Marriage & Divorce - 25 October 2007

Having an Ex in today's society is almost akin to a status symbol. I feel left out. I want one too. Can anyone help me...?

2007-10-25 07:02:19 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

My sister lives in North Carolina and I live in West Virginia. She lives about 5 - 6 hours away. My husband has this weekend off and my mom invited me and my husband to go to my sisters house with her, so she didn't have to go alone. He won't go because he doesn't want to have to deal with my sisters roommates 3 kids. I haven't been to her house in a little over 2 years, because he won't go. I've begged him to go, and I can't go without him... personal reasons. But Then he pulls this BS of "well when she comes in she doesn't make the effort to come and see you. So why should we drive 5 - 6 hours to go see her when we'll just get stuck babysitting anyways." She's only able to come in for 2 days at a time. And to make it easy for her we usually go to my moms to see her since she just lives down the road. He says I'm being selfish. But I don't think I am. My mom even told him that he could take the car and go site seeing, since he's never been to North Carolina. But he still won't go.

2007-10-25 06:58:28 · 14 answers · asked by Kaye 1

On the Headline News, Nancy Grace was talking about this woman who was driving her vehicle with her two children, and she was drunk. It is all over the news, she is looking at a year in jail. This is her second offense, same thing different day. However, if this was a guy who had drove drunk with his kids he would probably be looking at life in prison without the possibility of parole. The laws are so different for men than women. Did you know that when it comes to child support, a guy has to pay something like 44% of the average income in his state? If a woman ever had to pay child support to a man she only has to pay 23%. Where is the justification of that? I believe that the law looks at women as homemakers or something. Where is this equality that they sought when they wanted to vote? Why is their such a difference? In every aspect of life, from approval of a loan, to child support, to sex, to whatever, why is society like this, and why doesn't someone fix it?

2007-10-25 06:56:10 · 11 answers · asked by Living In Fast Forward 4

She broke up with me last week and she sent all the gifts that i bought her back to me to me, what should i do?
I really really feel insulted, bcz i loved her and i spent so much time when i bought those gifts. Even thought they are not the best but it was the best i could afford.
Does this mean she doesent love me anymore?
Do you think if i call her i will put myself down?
We have been with each other for almost three years i dont know if i should call her or if i should do the same thing she did to me. Please help me! i am so sad

2007-10-25 06:53:06 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous

My neighbor always finds someways to put his hands on my? He has only did it a couple of times, once in front of his wife, so I didnt pay it any attention. But yesterday after our kids got on the bus he grabbed the back of my neck playfully and let his hand fall down my back and pulled away right before he touched my butt. It was very uncomfortable, what should I think? Was he just playing around? Either way I know my husband would totally try to kill him, so I didnt mention it, dont really need the drama. What should I do? BTW, I know Im attractive, but I dont flirt. His wife says he likes teasing me, but I dont think she would of liked it. We just moved in a few months ago and I really like the neighborhood and other neighbors and I dont dislike him, I just dont want him touching me.

2007-10-25 06:50:28 · 17 answers · asked by Sweetpea 2

2007-10-25 06:49:44 · 14 answers · asked by ameeker 3

Many marriages end because of outside interference. Why is this?

2007-10-25 06:46:16 · 25 answers · asked by 504hotboy 1

Today my wife went to work, to drop of a gift, in a trouser suit, and as she walked in a guy (18) said ''wow, you look hot!).

He works with her and to be honest, it made her day.

I'm going away for a week with work tomorrow and I guess I'm just being paranoid.

My wife is 30 and I'm 37 (the little git is 18!!).

Should I be worried?

Also, she has a works do for the girl she bought a gift for on Saturday, and I'm encouraging her to go as she does not go out much.

I'm kicking myself, even though I trust her, as she does not drink and I think she could be led astray..

2007-10-25 06:39:06 · 52 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am thinking about divorcing my husband. He has been abusive in the past (over a year ago), has not worked the majority of our marriage, has used drugs, cheated, etc. He recently turned things around as in got a job, stopped using drugs, and has been doing good for about three months now. However, he is still a jerk and verbally abusive toward me. We have one child together and one coming in two months. How long does the process take, about how much does it cost, and what will I have to do to have full custody with no visitation?

2007-10-25 06:38:53 · 7 answers · asked by allie s 1

If you could get married abroad, why would you and where would you?

2007-10-25 06:38:07 · 9 answers · asked by :) 1

When you are aware of one of their groups cronic Hepititis C infection. Should I say something to them or the the health department? They have small children and I'm afraid that they are in danger.

Sex is a natural experience with adults and should be enjoyed but the exposure in this group can lead to serious health problems even death.

What should I do, if anything, or let them have their fun now and pay later?

2007-10-25 06:35:22 · 28 answers · asked by Mystical Oracle 2

My husband of 20 years and I have had our ups and downs in the last few years. We nearly separated a couple of times. During a discussion last night, he accused me of talking to people about him. I admitted I had, but not for a year. I asked if he had talked to anyone about me. He said no, but I could tell he was lying. He splits hairs, so I asked it several different ways. He said no. Later, he said he had talked to a friend (who I know of, but do not know and never see). Why would he have lied about this? I was actually asking because his former secretary called him last Sat nite when I was out with the kids. There are several calls between them on his phone over the last few weeks - on Thurs and Fri at the end of the day.

2007-10-25 06:31:48 · 17 answers · asked by xxxxxxxxx 4

if your ex wanted you back (which i hear happens a lot) did it make you want them if they were all crying, begging you to come back and so forth or did it make you want them more if they really showed you absolutely no attention at all and totally went on with their life not even contacting you. Now i know a lot of people could care less so this is a question for the folks that separated and ended up getting back together really.

2007-10-25 06:28:57 · 12 answers · asked by survivor 1

2007-10-25 06:27:42 · 18 answers · asked by pepsi 1

...my husband and I have 3 children and by the end of the day, we're so over it all, we really have nothing to talk about...and frankly, we're clueless. I need some really good ideas! I am SO BORED with my life! We love each other - but we're like, bored.

2007-10-25 06:24:04 · 11 answers · asked by Stephunny 3

Just asking! No offense. Are some married women attracted to other women in some kind of way during their marriage? I hear a lot of this online and on TV. How true or false is this?

2007-10-25 06:23:53 · 25 answers · asked by 504hotboy 1

Okay the LAST court order says exactly this!

petitioner shall have the following visitation

1. Any day the children are at the first baptist child development center, from 2-5 p.m. with 24 hour advance notice

2. If and when the Respondend finds an appropriate third party to supervise visitation, father will have supervised visitation every other weekend on Saturdays between 9am and 5pm

Further it is ordered that he complete 52 hour anger management, register for the next class. Continue counseling, and at cope, and stay on his medication


"which he has not proven yet to the court or myself that he has done anything"

The kid's are no longer at the daycare due to my schedule changing. Son is also in school till 2:30

SO..I sent him this proposal..

In order to keep your supervised visitations i am proposing this due to a work schedule change and school starting. Mc donalds from 3-5 (due to those 2 things) I or someone I have picked will supervise you.
He signed and dated.

2007-10-25 06:23:32 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous

Any good advice on how to put this behind me, or just some short encouragement?

2007-10-25 06:21:12 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-10-25 06:20:11 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

I got married last year and since I came back from India everything started to change than than when my husband got here things were as I thought it would be but still I was trying to our marriage out but from past three weeks thing are just getting worse and worse..He has been fighting with me and also lying that he is at work but his always out partying with his cousins and thier girlfriends and then just yesterday he calls me and said that he wants a divorce so he get his freedom and also he is not ready for the resposibility yet becuz he wants to enjoy his life in USA....and maybe after 2 or 3 yrs he might think about our marriage n all..Just to all the people who r going to give their advise he hasn't stayed with me from the day he has arrived in America...Pliz help me figure out what can I do..

2007-10-25 06:19:14 · 27 answers · asked by kajal c 4

Only using common household items....
I've done the posted notes with little clues, but want something different this time.
Please don't tell me to clean, or make dinner, or something like that. I need something that she'll talk about not for that day, but hopefully for the rest of the week!

2007-10-25 06:14:21 · 21 answers · asked by BoxcutterBenny2086 2

Ok. when you ask a man a question that you know the answer to. Why do they get all excited and upity and then lie to you? they know you know the answer, but still lie. Is it their way of believing their lies?

2007-10-25 06:03:15 · 20 answers · asked by knowwhatyoumean 1

Ok, I had been married once and now I am divorced. I had been dating this man who I really love for almost three months. He left his wife and moved back to his mom's house and I helped him babysit two nehpews. We all the suddenly became friends and then several weeks later we were ending up dating and gotten serious. He had filled me up with dreams, hopes, even he wanted to have family with me... Then two weeks ago, he told me that he loved me and that he need to go clear his head and that he would be back... Guess what, he never came back... I got the phone call from his wife saying that he went back with her. I was so heartbreaking for the second time around. Like I have died again.
He knew what hurt me the most was there was no ending at all so I can accept that he was gone.. I couldn't accepet it until i know for fact it was over. but I am moving on.. but it is killing me inside to feel that I am unworthy and feel like being used.
How you deal with this?

Thanks
Ami

2007-10-25 06:02:08 · 10 answers · asked by Deaf Cowgirl 27 2

Ok, I'm not perfect but I do have a lot going for myself. I'm college educated, I don't smoke, not an alcoholic, not a drugee. I don't use and abuse women. I try to treat others how I would want to be treated. I always desire to have a better life. Anyways, I had a girlfriend who I was with for 2 years then it abruptly ended. It ended due to the fact that a close friend of this girlfriend's was very manipulative possesive and conning. This friend constantly bashed me towards my girlfriend and bated on her to leave me. I saw this behavior and confronted both my girlfriend and this friend of her's about the matter to try to remedy it. However, this friend finally succeeded at getting my girlfriend to cheat on me and then leave me for a friend of this friend's husband, who in my opinion is not any better than me. I know there are always two sides to every story, but I know for a fact that what happened was not justified in any way. Advice, opinions?

2007-10-25 05:54:41 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

honestly i am just curious...i have been married for 3 years and well, lets say we are on a decline...i was just wondering if this is normal or if the is something wrong here..if it was up to me it would be a little more often!

2007-10-25 05:48:29 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous

i stay home during the week with my twin 15 month old boys...i clean,wash clothes,cook,etc. i work two 16 hour shifts on weekends.heres my dilema...for the last year,my wife and i have had no relationship other than our boys.when she gets home from work during the week,she goes to bed..we spend no time together..i am at a point where i need some adult interaction..talk,laughter,etc...i mean im with 15 month olds for 14 hours a day..ive been telling her this for about a month and all she does is get defensive and mad.she turns it into an argument..all im doing is letting her know im slippin away and she seems to not care..what should i do ?

2007-10-25 05:19:35 · 34 answers · asked by bojack 1

I hope to get more answers this time

If your husband wanted you to tease and deny him and pleasure for long periods of time would you? I want her to deny me release and only let me get any pleasure after I earn enough points from her. She decides how I earn points. She doesnt allow me to be intimate with her unless i earn a lot of points and she constantly teases me. While she gets whatever she wants. would you do it?

2007-10-25 05:17:51 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-10-25 05:11:14 · 22 answers · asked by Fancy You 6

i'm doing an affair with a man who has wife and 2ys old son.

he is saying that '' i can't divorce now because no money enough and a son.''
but he tells me to wait for him.

do you think he is really going to divorce?
and how long do i have to wait?

2007-10-25 05:08:53 · 48 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have been w/ my husband for 14 years and have been married to him for 10 years now. He has some anger problems and they are really starting to affect the way I feel about him. I have tried to talk to him about going to counseling to help him find ways to control it but he refuses to go and says he is working on it himself. I feel like it is never going to change and that it is going to get worse I have 2 children and I don't want to feel like I am giving up on trying to keep or family together. I feel that if he loved me the way he says he does that he would be trying harder to fix what he knows is hurting our relationship.I know I should proably leave but don't know if that is the right thing to do.

2007-10-25 05:02:16 · 13 answers · asked by C F 1