Is it healthy to be compulsively peeking at your partner's emails?

Answer 1

well buddy, I say no, but point out an interesting observation, notice most of the first answers were from women, and you know they would be supportive of peeking if you were a woman asking to peek at hubbys email, and they would justify it by saying if he is a cheater then you have to look, anyways, no, dont peek.

Answer 2

You already know the answer to that, or you would not have used the word "compulsively".

Looking at someone else's emails crosses a line. It is disrespectful, it is refusing to allow them privacy. You may want to pretend you violate your partner's privacy out of luuuuuvvvvvvvv but in reality, you are treating the person like they do not deserve as much courtesy as a stranger. So I guess the real question is, are you doing this because there is some actual reason to not trust this person, or are you doing this because you simply choose to ignore the boundaries of respect and good manners? If it's the latter, I suggest therapy. If the former, I suggest asking yourself why you want to be in a relationship with someone you cannot trust.

Answer 3

If you have reason to believe that your partner is up to no good on you yes you have every right to know what is going on in your world. Also if your partner has a history with you of past cheating. When two people are together in life nothing should be hidden from each other and if the partner is on the up and up they shouldn't be offended if you are not doing anything wrong to look all they want at your emails. In this day and age the net is the the easiest and most conveinent way to hook up with someone so what does looking hurt if the partner never finds anything? You are in a partnership together so everything that you do online should be open for your partner to to see if there is nothing going on.

Answer 4

the simple fact that you are asking the questions tells me you already know the answer. NO.
If you are checking up on your partner you have a serious trust issue. You may find out something you really don't want to know. Rather than checking the e-mail, ask direct questions and be prepared for an answer you may not want to hear. Then, you might want to think about a new relationship.

Answer 5

No it's not healthy , but if your partner gave you reason to mistrust them then it's deserved and if you find something they have hidden from you and they havent been up front and honest with you about thing's then they deserve what anger you throw at them , deceptive behaviour shouldnt be adhered to in a marriage so if they were honest to start people wouldnt feel the need to check up on them now would they?

Answer 6

Partners should share not only their mail but whats goin on in their minds as well. If privacy is all that important then there is no partnership. I notice that this hang up on privacy is increasing. . . what is there to be private about with the person you claim to be sharing your life with?

Answer 7

Yeah, if there is something going on or not it's no good. It's a terrible thing this insecurity. The reason I even saw this question is funny if you could know how I came across it... haha. Not healthy.

Answer 8

perhaps they think the partner is hiding something... personally, I think it's ok to peek =) if someone does not let them peek, they are probably hiding something! basically, you lost privacy when you married or became serious about someone... lol! =)

Answer 9

UMMMMMM NO NO NO NO NO!!!!!!!!!!!! Unless they have asked you to check their email, then everyone has a right to some privacy, even in a relationship. My husband asks me to check his emai for him, just because he doesn't always have time, and then if there is something important I let him know and he can do with it what he needs to. Don't interfere otherwise. It's never a good idea!

Answer 10

No. Unless there is something iffy going on then you should respect your partner's property (which includes emails) and respect their privacy and let them be. How would you feel if that happened to you?