ok lately dad is acting strange and signs of cheating is in the air so as a daughter what do you do your mom is a preacher too so do you step up or just keep to yourself you love both but you really feel deep about the problem that has been showing so do you tell or keep mouth shut? what if your not even right or what if you are on top of the truth? this one is confusing me bad.
thanks and hope someone has good answers.........
2007-10-21 06:08:35 · 16 answers · asked by daisy 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
As bad as it may seem,and your dad is giving all the signs that he is having an affair the best person too talk too first would have too be him,,,what if you told your mum what you were feeling and it was completely false it would cause one heck off a stink in the household,,,Talk to your dad first then go from there,if it is that he is having an affair,you have every right too tell your mother as she has a right too know off cause, good luck with what ever you decide to do this cannot be an easy one for you,xxx
2007-10-21 06:23:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
Well, sometimes we over analyze and think things that aren't actually happen, so I wouldn't jump to conclusions just yet.
First, what are these signs of cheating that you're noticing? You should explain them to us at answers so that we can get a better idea of what you believe he's doing that proves he's cheating.
Next step, I'd discuss it with your mother, but don't tell her that it's true, just tell her that you have that feeling and explain why.
He could be cheating but then again he might not be.
After you tell her, it's up to her to decide what she's going to do because it's her marriage.
2007-10-21 06:40:50 · answer #2 · answered by ♪Msz. Nena♫ 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think I would ask you Mom what are some of the signs of cheating. If she gives you a list and none of them are ones your father is showing then drop it, it's all in your mind. If she mentions one or two that your Dad is showing, say, naw "Dad does that" and leave her with this seed of discontent sown, and realize that if you are wrong and he isn't cheating, you've just bared false witness on an innocent man. Then "you" get to reap the fruits of "your" labor!
2007-10-21 06:16:05 · answer #3 · answered by delux_version 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i think I would continue to watch and see what happens. If you notice that he is acting strange she probably does also and may need your support if she decides to confront him about that, or she may not want to do anything about it because of the fact that she is a preacher - you said too so I assume that he is a preacher? He may even be meeting with a member of his church group for a problem they have and acting strange for fear of anyone finding out about their problems. yuo might ask him about it but I wouldn't go to your mother yet until you have something definite to tell her and perhaps not even then.
2007-10-21 06:28:56 · answer #4 · answered by Al B 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
But you don't know for sure. If you tell her that he's cheating and he's not then you just upset everyone. Why don't you talk to your mom and ask her if SHE has noticed that your dad has been acting different lately, but do NOT say he's cheating.
2007-10-21 06:13:57 · answer #5 · answered by Spring 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
you can not tell something on a hunch. unless you caught dad in the act.. you cannot even consider... considering to tell. also if it is true. what would you do.? should you go to dad first.. and give him chance to tell. i would give him deadline..to tell. or i will. maybe mom already knows..and does not want to address it... believe it.. or does not care. especially if she is minister..she may not think divorce is an option. if you think dad is acting strange ..it must be obvious to mom . but again.. say nothing on a hunch.
2007-10-21 06:24:43 · answer #6 · answered by foosieboy1953 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Hmm that's a tough one. I would just tell your mom that your father has been acting very suspicious lately. I wouldn't say he is cheating unless you have some direct evidence.
2007-10-21 06:13:57 · answer #7 · answered by prettyblueeyes101010 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Don't tell her unless you're sure. The only way to be sure is to ask your dad.
Has he done this before? If so, and even if not, your mom probably has seen signs. Sometimes we just chose to ignore them, because it's easier than dealing.
2007-10-21 06:31:41 · answer #8 · answered by Answer Annie 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You may have lived long enough to recognize the signs of cheating.......but maybe you haven't lived long enough to know that a women knows her man...........if he's cheating she already knows it........and she will take care of it in her own way........and when she's ready she will tell you.
I would warn your dad.......because men always think they are fooling thier wives.....but in the end they end up the fool!
2007-10-21 06:32:25 · answer #9 · answered by pirate 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
id say ask your dad about it first and if he denys it then ask him why hes being so strange and ask ur mom if she sees how different hes been acting and then tell her she should confront him about whats wrong
2007-10-21 06:12:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋