this: If your father was cheating on your mother, would you want them to get back together?

Sleeping in seperate beds is a very bad sign. I think you have more to worry about if they would have stayed married than any step parent could bring.

Answer 10

Bless you!!! I pray that God will help you to understand what you are going through! If parents could only realize that children are the real losers in a divorce --I think they would think twice before getting divorced. I thnk parents who divorce with children never realize the hurt and the emotional feelings they put these innocent children through. They are in one word-- SELFISH- thinking only of themselves. i found my precious little 6 yr old grand daughter one Christmas Day crying behind a living room chair -- She was so very upset because I had told her that if she asked God for something for Christmas and meant it in her little heart that God answered prayers. I was calling her to come to Christmas dinner when the little thing was found crying --hiding behind the chair-- She said --you told me that if I asked God for something he would answer my prayer-- I asked God to make Mommie and Daddy go back together for Christmas and they did not- This is Christmas and they did not go back together!!! How can you explain to a little child that its nots God's will sometimes for them to be together. I felt so terrible.-- needlesss to say that her Mommie did not care-- The three children were visiting me while my son had his regular Visitation--as with all divorces!!! If (ALL LAWYERS) and bad women were stopped-- maybe these hurtful divorces wouldn't hurt another child-- Oh you selfish--evil parents!!! I hope you read this and it tears your hearts out --like you've torn the hearts out of these little children that you and your selfish divorce so you can have your own ways has caused them-- You parents took a vow --(Til death do us part!!!! ) the only parting that hurt from your divorce was the children who did not ask to be brought into the world to suffer like you have caused them to suffer. (Lawyers) --stuff your pockets with their money you got for splitting up families!!! May you never have a family to tear apart as you've torn so many apart with the divorces you push--All for the money you get for it!!! does it make you feel good to ride around in your fine cars???--while these children you have torn apart from their Mommies and Daddy's suffer???