I am thinking about divorcing my husband. He has been abusive in the past (over a year ago), has not worked the majority of our marriage, has used drugs, cheated, etc. He recently turned things around as in got a job, stopped using drugs, and has been doing good for about three months now. However, he is still a jerk and verbally abusive toward me. We have one child together and one coming in two months. How long does the process take, about how much does it cost, and what will I have to do to have full custody with no visitation?
2007-10-25 06:38:53 · 7 answers · asked by allie s 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Also will I be made to pay alimony to him since I have been the only person working during our relationship?
2007-10-25 06:39:49 · update #1
Contact an attorney. Find one that will give you a free consultation. They'll tell you what they can do for you and how much (approximately) it will cost you. It sounds like he wouldn't have the cash to fight you too hard. In my situation, it cost me over $8,000, and took almost a year because he and his attorney kept stalling. My attorney and I finally went to court (the ex didn't show up) and the judge pushed it through without his signature.
2007-10-25 07:30:05 · answer #1 · answered by Chels 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go Right to your local Probation Office and file for Custody of your children. Fill out application there so you keep your nerve! Then, get a great Attorney! You'll need it. Guys like these will never change and will then abuse you legally! So-remember he is not your friend! So-don't make any deals with him. Keep your chin up-just don't get cocky! Just keep all you business to you close friends and don't give too much information to anyone except your Attorney. Then follow all their advise. Oh-reading the Bible right now might not be such a good idea. Wait until after you win custody. Then find a great church and good friends. You'll be OK!
2007-10-25 06:50:35 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Gather all the evidence you can. In a divorce, both parties will have accusations against the other and its best to leave them to their proofs (evidence). However, the abuse is harder to prove. If you have children, the divorce will take A LOT longer than if you didn't, the court likes to give as much possible time for reconciliation. If he doesn't care about his children, he may not fight you and allow you to have the kids, if you are willing to go your separate ways without any financial support from him.
2007-10-25 07:28:03 · answer #3 · answered by Amy V 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hahahaha...to the first answer.
No way of knowing really divorce can cost from $400 to thousands of dollars.
I don't know about the custody part or how well him turn himself around affects alimony. And it depends on the state in which you live, many are 50/50 states 50/50 assets and 50/50 debt.
2007-10-25 06:48:58 · answer #4 · answered by gypsy g 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Divorce goes in stages.
a. See lawyer
b. Pay lawyer retainer
c. Pay lawyer for drafting of paperwork
d. Pay lawyer for deposition and income statement
e. Go to court (first time)
f. Continuance...pay lawyer
g. lawyer calls you to set up appointment...bills you for phone call.
h. pay lawyer.
i. 10 additional continuances over 8 month time span.
j. Pay lawyer times 10 for above.
k. Divorce granted. Pay lawyer.
l. Find carboard box to live in because you're poor.
m. lawyer honks horn at you as he/she passes by in their Mercedes.
2007-10-25 06:45:35 · answer #5 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
well get a lawyer and they are expensive but first get a seperation and then go from there uncontested divorces are cheaper than contested less work for the attorneys
2007-10-25 06:46:50 · answer #6 · answered by oh_jo123 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
These are questions that you should direct to an Attorney. You're situation is too specific.
2007-10-25 06:46:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋