My wife and I are having relationship issues.... I'm trying to work things out and she says she wants to do the same but she keeps lying to me about seeing and talking to another guy. what do I do.
2007-10-18 11:57:27 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sounds like she does'nt want to work things out, because she is lying to you.
The other guy is going to have to go. Are it will never get better.
You are going to have to tell her - him or me.
Good luck
2007-10-18 12:00:18 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
here's the low down: Your wife may in fact love you but she's getting the emotional satisfaction she isn't getting from you from this other man. She isn't going to stop doing this. She probably did after you spoke with her about it before, but she still didn't get what she needed from you. Therefore, she went back to seeing and talking to this guy. If you want to keep your marriage, you're going to have to do the following:
1) Be more emotionally available.
2) Create romance in the relationship. Sit with her, go over memories. Let her do most of the talking.
3) Be her best friend. Confide things in her. Not necessarily about the relationship; confide things and she will soon view you as a confidant and will begin doing the same. Soon after, this other man will fall by the wayside.
4) Bring her flowers. I know you already work hard, take out the trash and kill the bugs. But you need to create a sence of romance and longing on her part.
You must understand you've done nothing wrong. It's her. She's getting her needs fulfilled elsewhere and I'm only telling you how women think. Don't view yourself in a negative light and don't take insult to my honesty. I'm trying to help you. Do these things and you will see a change. It may take time. But this is something your wife needs.
2007-10-18 12:08:38 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stop.... You need to giver her an ultimatum and then stick to it. You are in the same situation that I was in two yrs ago. Mine ended in a divorce. But I am happier now. Be a man and just move on, not worth the stress. And if she is talking to another man and lying about it then that should be reason enough.
Cant turn a ho into a house house wife, hos dont act right theres hos on a mission, and hos on the crack pipe. Hey ho how you doin where you been? Probrobly doin ho stuff cause there you ho again.
2007-10-18 12:02:03 · answer #3 · answered by southernstyle352 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you getting counseling? Are you sure she's lying? Sounds like you need to repair trust. Either she needs to be honest with you, if she's lying, or you need to restore trust in her if she's not. If she is "seeing" some other guy (no idea what you mean by that, but willing to assume you mean they have some level of intimacy) and won't be honest with you, then you don't have the stuff a good marriage is made of.
2007-10-18 12:04:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is lying to you and seeing someone on the side I say stop all contact and move on. She is not being fair to you. You are not a doormat you are a human being with feelings. I would start going out and dating other people because once one door closes another one opens up with a better person. good luck
2007-10-18 12:05:38 · answer #5 · answered by luvlisteningtomusic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do you mean by talking to another guy? Someone she has feelings for, and you think she is cheating on you? Or a friend and you are a little jealous about it? If she is still taking to this guy and you think that it is more than friends, then maybe you need to think about separation. Def. marriage counseling. I'm sorry you are going through this right now.
2007-10-18 12:02:10 · answer #6 · answered by sunnysideup 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to get counseling from some third party to see what is going on. it may be that she is unhappy with you for some reason and you need to change in some way that you are not even aware of. If she says she wants to work it out and yet talks to this other guy, she has to make up her mind which she wants and counseling may help her do that. I hope you can work this out for both of your sakes!!
2007-10-18 12:28:34 · answer #7 · answered by Al B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How can you be so sure she's lying? she might be telling the truth. And if she's not, why don't you just get divorced with her?? Because if she's lying about her seeing another guy, that's obviously a sign of she doesn't love you anymore! BECAUSE SHE WANTS TO BREAK UP!
2007-10-18 12:02:25 · answer #8 · answered by SimplyAwesome 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would get rid of her.It dosen't sound like shes being sincere.I know it may be hard at first & it'll hurt a lot when you end it,but it sounds like it's inevitable.Better now than later.After a period time you'll be glad you're rid of her & are moving on to better things.You deserve better than what you're getting.I don't know the ins & outs of your relationship but honesty is a very important thing in any relationship.If you can't trust your husband/wife who can you trust?
2007-10-18 12:03:19 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you sure she is doing all that?
Do you have any prove that she is lying to you?
If you do, you need to confront her and tell her that you don't like what she is doing and she needs to stop it immediately. You need to remind her that you love her very much and that is why you married her.
If you are having a relationship problem, I suggest you try fixing it soon before it is too late or see a marriage counsellor.
2007-10-18 12:23:26 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is she lien or do you just feel that she is? Its usually too hard for couples to work things out after one of the spouses has had another relationship. Try counseling
2007-10-18 12:02:58 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋