I've known one of my cousins friends for 14 years, I was really young the first time we met. He was the only who would take time out to talk to me unlike the rest of my cousins friends who were all at least 7 years older than me. Recently my aunt passed away and me and him are both married and we each have a son. We've been leaning on each other for support and he actually comes over and we talk about everything. I still after all these years have a crush on him. Am I getting into something wrong or can we just be friends that help each other out? By the way he was the one who wanted to come over to my house to see my son who's 7 weeks old. Yes, my husband knows about it. I don't know how his marriage is except I've heard she's a mean mother to their child.
2007-10-21 17:44:04 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If you have a crush And still love your husband get out of the temptation before you screw up your whole familys lives
2007-10-25 21:51:12 · answer #1 · answered by cblack6540 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should find the Support you Need in your Husband!! Not a guy friend that you still have a Crush On!! That is just asking for trouble!! Your husband should be there for you in that time of need and you should be Crying on his shoulder and Not someone else"s! You need to talk to your man , does he know you have a crush on this guy too? If he did i don't think he'd want him coming to your house!! And he should always be around when the guy is there!! just to be safe! Mine wouldn't put up with that i know!!
2007-10-22 01:06:40 · answer #2 · answered by monkeymomma46 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
leave it alone girl .. u will only cause hurt to your husband if u continue. u cant take hold of fire without getting burnt .. u may feel he is attractive and the thoughts can run wild . i suggest you listen up or you wont have a marriage .. sexual attraction is not love ,
leave these fantasies alone and temptation will leave . we are drawn to a temptation we personally are attrackted to untill we either dismiss it or give into it . its dangerous to keep thinking about another man reguardless of what his marriage is like . u committed yourself to this man now be faithful to him in action and in thought .
ITS our uncontrolled thoughts that lead us into doing that which we know is wrong! mj ; ps that is found in the book of james in the bible
2007-10-22 01:11:56 · answer #3 · answered by mjbrightergem33 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
this sounds like an emotional affair. You need to put a little distance between the 2 of you before it becomes a sexual affair and you both end up in divorce court
2007-10-26 01:36:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
there nothing wrong with being friends with someone that give
you the support that you need. but you should be honest with
your self , if you feel that it can become a problem then may
you need to leave it along. other wise you both might start
somthing that you cant finish.
2007-10-22 00:56:09 · answer #5 · answered by luckystar 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Its ok to be support and have a friendship but you need to be responsible enough to know how to restrain. If you feel your getting too deep, know when to pull back. Carelessness gets people into trouble.
2007-10-22 00:49:35 · answer #6 · answered by Britt 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Please don't confuse love with the mourning process you are both going through, I married a man when we were both mourning and the trouble it started in both families was not worth it, he left me after 1year and 1day, when there was no money left.
2007-10-26 06:51:28 · answer #7 · answered by Blond Bits 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep it at just being friends.
2007-10-22 01:03:29 · answer #8 · answered by mikk 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
back off or your headed for trouble
2007-10-22 07:28:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋