OK, I'll try to make this as short and understandable as possible.
I met a guy back in 2002 and we dated shortly. It didn't work out, but we became best friends. We know everything about each other, we share secrets and talk about the people we date. Well, he dated this female 3 years ago who dogged him out really bad. Since then, he has had a very hard time being in relationships. Well, I told him a year ago that I wanted more from him and I thought that we would be good together. He said that he had been thinking about it too and he loved me, but he didn't want to ruin our friendship... especially since he and the girl that dogged him out used to be friends first. Well, a couple of weeks ago, he informed me that he is thinking about getting back with her.
I must admit that it sort of hurt my feelings, but at the same time, if that's what he wants...then by all means do it, but only blame yourself if it goes sour AGAIN! What would you do in this situation?
2007-10-18 20:55:50 · 8 answers · asked by Fireanddesir 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I have never chased after him! We spend a lot of time together and talk on the phone for hours. When we go out, he treats me like we are dating. He buys me gifts for my b-day and Christmas too. He always tells me how attractive I am and we have kissed on several occassions...all initiated by him.
2007-10-18 21:05:27 · update #1
he appears confused and indecisive in relations and thus not reliable. it will be alright to keep yr relation to plain friendship and nothing more.
2007-10-18 21:03:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's really disappointing to hear that. After what that girl has done to him, he still loves him. Sometimes there are things that really don't turn out the way we expect it to be.
If I were you, I wouldn't waste my time on him. I will move on and will look for someone who will really appreciate me and someone who will love me back.
It is quite hard to be just a friend from someone you love. Whew! Focus your attention from other things so that you won't get hurt. Keep in mind that he is just your friend, nothing very special (incase that they got together again).
2007-10-19 04:08:23 · answer #2 · answered by ayabrea_09 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would leave it as friends and look elsewhere for more because this person doesn't know what he wants and even if you were to be married you would always have to be worried he would be with someone else again. When you first dated, it didn't work out so now you have more evidence that a serious relationship with him will not work out. find someone who is there for you and no one else.
2007-10-19 04:05:36 · answer #3 · answered by Al B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing you can do but seat back and watch the show, and be there for him to pick the pieces up if it goes sour again.
As to you feeling disappointed I would to, I would tell him how you feel and let him know you are still your friend and try to move on with your life.
Good luck
2007-10-19 04:04:53 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No,you were not betrayed.He was too honest with you to say what he really feels.I am sure you got hurt,but that's life,dear.I feel that you love him.How about focusing yourself on loving another guy?Have confidence and faith to yourself that you can also find a better relationship.We can never controls other's feelings and decisions.
2007-10-19 04:06:36 · answer #5 · answered by Lucy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is your friend, then you support him and be his friend. A friend does not try to control the decisions of others, nor is a friend judgmental when their friend makes a mistake. If you are not his friend anymore, because you feel very rejected by him, because he chose someone else over you, for now, then tell him that you cannot be his friend anymore because you feel hurt and rejected, and mostly jealous.
2007-10-19 04:01:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would feel stupid, personally. He told you he didn't want to ruin your friendship:translation he was cornered and you wanted more than him and he didn't want to say it.
You need to find someone who wants you back. Love is not chasing after someone and making them love you .
2007-10-19 04:00:36 · answer #7 · answered by James Watkin 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
yes he using you
2007-10-19 04:01:36 · answer #8 · answered by sky 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋