Marriage & Divorce - 28 October 2007

before me and my wife got married she had a bachlorret party, i didn't have a party because she asked me not to have one cause she was cheated in the past (i understood and didn't its no big deal at all) but right after the honey moon i find out she was pregnant, two days later a friend steps foward and tells me that it might not be my baby, i dont believe her but then the rest of the friends fess up. they said she had sex (multiple times) sex with the male stripper she also knew before hand she was pregnant and she drank. well now im worried i confronted my wife about this she said i cannot leave her that wouldnt be ethical and that she loves me and she is sorry, i dont know and i pray that the baby wont have any defects, the child isn't mine either, she said if i get a divorce court will make me pay half and it will be a big mes. what am i to do? im so lost. i do love my wife, but should i trust her? should i take care of the child still. should i divorce?

2007-10-28 12:56:46 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

He always says he loves his kids more than me and that I love him more than he loves me.

He is my first priority. I've asked him why he always says this and tell him it hurts me. He just says I can't get mad at him for telling the truth.

Why does he do this???? Should I move to another country and give up my life for a man that feels this way about me?

2007-10-28 12:41:17 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband has tried to get us into the swinging lifestyle for sometime now. I am reluctan t for many reasons but my main one besides a moral issue is that he pouts if he doesnt get his way. He wants to talk about screwing others every time we have sex and if i dont then i get degraded and he goes into his ultimatiums, if things dont change we are getting a divorce. Tells me i am boring, calls me names etc and then goes to looking at personal ads. When we do have sex, i hardly ever get satisfied because he is done between 2 and 4 minutes. I end up pissed off. He has said swinging is for us to expand our sex life. Doesnt sound this way to me.

2007-10-28 12:35:16 · 16 answers · asked by If we don’t stand up for ourselves, NO ONE will 1

My bf assured me he was ready to be in a relationship even though he was winding down a 2 yr divorce. everything was great up until 2 weeks before his final court date. he reassured me he had a lot to deal with and would be back to normal after it was over. it was over last week and when we saw each other a few days later, we broke up. he said his head isn't on straight right now and he was so confused about his future. he wanted to take a step back from our relationship to just casually dating. I was devasted and told him i can't do that. either he wanted to be with me or not. he said he can't deal with the pressure of a relationship right now and wants to do things for himself for awhile. it was a very respectful and mature conversation. when i left i took my stuff and he was concerned i'd never call i said i didn't know. he grabbed me and kissed me, he even had tears in his eyes, as so did i...but i just walked away. what are the chances he'll come back and how long?

2007-10-28 12:29:09 · 12 answers · asked by Jax 3

"Marry the person who loves u .. not the person u love"

Is that true ? cuz i am in love with a person (we're planning to get married) and he's in love with me too but i feel that i love him more .. should i be worried ?

2007-10-28 12:23:37 · 6 answers · asked by Maria 6

How many married women are forced to have sex with their husbands even if they don't want to? They vocalize it, "I don't want to"

2007-10-28 12:20:04 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous

He was drafted and was in infantry. He was shot in the head in
combat in Vietnam. He walks with a cane and speaks as though he has had a stroke.

For many years he has slept in his own bedroom as he kicks and fights in his sleep due to PTSD.

He is a great guy. He is not cruel or mean to his family. However he is rather difficult to live with and do family things together.
He is very racist and it's getting to the point that after 40 years
of marriage my mom is about ready to call it quits......as in
divorce.

He cannot watch any news, movie, DVD movie, anything without using derogatory racial and ethnic remarks which my mother has had talks with him many times in the past. She explains to him that it upsets her and then he is good for a little while and then starts again.

2007-10-28 12:07:27 · 3 answers · asked by thefinalresult 7

My husband has a weak bladder. At night, he keeps a potty chair right by our bed, so he usually makes it. This disgusts me, I don't know how to get him to not do it. Sometimes i have to empty it in the morning

2007-10-28 12:00:39 · 44 answers · asked by Anonymous

she says she wants to leave but always finds a reason or excuse why the time is not right or shes not ready. is she just stringing me along for support?

2007-10-28 11:59:37 · 23 answers · asked by Ryder 1

2007-10-28 11:50:43 · 6 answers · asked by greenwich 4

My husband was in the Military for 20 years and when he retired he wanted to grow out his hair and wear a pony tail just because he can. I said fine do what you want. So he did. He isn't old he is only 46 years old and he now works as an Engineer on the railroad.
Unfortunelly it's been almost 2 years his hair still isn't long enough for a pony tail and it is just thin and stringy and unhealthy looking. And where did the neat person I was attracted to and married go? Now he wears sloppy clothes and scarfs tied around his head or hats. He never puts on aftershave. I like short hair on a Man. I do not like a mans hair falling into my face during sex.
Plus to top it off he has gained about 50 lbs.
It upsets us both (mostly hin) that sex doesn't interest me anymore. And it's not the weight as much as the unkempt look of him. Most of the time he needs to shave. Honest caring advice needed on how to address this problem.

2007-10-28 11:37:42 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

I know it's hard to know all that's going on from the little bit of information you can put on here, but please take a moment to let me know the impression that you get.

We've been together for three years and in that time have had an up-and-down roller coaster. When it's good, it's AWESOME and when it's bad it's awful. The good times far exceed the bad and I love him very much and know he loves me.

The past couple of weeks he's been disappearing for a while, about every other day or so. He'll say he's going to the store and be gone for two hours, then tell me he ran out of gas. Right now he's been gone for an hour when he said he was going to get diapers for our son. That trip should only take 20 minutes. We got into a squabble about 10 minutes before he left, where he said he feels like I don't appreciate him. But I DO, and I let him know that all the time....

I want this to work with him, not only for the baby's sake but because I love him.

2007-10-28 11:36:27 · 9 answers · asked by Dragonfly Girl 7

There is this guy I know. I have known him for 8 years during this time we became good friends. People use to enjoy seeing up arrive at events together..we are both considered to be the life of the party. The problem is- I use to make jokes about him and he did the same to me. Well Friday he tells me he use to hate to see me coming he described these events as torture. :( I didn't mean to hurt any one. Now I am totally attracted to him. He is so sweet and kind. But, everytime I try to bring up "us" he takes me back down memory lane. The only thing we do now is eye flirt. (Stare into each others eyes) I don't want to jump into anything sexually, but I do want to know where this could lead. We go to lunch together often, but those end in hysterical arguments. Is he interested or am I stalking?

2007-10-28 11:28:36 · 11 answers · asked by lekeshia s 3

My wife is totally obsessed with Yahoo Mash and 360. She spends 15-20 hours a day talking to mostly guy "friends" and gets defensive if I ask her to try and balance it with family time... I honestly don't know what to do... any clues?

2007-10-28 11:25:59 · 18 answers · asked by Bob S 1

When a person says that they aren't ready to be in a relationship,

1.) ...they are really saying that they aren't ready to be in a relationship with YOU.

or

2.).\Do you believe that when a person says they aren't ready to be in a realtionship they really aren't ready to be in a relationship with ANYONE no matter how in love they are with the person.

I personally believe the first one, because when I really love someone I want to be with them, but I guess everyone is different. What's your thoughts?

2007-10-28 11:20:59 · 15 answers · asked by Tnisha 1

The only two things that the divorce stated was that I go back to my maiden name and that our marriage be dissolved. Will I get something in the mail. I will ask my lawyer tomorrow, but I didn't know if any of you knew since I'm curious now.

2007-10-28 11:19:13 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am trying to figure out something to give to my hubby for our 17th anniversary. we are going away for a romantic weekend but I have no clue what a guy would think of as romantic. Please help we leave on November 11th

2007-10-28 11:19:11 · 3 answers · asked by brianswife 3

We have been married for 3 years and it has been good and bad, we have fought more than we have been happy, both of our faults. I am an American he is from Indonesia. Sometimes I feel I could do better, and find someone that I have more in common with, but I LOVE my husband and he gives me what I need in alot of area's....then some ways he isnt what I need at all. We hurt each other and then separate then get back together, and the cycle continues. What do I do....we have been apart for about 2 months and I miss him. But he doesnt trust me and is still hurt from the past. Is there hope?

2007-10-28 11:18:55 · 14 answers · asked by peaceplease07 1

eration??
He says he can't work but has the same "condition" I do...I work 12 hour shifts, do all the housework and shopping etc......he does one meal a day five days a week.
He gets stroppy if I suggest he does a bit more , or if I say I buy the baccy!!!!

Who's right here???

2007-10-28 11:10:04 · 19 answers · asked by Carol S 2

2007-10-28 11:07:18 · 14 answers · asked by Aimee92x 1

My husband moved out very unexpectedly two weeks ago. My son spent his first day with him yesterday. He had a very restless night and is now saying he would like to live with his dad. (followed by I will take all my toys and clothes - but leave a few here for when I visit you) Do I take this seriously, and ask his father or wait and see in a few days??? Help my mind is very confused. Background - I have been the stay at home mum and am now studying, my husband leaving after 8 years because he said we should have not had children - and could we get back together in 10 years... to which I replied it would seem a little unfair to the kids having to explain whilst he hadn't been here for their upbringing we were now getting back together. He has a good job (teacher), drinks too much alchohol (previously he went to AA many years) and now is saying he has mental illness!! What to do.....Sorry if this is not coherent

2007-10-28 10:53:59 · 12 answers · asked by hakea73 2

My ex force our 16 yr old daughter to stay in his house every other weekend, but she does not want it. They always end up with fight, because he is treting her like a little baby and he does not realise that she is almost adult. She is very good student, she has a drivers licence and also she has a part time job. He is threating me that he won`t pay child support anymore if she does not want to go in his house. By the way they do not talk. He hurt our daughter`s feelings and told her to find another father. She is very disapointed. He threats with police this comming friday. I do not know what to do to protect my child. She went thru a lot , she was a witness of our fights. Please help
Can he makes her go over his house if she does not want it??

2007-10-28 10:45:54 · 20 answers · asked by mina d 1

I am so frustrated right now that I could cry. We have had our problems, but there is one thing that I can't deal with -- pure ignorance. My husband is very childish and immature, and I did not know he was like this until after we got married. I knew he had minor personality flaws, but not to this degree. If we get into an argument about something he will cut off all communication with me, even if it involves a business or financial matter. I cannot begin to list all the things that he has dropped the ball on, however, I have to tell you this.

I called him after church and he answered the phone with an attitude. I asked him what was wrong and he was upset because when I cooked spaghetti I left some dried up on the stove. Anytime he has to clean-up before he cooks he gets highly pissed, but when I do it no big deal! That's life. I clean up behind him all the time, but whenever he has to do anything out of the way and it inconveniences him he gets upset.

2007-10-28 10:42:56 · 17 answers · asked by Hoping he will bless me with #1 4

like nothing, it is gone... no love anymore. How could you imagine living day to day without them in your life? What if he died? What would you do when it is too late to realize that you did actually still love him very much? How do you deal with death?

2007-10-28 10:40:43 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have found him online looking for other women in our area. He swears he has not met anyone and he is sorry... Since then all I can think and dream about is being with someone else.. I really want to. He has joked before about it, but I really want to. How can i tell him>

2007-10-28 10:37:40 · 43 answers · asked by Anonymous

I want to take my girl out to dinner on the beach. With flowers on the sand leading to a table and two chairs, with scented oil in two oil lamps, an artist with a violin serenading and after dinner I want to walk along the beach with her. Am I too romantic or not? Girls reply please.

2007-10-28 10:37:11 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

my friend wants to know........

2007-10-28 10:36:23 · 8 answers · asked by musiclover724 3

2007-10-28 10:08:30 · 8 answers · asked by mylssa_m 1

2007-10-28 09:58:32 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

I want to get married next year to my long-distance girl friend of 2 years. Money is an issue to me though. I always want more so that I'll have have enough to take cae of the finances. I figure that by next year... I'll have $50,000 saved up and a $10,000 car. I have two more years of school but afterwards I will be a graduate and plan to be a RN. I wont ever be a millionaire, but I think I'll have enough enough to provide for my wife and children without having much saved up at the ned of my life. Is that ok to live with.. or should I strive to have a ton of money saved up (wait longer until I get married) so that I can leave my family with a lot by the time I die. Thanks.

2007-10-28 09:51:35 · 12 answers · asked by gododjgjodjod 1