I was trying to reconcile with my spouse, after a three year seperation in which we have been together several times. Each time I found out he was with other woman at the same time, his excuse, "if he had a wife he wouldn't be with any other woman" " I put him in this spot" recently I have been seeing him, spending the night and I found out he is seeing someone else, I went the house they were in bed together. A mistake, I ended up forgiving him, spent time with him, I went up to the house last week and he wouldn't let me in, he was going to take a shower, other excuses. I knew he had that woman in there.last weekend I went to the bar where she worked, had a talk with her, I told he was lying to both of us. She admitted being there that day, & on several others, he comes & picks her up, she recieved a dozen roses on her birthday, a card, dinner with my husband. She came to the house 10/16 & we both faced him. he yelled for us to get out of his house. He called me ugly names.
2007-10-18 20:37:30 · 23 answers · asked by Nanna D 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He's a loser, a real jerk off...ditch the bum and give your heart to someone who will treat you with dignity and respect. ... and she's as bad as him because she KNOWS ....wtf? Loooosers (and users)
2007-10-18 20:43:25 · answer #1 · answered by "Train" 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I cannot believe you have to ask. Please get some counseling. You have low self-esteem, so don't take this wrong but you need to get to the root of why you allow yourself to be used. There is something in you that doesn't expect the best in a relationship and you are doomed to repeat this mistake in men over and over if you do not learn to love yourself and make better choices. Sure, he is your spouse, but you two are not together. He is not committed to you. I am so sorry, I know this hurts, but he is not a mirror of all guys, just some.
There are really great men in this world. After you talk to someone and figure out what it is that makes not expect to be treated great, you will be ready for the right man. There is someone out there that will treat you with love and respect and honor your vows. You just have to choose wisely. And you may meet some losers before you find that man, just resepect yourself and set boundaries, legs closed, mind open, head held high and honor intact.
2007-10-18 21:12:40 · answer #2 · answered by James Watkin 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-21 09:57:12 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Heehee. It just tickles me no end that you and this other woman confronted him. I am so sick of two women fighting over a man when we all know that it's the man's fault. And when they're fighting, the man just sits there luxuriously on the sidelines, as if he's got a harem somewhere. You and your new buddy did the right thing! Now, I hope the both of you go out & spread the word. The men won't be able to get away with any of this if we all stick together. LOL!!!
2007-10-18 20:44:55 · answer #4 · answered by Chiksita 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Girlfriend, you are a better person than this! In this day and age, we have enough to worry about without worrying about your man. Yes, he's a loser, and he won't change. You didn't say if you have kids with him or not, but it's no life for kids in a marriage like that. Find someone who will respect you, and love and cherish you. I was married to 2 losers, and I used to cry, and pray that God would send me a man that would love, and respect, and cherish me. And he did!! At 50 I found out what real love is, and you can too! Good Luck!
2007-10-18 21:04:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
For every failed relationship,always women have said to be the LOSER.You and other women were all losers.You were a victims of him.Anyway,for men,because they are men,there's nothing to lose if they are just playing.I consider that this Guy can only be a LOSER,if he lost one of you where he really loved most.How if he haven't really loved anyone of you?Get out of him and try to look for a better guy than him.If you found the better guy and showered you all the love and show to this man that you are happy and seriously be loved ,then that is the time he would be a REAL LOSER.
2007-10-18 20:58:13 · answer #6 · answered by Lucy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Geeze. I can't believe you would even try to get together after a three year separation! Your persistence (or love-blindness) is commendable.
You are correct. He is a looser, and he will continue to treat you in this disrespectful way as long as you allow him to. walk away girl and don't look back. Your power and self-worth are not being explored while you are being shadowed by this situation.
I hope that everything will work out for the greater good of all concerned. Good luck on your journey.
2007-10-18 20:47:30 · answer #7 · answered by kelstar 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you have already the answered your own question the real question should be why do you keep falling for this "loser" do some soul searching and find out what part of you doesnt feel that you deserve a relationship with some one who is faithful and trustworthy.
2007-10-18 20:44:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
In case you need anyone else's opinion: HE IS A LOSER. HE WILL NEVER CHANGE. HE IS BOORISH AND MEAN SPIRITED. HE MAKES CONSCIOUS CHOICES TO HURT YOU AS WELL AS OTHERS. HE IS A DESTRUCTIVE PERSON. IT WOULD BE COUNTER PRODUCTIVE FOR YOU TO NOT CUT YOUR LOSSES AND LEAVE. How many times are you going to put the loaded gun to your head and pull the trigger, before you finally do permanent damage? If you need a cause, join the Peace Corps. LEAVE THIS MAN. HE DOES NOT RESPECT YOU. HE NEVER WILL. HE WILL CONTINUE TO LIE TO YOU. YES. HE WILL. THERE ARE OTHER MEN OUT THERE WHO WILL NOT DO THIS TO YOU.
2007-10-18 20:45:55 · answer #9 · answered by maggieeld 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He is a loser and if you go back to him again that makes you a loser as well and he may well end up giving someone a disease they do not want, so better someone else than you. Get a divorce.
2007-10-18 20:45:59 · answer #10 · answered by Al B 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Umm, yeah, he's a huge loser!! He doesn't deserve you! It's funny how love can make us blind, I guess. To the rest of us, it's so obvious that this guy is a idiot who doesn't really deserve any woman. . . but since you love him, it's harder for you to see the truth. Stop forgiving him. It's tough to move on, but it's something that you have to do! Good luck!
2007-10-18 20:42:56 · answer #11 · answered by Misty Dawn 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋