Marriage & Divorce - 21 October 2007

A month ago I married a man with a four year old son (let's call him Johnny - not his real name). I began dating him when Johnny was 1.5 years old. I am very happily married and am completely in love with not only my husband, but also his son. He has custody of Johnny every other weekend and every Wednesday. Since we met I have gradually slipped into a "mommy" role when we have him. I do for/with Johnny all the things that a mother would do/be. I care for him the way I would care for my own child. My husband and I act as a two parent team, depending on eachother when Johhny is here. I feel that I am also raising his child along side him.

We recently had a heated argument about Johnny. I felt hurt when he said that the only people raising him were he and his ex-wife. Am I wrong for feeling like a parent? He is so comfortable with me doing the motherly duties, but claims that who I am will not impact Johnny's life. I guess I feel hut and underappreciated. Am I wrong?

2007-10-21 07:37:53 · 18 answers · asked by C.A.S. 2

2007-10-21 07:20:16 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous

the kids their money the house all of it is now mine. since we were in the middle of all this legal stuff & he died its all dropped right? the restraining order the divorce the custody fight all of it

2007-10-21 07:11:34 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous

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2007-10-21 07:01:58 · 34 answers · asked by Dulce K 1

2007-10-21 06:56:42 · 13 answers · asked by pwh 1

2007-10-21 06:46:12 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-10-21 06:45:40 · 5 answers · asked by ilih2006 1

My husband watches porn all the time, even at work. He and some of his coworker have purchased a laptop that they watch porn on...he belongs to several meet single website.....and has even called some of the people he has met.... I hate him for lying to me. I really get upset with the porn because we have 4 children -3 girls and 1 boy. I am afraid to leave the children along with him. I have told him how it makes me feel but his response to me is "it's what I do and I like it."
We have been married 16 years. I don't think I can go another 16...............He lies about where he goes, the website, even when he has been confronted with the truth. I hired a private investigator and he lied about pictures of himself and his special friend.

2007-10-21 06:41:39 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

Blissful happiness was worth all the practice.
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2007-10-21 06:38:51 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

We live on opposite sides of the U.S and my husband just found out that his daughter talks of wanting to commit suicide when she gets upset. She is 15 and we are so worried and don't know how to handle this-she lives with her very controlling,mentally abusive other parent and stays away from her home quite a bit and spends alot of her time at a friends house that she considers her best friend. We are confused as to an approach-normally parents (divorced) would try together for an intervention or some type of solution, but that is not possible with the other parent as this person is very irrational and would only blame instead of look for a solution-needless to say the parents are not on good speaking terms and a peaceful conversation is simply not possible. Any advice would be greatly appreciated. The teen has no idea that we know these details and we want to be able to pull her out of her dismay. We've offered for her to come and live with us before but it has only caused problems.

2007-10-21 06:36:31 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

My ex husbands girlfriend has been asked several times to stay in the car during drop off and pick up of my children. She and I had several falling outs and I really do not want her near me. I have emailed my ex regarding this and it is still an issue. She INSISTS on getting out of the car to get bags out of the back or to say goodbye to my children while at my house and has to come out of her house and get in my face when I have to go to his house. Is there anything that I can do to keep her from getting in my face? Is this a form or harrassment? Please help!! I really am at a loss here and need to know what my rights are.

2007-10-21 06:29:41 · 18 answers · asked by Beth B 1

He is now in Ft Jackson at basic training, and I am in Puerto Rico with the atm card from The Armed Force Bank but the account is in .00

2007-10-21 06:25:46 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am responsible for paying most all of the bills. I keep up with every dime that goes in and out of our checking account. I make all payment arrangements for our bills, if necessary. I go to work full-time just like he does. But when it comes time for him to remember something he can't do it. I am so stressed because I have to keep up with everything.

When I ask him "Did you put up the food" or "Did you pay your taxes or make arrangements" or "Did you call to have that late charge removed from your credit card bill (because it's his credit card and I'm not on the account)" he'll get upset and say "No, I forgot! Why didn't you remind me? You know I didn't do it so why are you asking me that?". He told me I like to point him out and there's no point in asking him about something that he can't do anything about now (because it's too late).

One time our lights were turned off because I forgot to make arrangements on the bill. What if I forgot to do something like that?

2007-10-21 06:17:17 · 9 answers · asked by Hoping he will bless me with #1 4

My boyfriend has always traveled a lot during our relationship because when we met, he was in the military. We were together for 4 years. Last year, when I was a couple of months pregnant, he said he was getting stationed in Germany and would be for the next 2 years. The last time I saw him was when I was 4 months pregnant. He said he was coming back in 5 days, and I haven't seen him since. I now have a 7 month old baby, and have come to find out that he's been married to a woman in the military, whom he lives with in Germany. Do I have any legal recourse? I am so irrate that he used me for so many years, and then left this beautiful child without a father. What legal action can I take, if any?

2007-10-21 06:12:58 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

ok lately dad is acting strange and signs of cheating is in the air so as a daughter what do you do your mom is a preacher too so do you step up or just keep to yourself you love both but you really feel deep about the problem that has been showing so do you tell or keep mouth shut? what if your not even right or what if you are on top of the truth? this one is confusing me bad.
thanks and hope someone has good answers.........

2007-10-21 06:08:35 · 16 answers · asked by daisy 4

My husband and I were married 3 months ago. We have been together, in total, over 7 years. We always knew we didn't match but we thought loving each other was enough. Since the marriage, things have all changed. I used to be able to overlook our differences because he used to "work at" our relationship. Since the marriage, I feel like I'm doing all the "work". He used to thank me for doing things. Now he acts like he expects me to do it because that's what wives do. He tries to boss me around, he doesn't help as much as he used to, he acts like he's a king and I'm some kind of slave. To make matters worse, I work at home and he is unemployed and we have a 2 year old son. Not only am I trying to do my job, but I'm trying to take care of a house and my son and the bills and he acts like nothing is wrong. He gives me money from his savings and he thinks that's enough. I feel like we are heading for divorce, already. Is this just "new marriage" stuff like my family says? Help!

2007-10-21 05:59:27 · 14 answers · asked by Betty 1

My husband lost his job 3 months ago. He's been interviewing and actively looking for a full time job. He's had no success. During this time he has become more and more distant. He recently told me he didn't love me romantically anymore an wanted a divorce. However, he wants the house. He can't afford the house without my contributions. My mother is a lawyer and advised that I get out immediately and stop putting money into the house. I want to get this over with as soon as possible but I also want to be humane about it. He wants me to wait til he has a job, mom wants me to leave now and put the house up for sale... She feels that his parents can afford to make the payments for him. I'm so stressed!! He and I are not angry with each other and are in agreement to divorce...I have no problem sleeping in 2 parts of the house until he finds a job and continuing to pay part of the mortgage. (his parents pay his part) WHAT SHOULD I DO?

2007-10-21 05:59:21 · 13 answers · asked by bsg_22 1

Before I even explain anything, please do not accuse me of being jealous. I have no reason whatsoever to be jealous of my mother inlaw. We actually get along really well, but there are some things that bug me.

1) Whenever we go to their house to visit (which is an hour away) my husband has to call her the minute we get into our house to let her know we made it. Every single time. If he doesn't she calls him and gets upset because he didn't call. But he makes it a point to keep her in the loop.

2) Whenever we go somewhere, say out to eat or we go to a movie and it's late, he will call her as soon as we get out the movie or as soon as we get home to tell her we made it and that we're in the for the night. He'll actually say "Well we made it home and we're in the for the night and we're in the bed.".

2007-10-21 05:56:46 · 9 answers · asked by Hoping he will bless me with #1 4

Just wondering what S&M (as in sex with whips and stuff) stands for? What is the S and what is the M?

2007-10-21 05:52:33 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

ok i'm now engaged to her ex husband and we live together. he has a 4 yr old daughter and she's totally untrained. i have opened my house up to the mother to see where her daughter is spending 3 days a week with us. my dead line is now 10/31/07 after that she's not welcome. i'm sick of her game playing. she won't drop the child off at the house. it's all out of spite. i feel this will put a real toll on our relationship. i feel it now.

2007-10-21 05:50:51 · 25 answers · asked by msjchill38 2

im married man now yet i still love my ex, what will i do?

2007-10-21 05:47:56 · 8 answers · asked by Sunday B 1

On a whim, I asked my wife about whether or not she had been with larger men in the past, and she said no. But then one night when we were out (drinking) with some friends of hers from college, somehow the topic of penises came up, and one of her friends blurted out that she figured I must have a large penis "because Susan married me" (not her real name).

Well, I don't have a large penis (I'm average) but this certainly got me thinking. So I asked my wife and she admitted that a long-term boyfriend in college had a big penis (nine inches) and that she didn't tell me because she didn't want to hurt my feelings, and she said it wasn't all that anyway. So, again, all good. However, the next time I saw the friend who spilled the beans I asked her what she meant, she said that Susan had a few "large" boyfriends in college. So I asked Susan, and apparently another boyfriend was also large, she said eight inches or so.

Isn't this an unusual coincidence if she really isn't into that?

2007-10-21 05:44:00 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

He said it was because the old mattress hurt his back.But he still ends up on the sofa most nites. I should say he works until 11pm and gets home around midnite. He has lots of excuses. Too tired to shower. Too tired to get up after watching tv for awhile. Says I am hogging the bed so he does not want to bother me to crawl in. What do you think. Only married 2 years.

2007-10-21 05:29:54 · 13 answers · asked by Aloha_Ann 7

We don't really talk anymore! Don't get me wrong, we DO get on, but the good times are getting few and far between!
She's always getting messages on her cell phone, which she says are from family members, but sometimes she reads the messages out loud, and other times she doesn't!!
As for sex... we barely manage it once a week, and then it's pretty poor at best.. no kissing, no foreplay.. nothing!!

I don't mean to moan behind her back, I just REALLY wanna know what I should do?!?!

2007-10-21 05:25:08 · 40 answers · asked by Barry D. 1

I have to clean their mess up when they come over for football on Sundays and they leave drink cans and chips on the floor and if they spill something they just wipe it up with a napkin and the furniture is still stained or the floor is sticky. My husband doesn't want to say anything b/c they are his friends but he doesn't understand how much cleaning up I do. I figure since I make all the snacks and meals for them atleast they could be less messy, you know?

2007-10-21 05:21:49 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-10-21 05:20:18 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-10-21 05:09:18 · 45 answers · asked by Page 4

i'm currently in a custody battle with my (ex) husband. He makes more money than i do, lives in a nicer area, and i'm on anti-depressents for bipolar disorder. but i love my kids more than anything in the world and i CANNOT stand for seeing them every wednesday and every other weekend. How do i get majority custody? i'm so scared. i can't lose my babies.

2007-10-21 05:07:34 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have noticed over the years my husband semes to resent my son. He is 13 years old. My husband and I have a son together and he shows favortism to his son rather than my son. Just recently he and my son exchanged words now it semes that my husband is angry at me, we havent spoken since this happened. Im not sure as to what to do. I am afraid this will break us up and in the back of my mind I know this will get much worse before it gets better. As my son gets older he will start resenting me for not sticking up for him...! please help. I dont know what I should do.

2007-10-21 05:05:35 · 25 answers · asked by laura r 2

Serious people only...
I love my boyfriend ( with all my heart)... but I cheated on him.

He went away for a year and while he was gone I cheated on him (once & once only). After I did it I knew I was wrong. I already told him and we talked and cried about it and all the emotional stuff. Some things where even admitted on his side. Now our relationship is better then it has ever been. Crazy but true. We talk about everything well... Almost everthing...

Here's the problem... the sex is not the same. this is hard to admit... but it's not like it used to be ( like before i sleeped with the other guy). He seems to not noticed any difference, but i do...It doesn't feel as GREAT as it used to. I am NOT very experinced in the sex department except for with him and this other. We have even tried new moves and positions.

Basically, will our sex life go back to the way it used to be and how do i get it there.

It dosen't really matter, but ... in a way... it does matter

2007-10-21 05:04:49 · 13 answers · asked by *~*Lady_bug*~$ 2