I recently broke my husband's favorite lamp, not on purpose. He is out of town on a business trip and will be back tomorrow. I'm scared of what he might do if he finds out that i broke it. Last time i broke something of his, be burned all my clothes and I had NOTHING to wear except the clothes i had on. Should i tell him the truth and risk my wardrobe? or does anybody else have any ideas?
2007-10-28 22:39:10 · 13 answers · asked by ♥Mrs. Timberlake♥ 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If what you are saying is true then you should be packing your bags and leaving right now.
Burning all of your clothes because you accidently broke something is called Pyschological ABUSE. Any form of abuse, be it financial, physical or psychological (mental) is never justified in a marriage. Men (or women) who are abusers never stop abusing others, despite all of the apologies (I'm so sorry honey type stuff) and promises to never do it again. They will ALWAYS re-offend.
Get out now as the next step may well involve you being taken to casualty or worse.
2007-10-28 22:53:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 7⤊ 0⤋
I agree you should not and cannot be afraid of your husband. He's not greater than you are. I know it may go deeper than what your asking us today but you gotta rethink your situation if your uncomfortable with his anger or him being disappointed like that.
In my opinion I understand the lamp is his and he's gonna ask where it is and what happened to it. I wouldn't answer him as if your a small child or I would just fabricate the story. Don't put yourself in a tough or violant fall out over a lamp. If it can be replaced then do so but if not do what you feel you have to do that won't bring harm your way......Okay!!!!
2007-11-01 22:30:16 · answer #2 · answered by kc_cuttie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how your husband would react if he finds out. But damn burning your clothes that's way too far. If I where in your shoes right now, I would rather lie about it or fabricate an incident that would appear that it was an accident. afterall it was not done on purpose. And if this doesn't work then tell him that "you already told him the truth" and tell him that "now you want me to tell you lies?" Make it look like it's the real truth. Anyway it's just a tip,hope it might work.
2007-10-28 22:51:55 · answer #3 · answered by Ken-Eros 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
If you are scared of your husband, then you should not be with him. Call your family, pack you clothes, and move before he gets home. do not ever go back and live with a man that you are afraid of. That is just plain ridiculous. Have more respect for yourself than that! If he burned my clothes I would have maxed out every credit card he had to replace them, then cleaned out the savings and checking account, and go myself an apartment. He would never have found me until time to appear in court for the divorce I filed for!!!
2007-10-28 22:57:45 · answer #4 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you are in an abusive relationship, and you need to get help or get out!! When he comes home and starts acting up again, get ready to call 911!!!
No man or woman should be physically or verbally abused over a lamp!
All that can be replaced, but not a broken heart!!
If you are really scared of him, then get out before he comes home to a place where you will be safe, and then you can talk to him at your "safe place" without confronting him and worrying about your safety, or you can stay home and have your cell phone nearby and get ready to call 911!!!!
2007-10-28 23:05:57 · answer #5 · answered by carriegreen13 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
He sounds like an abusive, controlling husband, and you should get out as soon as you can. Nobody needs to live like that. He burned your clothes, what will he do next?
2007-10-29 00:14:57 · answer #6 · answered by ChemoAngel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
here's a novel idea , you know he's abusive and get's violent and will burn your clothing , whats stopping him turning you into a human torche over a lamp?
Pack your chit and get out NOW go to a woman's shelter or to your family and stay until you get on your feet file a domestic violence order and divorce order and stay away from the scum.
2007-10-28 23:41:16 · answer #7 · answered by JadeyOz 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your husband is sick and needs help ...you cannot live in fear with someone and you need to get out. Something is very wrong with him and I would not stay in this relationship for fear that he would set you on fire! This is not normal behavior and you must know that. get your things and go to a womans shelter or stay with family...... when you do get an exparte on him to keep away from you! If he comes near you call the police..... Just get away from him and get some counseling to stay strong and get the courage to move on in your life.
2007-10-29 02:39:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you are in a dangerous relationship & have more to think about than a lamp or your wardrobe.
2007-10-28 23:59:20 · answer #9 · answered by tone 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, u might gather all your belongings now and take them to some locker , like at a railway station or smth. and as long as u broke his lamp anyway u might have some fún and destroy smth of his. he will be p'i's's'ed anyway. at least it will be worth it
2007-10-28 22:49:15 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋