I have to clean their mess up when they come over for football on Sundays and they leave drink cans and chips on the floor and if they spill something they just wipe it up with a napkin and the furniture is still stained or the floor is sticky. My husband doesn't want to say anything b/c they are his friends but he doesn't understand how much cleaning up I do. I figure since I make all the snacks and meals for them atleast they could be less messy, you know?
2007-10-21 05:21:49 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Your husband should be cleaning up the mess his friends make.
Talk to your hubby before his next get-together. Tell him either he keeps on top of the mess or he cleans it after they leave. Then go out to a dinner and a movie with your friends. Let your husband know you'll be home when the mess is under control. Good luck.
2007-10-21 05:28:21 · answer #1 · answered by katydid 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Where do you get the idea that you are obligated to clean up after a bunch of raucous renegade adults. You are not the galley wench so get out of the mind frame that you are. Seems you've been far too nice for far too long and niceness is no longer an option. So, they're your husbands friends, they make the mess, your husband cleans it up. Simple. If you get no cooperation then no more snacks or meals. And not for nothing, is your house the only place that these adult acting kids can have their Sunday mess fests or won't their SO's tolerate it? It's not a question of "boys will be boys" but rather basic respect for the one who provides the perks. Friends or not, your husband needs to say something and realize that you are his wife and not some second class citizen when it comes down to how you are treated especially in the home that belongs to you both.
2007-10-21 06:14:02 · answer #2 · answered by quantumview 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here's what you do.
Next time the guys come over, stand in front of them and say, "Hey guys, do you like the snacks & meals I prepare?" When the say yes, tell them in a fun yet demanding way.. "Ok, well there won't be anymore of that if you guys don't clean up after yourself! All I ask is use a coaster, clean up your spills, and don't leave food on my floor! Thanks!"
Also, set some towels, coasters, and a little trash can next to the sofa.. so there should be NO excuses.
2007-10-21 05:48:59 · answer #3 · answered by ♪Msz. Nena♫ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's nothing wrong with asking your husband's friends to be cleaner when they are in YOUR home. But you don't want to come off as too annoyed when you talk to them, so as your bringing out the snacks or whenever you walk into the room first, just say something playfully like, "Alright boys. I just cleaned this carpet. So do me the favor, have clean fun ok?" That should do the trick. Plus, men's friends usually give the utmost respect to they're friends' wives and their wishes. They may not know that YOU are the one who cleans every Sunday. After you tell them, they will probably do it every time. Good luck doll~
2007-10-21 06:25:47 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't make the snacks or the meals any more until they clean up after themselves what kind of people are they to come to your home and not even have the respect for you to clean behind themselves that's common sense they are not your children they are guest in your home even if they are your husbands friend and as for him I wouldn't let him off to easy because he would be doing the cleaning after they left so he can see how hard of a job it is to clean up after other GROWN A** people it's nothing pretty and it's very frustrating to have to clean up after grown men that should know better your husband needs to get a spine or he should be the one pushing the mop and broom next sports night.
2007-10-21 05:55:09 · answer #5 · answered by Spacious 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, if your husband cares more about his friends feelings, than yours...there is a problem in itself. Second, quit making all the snacks...doesn't sound like it is very much appreciated anyways.
I would just tell them as they come in..in a polite way..make sure you clean up your mess before you leave..or something like that.
I'd tell my husband that he can't have his friends over if they are going to leave a mess for you to clean up. Maybe they can move their "football get togethers" somewhere else..
2007-10-21 05:29:53 · answer #6 · answered by luvmybabies 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A simple deal with your husband will solve the dilemma. Since you obviously donate the time and effort of making snacks for the entertainment, tell him that the cleaning is not for free for his friends providing that he expects you to do it. If your rules of the house are that cleaning is one of your responsibilities then simply tell your husband that each game or event that you have to clean is subject to a $250.00 cleaning charge for his friends, paid in advance of the event. Then after cleaning up after the pigs, take yourself to get your hair done and a new outfit and lunch with a girlfriend. He will either pay or take the event elswhere, either way you win.
2007-10-21 08:24:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all your husband has his friends over to the house you make all the snacks and they leave a mess behind since they are your husbands friends than let him clean up after them.
I wouldnt tell his friends anything just him if he wants them over than he needs to clean up behind them thats it.
best of luck
2007-10-21 13:40:46 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just say it... guys, I would appreciate it if you would clean up the mess. And get your husband to clean up one time so he sees how much work it is.
2007-10-21 07:10:08 · answer #9 · answered by growing inside 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is wrong with your husband telling his friends to clean up after themselves? What is wrong with your husband pitching in and helping you to clean up period? In my house there would be no buddies over on football night if "hubby" couldn't help clean up afterwards.
2007-10-21 06:22:45 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋