i'm doing an affair with a man who has wife and 2ys old son.
he is saying that '' i can't divorce now because no money enough and a son.''
but he tells me to wait for him.
do you think he is really going to divorce?
and how long do i have to wait?
2007-10-25 05:08:53 · 48 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
In a word? NO.
He's doing the old "having his cake and eating it, too."
Don't be a party to such a low-down life style. You should respect yourself more, and even if you don't you should respect the sanctity of his marriage - even if he doesn't.
And besides....even if he DID divorce his wife and abandon his kid (which he probably will NOT), what guarantee do you have that in a year, or two years, or 5, or even 10, he won't do the same exact thing to you??
Kick his @$$ to the curb....he's filth.
2007-10-25 05:16:41 · answer #1 · answered by Brutally Honest 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most married men do NOT leave their wives and especially a young child. If you wait on him, you will be his girl toy and pretty much, give him what he wants while getting NOTHING in return. I cannot believe you'd want a man that will probably ,leave YOU in the same predicament if you were to end up with him. And by the way, most men willing to do this, have several backups, and if YOU don't play the game with him, he'll just find someone else. You're better off finding a man of your own, that is faithful and loyal to YOU. Even if you got this guy, you got a cheater right off the bat, and that's not a very big prize at all. You are insuring yourself future hurt and heartbreak, and I doubt that's what you'd really want.
2007-10-25 05:21:56 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you really that insecure that you have to be dating a married man? Look the wife is the only one that will be the winner in the end ! He is not going to leave to leave his wife EVER! He has exactly what he wants two women to meet everyone of his needs. He is selfish and will not give either of you the only thing he will do is continue to lye to both of you for as long as he can. Why would you even want a man like this? If you get him his wife is going to take everything he has and you may have the men but for how Long before he does the same thing to you?
2007-10-25 06:29:54 · answer #3 · answered by dawn l 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are a complete idiot, Honey if the man did not have the money he wouldn't see you.. Poor man don't cheat on their wives because it costs money to keep a mistress, and by the way he is not going to divorce.. He will keep seeing you until you get old and he is bored than he will think of an excuse to end it... Don't go that way, he has a son and no matter what you do or think, that kid will always be number one for him and his wife will always have him by the balls.. Didn't your mom teach to not mess with married men?? Get your own man, and some self esteem.
2007-10-25 05:14:59 · answer #4 · answered by beygrl 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Come on! Pull your head out of your bu++ and smell the coffee. You will have better luck at marrying Elvis than you will of marrying "lover boy." That line he used on you is one that men have used for centuries, and you were stupid enough to believe it.
Why don't you knock on his door one evening while he, his wife, and child are home and remind him of what he said. That way you will find out who he loves the most and....you might even help him out getting a divorce. By telling you to wait for him, makes him think he is eliminating all the eligible men from your life.
Remember, though, if he will leave his wife for you, he will leave you for someone else. Do you really want a man you can't trust?
2007-10-25 05:27:57 · answer #5 · answered by Laredo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know the man, so I can't say if he will or won't divorce, but I mean there are so many other questions to ask. Why you want to start a relationship with him, on a supposedly monogamous level even if he does? And if he can't afford to be divorced and pay child support, alimony, etc how can he afford to be in a relationship with you that is evenly yoked?When and if he does divorce does he expect you to be his caretaker(bc you knew his circumstances) How how long are you supposed to wait? What is gonna miracously change? And if he really loves you why did he ask you wait? You never know what is waiting for you! I mean there are so many other levels to this! and so many other questions that need to be asked! I mean why are you willing to put your happiness and needs on hold for him? Why are his needs more important than your? Please email me!
2007-10-25 05:20:55 · answer #6 · answered by Mrs.G-unit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he isn't going to get a divorce because it would cause him to pay child support and you are having the affair. If you call this off, he will just find someone else to sleep with and you can go on to find someone not married who will care for you without the baggage of a wife and children. Tell him to get lost!!
2007-10-25 05:36:15 · answer #7 · answered by Al B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Run, run, run.
He is using you and will never get a divorce. Do not wait any longer. You are wasting your life with a liar (he is not telling his wife the truth either) and cheater.
You know what you are doing is wrong. Some men will tell a woman anything to string them along.
Move on with your life.
2007-10-25 05:20:57 · answer #8 · answered by Tadpoler 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why should he. How long does he want you to wait, 16 years. The only way to be sure he leaves is to give him a deadline, say six months. If he is not making that move, he's not going to.
My girlfriend did it and got her man; however, the ex-wife is kicking his butt with $1200/month in child support and he's not happy about that...
2007-10-25 09:54:12 · answer #9 · answered by Dancer3d 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LOL. You are a fool. Sorry.
How many times a day are there women on here who are asking "when is he going to divorce his wife and marry me?"
the answer is almost always never.
2007-10-25 06:11:02 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋