OR should be "we're going to do what's necessary to have a good and happy marriage".
2007-10-25 19:30:35 · 20 answers · asked by Is that all there is? 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
This was written in an answer as a comment on what's happening today in relationships. I wanted to do a survey. See what the majority does now days.
2007-10-25 20:11:03 · update #1
I find this changes as we grow older, as choices are better, hopefully, and people more willing to yield and communicate and respect the other.
2007-10-26 09:05:16 · update #2
I pretty much went with the second option. If I had done the first, I would be on my own by now. As it is, there have been some pretty bad times, but with both of us working on the problems, we are in a good and secure place and happy with each other.
2007-10-25 19:34:40 · answer #1 · answered by surlygurl 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have been given married at 22 and have by no skill regretted doing so early. I had 4 teenagers via the time i became 28 and that i do desire I had given sometime to easily being married and according to possibility spaced the toddlers out purely somewhat. it could have been beneficial to spend sometime with purely my hubby beforehand the toddlers got here alongside. That being mentioned i'm now 40 seven and my youngest will go away for college subsequent 12 months. i will tell already that my husband and that i are going to relish being 'newlyweds' lower back! i think of sufficiently old is once you come across the right guy or woman, no longer how old you're!
2016-12-30 06:14:35 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been married twice. I have never had a great paying job, and they knew that when they married me. But in both marriages they both put pressure on the marriage to want a new house and car. They both were unhappy about the situation of not having enough money to have those things. And I wished I could have bought those things too, but it was impossible on the income of our household. So, both stayed married until they became unhappy then one asked me to leave, and the second one was gone when I came home from work one day.
(The main thing was, that they never loved me very much, or any at all.) Maybe that was the root reason why they were unhappy, because they were in a marriage that they did't love.
2007-10-25 19:45:44 · answer #3 · answered by Ron 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
marriage is a joint venture. It is not all about you. both spouses need to work at it. If you are still at the stage in your life that you think "It is all about your happiness" you are not read to marry and to do so will only add to the divorce rate. and believe it is not a 50/50 union sometimes you will find it goes to40/60 20/80, even/99-1 but it will even out. And you should do all you can to make it work. It should be forever. Sadly, sometimes 100% is not enough. Both people need to be willing to put forth the effort. It does take 2.
2007-10-25 19:41:11 · answer #4 · answered by littlerascal711 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Marriage is always work. If you're only concerned with your happiness and are willing to leave the first time you're unhappy, the chances of a stable, long-term relationship are almost zero.
No matter how much you love someone, there will be bad days. But if you're both working together, the good days will outweigh the bad.
2007-10-25 19:35:32 · answer #5 · answered by erikobsession 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's something I WILL rant about (but not here for a violation, though).
I do not like people going into 'disposable' marriages. If they're not planning to be in it for the long haul, they should not get married at all.
They should do whatever is necessary to have a good, happy marriage.
2007-10-25 19:35:04 · answer #6 · answered by Holiday Magic 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Option B without a doubt. Divorce is not an option...I will go to the ends of the earth to save my marriage, I will never sit back and let it fall apart...if it means giving up our life and moving to another country...
Only exception is if it is dangerous (abusive) or destructive (alcoholic, drug, criminal)...but that is not the case in my marriage so option B for sure.
2007-10-25 20:17:53 · answer #7 · answered by joellemoe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should not get married if you go into it thinking that if it doesn't work out, you can always divorce and try again. Get married only if both of you are going to do everything you can to make the marriage work and stay together "til death do us part".
2007-10-25 19:34:49 · answer #8 · answered by ? 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Happiness is state of mind. Marriage is sharing one's life at all circumstances either good or bad will bring surely a happiness.
2007-10-25 22:42:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
B all that you can be! what would you do? Start all over otherwise. It's good that you are checking on the condition you are in. Communicate, learn, grow. Do you think you are ready to get married to the right person or not?
2007-10-25 19:39:32 · answer #10 · answered by RT 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋