My neighbor always finds someways to put his hands on my? He has only did it a couple of times, once in front of his wife, so I didnt pay it any attention. But yesterday after our kids got on the bus he grabbed the back of my neck playfully and let his hand fall down my back and pulled away right before he touched my butt. It was very uncomfortable, what should I think? Was he just playing around? Either way I know my husband would totally try to kill him, so I didnt mention it, dont really need the drama. What should I do? BTW, I know Im attractive, but I dont flirt. His wife says he likes teasing me, but I dont think she would of liked it. We just moved in a few months ago and I really like the neighborhood and other neighbors and I dont dislike him, I just dont want him touching me.
2007-10-25 06:50:28 · 17 answers · asked by Sweetpea 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
OMG! He came to my house and he didnt touch me or anything, he just stop by just to talk. My daughter and her friend were right there. I dont know why he came over. It just seems really weird and creepy. Im not rude and very friendly, but I dont come off that friendly. Ive invited his wife over, but she hasnt come yet, btw, she wasnt home when he stopped by, neither was my husband, just my 2 yr. old. I dont really want to say anything if its nothing, but doesnt it seem like something? My husband called me the Edy Britt (desperate housewives) of our subdivision.LOL!
2007-10-29 01:53:47 · update #1
WOW, for him to touch you like that...you must be really fine :-)
I'm jealous of your husband - LOL. But even I would never do that to you. If you have dignity and are devoted to your husband, and if you love your children, your family, you should avoid this neighbor.
2007-10-25 08:35:03 · answer #1 · answered by Jerry H 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
There's no easy way to tell him, and it may hurt his feelings, but ask him to stop touching you. It's disrespectful to you, your husband, and his own spouse. I would say that the back thing was definitely flirting. There's no reason why he had to touch your back! I have gone through this whole thing with a guy, and I finally realized that I had to make it clear to the guy that I don't like it. I tried to be passive, but he took advantage and thought I enjoyed it. When I ignore him, he is mean, but oh well. My marraige comes first!
2007-10-25 07:00:51 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Honestly it sounds like he was definitely flirting. Some people flirt by nature...me being one...of course I try to control the touching as anything sexual is going out of bounds when you are both married. Hopefully he notices it but if he doesn't try to mention to him in a discreet way that it's inappropriate and drop it at that...you're right...you don't need the drama.
2007-10-25 06:58:31 · answer #3 · answered by Dave B 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to please stop. If it persists let his wife know, and your husband.
I know my wife had a problem at work. We both worked for the same company at the time. The day she told me was the day it ended. I didn’t punch the guy in the face, it was going that way, but it stopped that day. That is something you should not have to put up with.
2007-10-25 07:08:23 · answer #4 · answered by kib_edward 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Flirting? More like groping.. If you don't like it, tell him to back off. Otherwise, he'll keep doing it, and your husband will find out someday... and I would totally understand if your husband would want to kill your neighbor. Heck, if any guy did that to my wife, I would want to hurt him real bad..
By the way, don't worry about hurting his feelings - because he'll be hurting more than his feelings if your husband found out.
2007-10-25 07:56:56 · answer #5 · answered by Think Richly™ 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Regardless of whether this is just his nature or if he was actually flirting, I think you can let him know - politely, matter-of-factly, and with grace and humor - that you are not someone who likes being touched except by those closest to you - and you can add, "people like my husband or my kids".
See if he gets the hint - I'll bet he will.
2007-10-25 08:12:19 · answer #6 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Five words-kick him in the balls.
You don't need that crap,he your husband won;t go to jail,he sure isn't gonna say anything to his wife,and there's not a cop on the planet that wouldn't arrest him if dared to call them.
2007-10-25 08:23:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Touchy situation....Tell him..to stop touching you..but said it nicely...Begin the conversation with how much you like their company and friendship and you do not want to jeopadized it. Tell him is just a preccausion because your husband is raising eye browes it may take it differently.
good luck
2007-10-25 06:57:36 · answer #8 · answered by Burt 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
be direct, if you tell him your husband would get pissed off, he will say, but, you like it don't you? is your husband your boss? tell him you don't want him to touch you. some people are just the touchy type... so you have to tell him to stop... that or they are "swingers" and they are trying to see how far you and hubby will go... ugh! good luck... if he touches you again after you tell him stop file for harassment charges... he is disrespectful...
2007-10-25 07:35:14 · answer #9 · answered by elvlayarvvi fEisty wife and mom 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The next time he does something like that, tell him you are going to tell his wife. You shouldn't have any more problems out of him.
2007-10-25 07:33:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋