My husband and I have just lost our home in foreclosure and are in serious debt. To help us out his dad gave us a car. We decided to sell it to earn some extra money. His cousin was looking for an economical car in order to commute to work so he bought it from us or so my husband told me. Months later I asked him about it and he admitted he gave it away. I was so mad. As it was, I really didn't like his cousin because their friendship has put a strain into our relationship so this even made it worse. Before this when I gave birth to our first son I had told my husband that I didn't want anyone to stay over our house the first week because I wanted to enjoy our son. Well, he didn't listen and invited his cousin and he spent the weekend over. I had just given birth and I asked him something so simple but he refused to listen. He refuses to apologize and says that he wont jeopardize his friendship? Help? How do I communicate how I feel?
2007-10-25 19:35:13 · 10 answers · asked by nancy f 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Tell him tha dishonesty will diminish the love in a relationship. Eventualy you will neither trust him or love him if he continues to lie to you and be inconsiderate of your feelings. It is a matter of repect and disrespect. You do not have his respect. Put your foot down before you end up divorced.
2007-10-25 19:40:47 · answer #1 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Join the club, life is tough for many and everyone has their problems. Communication is important, but not yelling and screaming and complaining. Solve problems, don't create them. Be open and honest and civil as an adult with respect and talk about things that are important to you. I can imagine he is also keyed up and has a lot to deal with. Right now his friend is a sounding board for him to try and cope and figure things out. Do you have someone to talk to about these things you are concerned about?
2007-10-25 19:48:22 · answer #2 · answered by RT 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can't change your man! you have already communicated how you felt and so did he. you have to fully understand where he's coming from and try to compromise if your serious about doing the right thing for your family. he won't apologize because he feels he hasn't done anything wrong according to his beliefs. your not going to get your way but maybe he would be willing to meet you half way if you can show that you understand him. good luck! marriage is HARD WORK!!!!!
2007-10-25 19:45:52 · answer #3 · answered by honey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
love and trust go hand in hand. With out one, you aren't going to have the other for very much longer.
I don't remember the exact quote but explain it to him like this. To tell a lie is to deal the greatest insult. Does he really think so poorly of you? Does he really want to jeapordize all that you have together?
2007-10-25 20:12:30 · answer #4 · answered by Ista 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you like his cousin? Honestly you can't change this man. With the financial problems that you had and then he decides to give the car away? I believe........ indeed blood is thicker than water.
2007-10-25 22:59:50 · answer #5 · answered by mwilaeuzaih 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Each man is different.You have to know what makes him to listen.It seams like the cousin is more important than you and he gets through him and you don't.I would totally ignore the cousin,specially when he comes in between you.When he is there and you don't him to be there,take your baby and lock yourself in the room until he is gone.With my husband,i don't talk to him much,i don't smile at all and it kills him when i sleep in my kids bedroom.That is when he asks me whats wrong.And i go on...............
2007-10-25 20:11:31 · answer #6 · answered by avavu 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him how you feel. I understand he has a friendship with his cousin. However, you are his wife and his loyalty should be to you. If that doesn't work, suggest marriage counseling.
2007-10-25 23:46:39 · answer #7 · answered by Kay S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him straight, frank and simple.
2007-10-25 20:20:08 · answer #8 · answered by Stansky 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Change the locks, that'll get his attention.
2007-10-25 19:38:34 · answer #9 · answered by MHnurseC 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really should expect so much more from him.
2007-10-25 19:59:18 · answer #10 · answered by bahl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋