Why do men have better instinct at knowing who "the one" is?

Question

It seems that guys have a stronger instinct or just KNOW when the girl is 'the one" ALOT more than girls...most girls i know didn't know the their husbands were "the one" right away but eventually they knew...their husbands "knew" off the bat...

has this happened to you too? and why?

Answer 1

Apparently, my wife knew right away and I didn't for awhile. I liked her when we first met and we became close but to tell you the honest truth, one day after we were married I suddenly realized that I was "in love" with her. There was no "falling", just one day realized it had grown way past the comfort level and I felt scared and very vulnerable because I knew she was my life.
She had drawn me in with her looks, kept me there with lust, and went in for the entrapment.

Answer 2

You seem to have a strong personality. It seems the girls you know have strong personality, or are dominant for the most part. It looks like you and your friends/girls, date nice-guys, any woman for a nice guy is "the one" and will be after those girls no matter what. Is just who you are, and the friends you have. A smart man, doesn't think she is "the one" until way later and that's way later after the woman wish to settle down.

Another thing, "the one", such a thing doesn't exist. That is a cultural thing and if I'm not wrong, I haven't heard it exist in any other country except United States and I haven't checked in Europe.

Countries with men that have 25 wifes I'm pretty sure "the one" doesn't exist. And where I am from, doesn't exist either, we get married with just one person, but doesn't exist "the one", you just happen to find one person you like, fell in love, and then you get married, is as simple as that. But here in north america, I have no clue why they believe there is "the one" out there and is a matter of finding each other lol.

Answer 3

Because of the physical attraction. There was a blast-off during the initial sexual encounters that tells us guys you're the one. We don't try to complicate it with things such as "is he going to be helping with the dishes in five years?".

From a purely biological standpoint, since we are animals, the female of the species has alot to be invested in such a union. With a limited supply of reproductive chances, there has to be a stronger selection of the mate, so as to up the chances of furthering the bloodline. Other factors females of the species consider are protection, support, provision, etc., while the male gets a far greater release of endorphins from some mates than others. At least that is what partially governs the lifelong mating of a few species of animals.

Who really knows, but you do see it all the time.

Answer 4

I think for guys we have a good grasp on when we just see someone as sexually attractive. So when a girl comes along that triggers the heart strings, it is really very different. The sex thing becomes very second place, and so we say whoa.. this is a different feeling. Whereas girls grow up in a culture of feeling like they are in love with just about every guy they date. Head games and all this constant second guessing (just read the dating section of YA) and they start it very very young. So they have been 'in love' about a hundred times before something real comes along. Really and truly, guys only fall in love 3 times in their whole life from birth to grave no matter how many girlfriends they have. So in a crazy kind of way, we are more able to see a real deep emotion because we don't spend so much time invested in the 'game' of emotion. Most of our 'gaming' has to do with sex. I know that sounds shallow, but I'm just being honest. I've been married about 20 yrs now, and I knew from the very first conversation I had with my wife that I would never ever find anyone like her again and that I had to be with her forever. From guys I've talked to, more guys find genuine love at first sight than girls do.

Answer 5

I think it is because generally women take less risks, and want to get to know someone better and assess them before they jump right in. In general, men are more willing that women to go for a relationship, and this is an evolutionary trait. Men have less to lose if the relationship goes bad. They don't have to birth a child or really look after it, they don't have a potentially risky pregnancy taking nutrients out of their bodies, they don't have to find enough food and water for two people, and will not be held back by a small child of danger comes.

These are all things our ancestors have had to face, and they are evolved into our insticts. Men are way more willing to sleep with someone new, as well, it has been proven in a study, because they instinctively know that there will be less bad things for them to deal with if it goes wrong.

It's all biological.

Answer 6

If a man is really interested in a woman, he doesn't mind waiting; in fact, often he prefers it. Women sometimes express concern about whether or not a relationship will ever get off the ground if there is no sex at the beginning. There is no question that sex moves a relationship to new plateau, but a smart woman know that she doesn't want to get to the new plateau until she is sure that's where she wants to be. So it is a little of both.

Answer 7

No, no, no. Women have better instinct and they sure know how to use it and manipulate the man into thinking that he had the right instinct to spend the life with her. The ocean has less depth than a woman's mind.

Answer 8

Actually, I am the one with the "zero IN" nose for a good spouse. Not just for me either.

I can just look in the eyes of the person and within minutes I can tell the exactly if they are the right one for you. I did it for others for years, never on myself, never thought to "use" it on myself. I had been single so long in my mid thirties and actually was very happy.

I saw my husband walking in a crowd of people at a large outdoor event. I grabbed my friend and ran up to him and started talking to him. I can talk to anyone at anytime [no fear]. We exchanged business cards. As I walked away I said "plain as day" that is the man I'm going to marry. My friend laughed, RIGHT- I stopped turned her around-looked her straight in the eyes and said "I'm not joking, watch me".

Two days later we went on our first date and last week we celebrated our ten year wedding anniversary with our two kids.

So "love at first sight" does happen!
I'm a minister and teacher. You just need to be ready for the right person by being the Best person you can be, when they show up. There is not such thing as two halves make a whole, it is two "Wholes" that form a "power couple".

Best wishes to you.

Answer 9

yes - shortly after I met my wife, I knew she was THE ONE for me. it was as clear as can be. I believe that a man chooses his wife or that God communicates to the man who his wife will be. since the man is the head of his household. God will communicate to the man and not to the woman. I think so anyway.

This was how it happened for me. I knew without a doubt that she was the one that I was supposed to marry. There was no doubt at all.
I was 31 when I married, and I never got that about anyone else I knew. but when I met her it was very obvious she was the one for me.

but of course I'm not sure now because she died last year and I'm pretty much not sure what's going to happen now. :( :( :(

Answer 10

I don't think we actually do have any "instinct" at knowing who "the one" is. As a mental health practitioner with 20+ years experience, now retired, I have come to believe that men may act more impulsively, and claim that some girl is "the one", oftentimes just to get in bed with her. God Bless you.