Girlz: my gf has sent all the gifts that i bought her back to me, what should i do?

Question

She broke up with me last week and she sent all the gifts that i bought her back to me to me, what should i do?
I really really feel insulted, bcz i loved her and i spent so much time when i bought those gifts. Even thought they are not the best but it was the best i could afford.
Does this mean she doesent love me anymore?
Do you think if i call her i will put myself down?
We have been with each other for almost three years i dont know if i should call her or if i should do the same thing she did to me. Please help me! i am so sad

if i am doing my best for this relationship why should act this way?

the problem is that she thinks falsely that i am cheating whereas i am most loyal to her.

the problem is that she thinks falsely that i am cheating whereas i am most loyal to her.

Answer 1

Bobby I hate to say this but she doesn't seem committed in this relationship. You have every reason to feel hurt. I can see you want to make this relationship work, you did nothing wrong, Whether you should call her I can't decide that is up to you but if you two do talk find out why she gave you back the gifts? Find out what gave her the notion you are cheating because you aren't. But Bobby if she offers no explanation or gets erratic she needs help.

Answer 2

Sometimes people make decisions that have little or nothing to do with US. They make them because they believe this is the right thing for them to do. We are left to pick up the pieces of our own lives and move on. There is no time schedule..grieve at your own pace...and know that there is life after a break up and that it will be better. I would suggest you avoid getting into another relationship very soon . Give yourself time to work out whatever issues you two dealt with and "clean up your side of the street". Look at your part and see where you may have needed more information about being in this relationship. Take that learning and apply it to the next relationship you have, and the next one and the next one.
You are not a bad person because she ended this relationship. She simply is on her own path in life and learned what she needed from you. As for the gifts, give them to charity or keep them, you choose. Just for today, go out and do something YOU enjoy...ride a bike, take a walk, go to the movie, call a friend, read a book...whatever makes you feel good. You deserve it. Be kind to yourself.
HUGS

Answer 3

A three year relationship is considered derious...The fact that she sent everything back means that she is hurting, and probably more than you are. What caused the break-up? Did you do something wrong? Were you not ready to ask her to marry you and was that what she wanted most? It might be a metaphorical thing. Maybe she's trying to tell you that the material things don't matter; it's the relationship that does and perhaps you waited too long to ask her to marry you? Or, she could be royally pissed for something you did/said and wants nothing else to do with you. I wouldn't call her. I would give her some space to figure out what she wants...Good luck and best wishes!

Answer 4

It sounds like you have a bigger problem than you think. Was there a Major fight between you two to start this whole thing or did she just say she wants to break up out of the blue?

Ususally when a girl gives all of the gifts she gets back to the receiver it means she is trying to toss things that make her think of you, it could be a sign of two things: 1) you two really are over and its time to start moving on or 2) something big happened and she has convinced herself that she is doing the right thing for whatever reason and is trying to justify it buy moving everything that reminds her of you out of her way.

I would not like to get my gifts back either and if it were me personally I would take them back to her, leave them on her doors step, and include a note saying that even if your over you want her to keeping the things you spent so much time buying for her. Its hard to tell what the right move would be at this point. Try talking to her and if she tries to talk it out with you, you may have a chance.

Answer 5

First of all, sorry you are feeling so sad. For her to return the gifts does not mean she does not love you any more, on the contrary, shows her emotions are so high and she is so hurt that she wanted to make a statement and hurt you back by returning those gifts. Put them away in a box and save them. I am sure you and her will be making up and she will want them back. Although, once you both make up do not offer to give the gifts back, make her ask for them. The reason for this is because if you make it too easy for her to get them back then she will always do this in all future arguments. Don't worry, she still cares, and I just know you two will make up.

Answer 6

Bobby, it's only been a week. I don't know why you broke up but give her some space,either she will want to get back with you or she won't. Hang on to the gifts for a wnile until she definitely makes up her mind, then if it really is all over, than get rid of them, I suggest you give them to the nearest Salvation Army Charity Shop but it's up to you. Relationships do break up but although you are thinking it's the end of the world, it isn't.It's a part of growing up and you'll get over her in time. good luck anyway, you'll meet the girl of your dreams oneday. Remember, Today is the first day of the rest of your life.

Answer 7

If she accused u of cheating then more likely she is seeing someone else and trying ot make u feel bad... Just leave her alone and keep the gifts u gave her, u too may end up back together but if u dont than move on to someone u trust and who complelty trusts u...

Answer 8

It sounds like she's really angry with you.

Her actions are consistent with someone who is determined to regain some control in their life. Keep in mind that you guys did break up. She's no longer your girlfriend, and you're no longer her boyfriend. I'd consider her returning all of your gifts a slap in the face, and I wouldn't call her. I know you're hurting but you're going to be OK. As the old saying goes --- This too shall pass.

Answer 9

I don't know why she broke up with you when you were doing your best but know that it is over and you'd better get used to the idea. These things are part of growing up. Pack up all of her gifts into a box and take this box down to the local thrift store where someone will appreciate them.

Answer 10

Drop her and find yourself another.Your new gf could be given the gifts you bought for the first one. Of course, you don't tell her they are returns from your first gf. You'll save money, she is showered with gifts and not about to complain. You'll be a hero in her eyes.