My wife is totally obsessed with Yahoo Mash and 360. She spends 15-20 hours a day talking to mostly guy "friends" and gets defensive if I ask her to try and balance it with family time... I honestly don't know what to do... any clues?
2007-10-28 11:25:59 · 18 answers · asked by Bob S 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Heck I can't get through to her... tryed to even get her to send me an ivite to her Mash page and she accuses me of just wanting to check in on her....
2007-10-28 11:32:19 · update #1
It's time to consult a family therapist who can help both of you to resolve this issue. Unfortunately, your wife has become addicted and she doesn't have the strength to overcome this problem on her own. Something serious must be done quickly because your marriage is at stake and that's definitely too important to ignore.
2007-10-28 11:35:37 · answer #1 · answered by Bethany 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Life is about balance.
If she is spending 15-20 hours a day on Yahoo, then she is neglecting to you, your children (if the two of you have any), and probably about every other living, breathing person in her life.
She has a problem. You need to intervene. The way I see it, you have two choices.
1. Limit her access to the computer. Assuming her "guy friends" are innocent acquaintances and nothing more, you set the following rules.
a. You are going to put a password on the computer, so that she can only have access through you.
b. She is limited to one hour a day, and that hour occurs when you are at home.
c. You have the right to check where she has been at any time.
She might complain that you are treating her like a child, and that this is not fair. However, is it fair for you to be basically abandoned by your wife? Would she be so accepting if you were on the computer 15-20 hours a day to you "girl friends"?
The other side of the coin is that when she is not on the computer, you have to demonstrate that time offline is better than time online. Show her more attention. Tell her you appreciate your time together. Do some things that she might enjoy.
2. If she is unwilling to do this or cant handle this, get rid of your online access. It's like having a liquor cabinet with an alcoholic around.
2007-10-28 18:45:08 · answer #2 · answered by Pythagoras 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yikes, sorry to say Bob, but your wife is addicted.
She gets defensive because the internet gives you the freedom to be whatever you want to be. 15 hours is WAY too much time.
Try setting up an account of your own, start doing the 360 thing and talk to "girl" friends, see if she gets the point, don't push on the obvious come on's, just see if she realizes how much it bothers you.
You need to get her attention before it gets out of hand.
2007-10-28 18:35:12 · answer #3 · answered by Yankee Micmac 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
15 to 20 hours a day is way out there. If she is getting upset it is because she has something to hide and, is more worried about her guy friends on the Internet then her real life. Better have a talk with her or have it shut off.....
2007-10-28 18:31:27 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she has an internet addiction, which is actually a real thing. Put your foot down. Let her know it isn't healthy. Get some info about it and show it to her. She has to know that spending ALL DAY online talking to other guys can't be good for her marriage or family.
2007-10-28 18:30:06 · answer #5 · answered by Leah 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it would bother me. I actually had the same problem with my guy and facebook believe it or not, when he wasn't in class or at work, he was on facebook. I talked to him about it, he didn't get defensive, just said he didn't realize it was an issue. I would agree with all of the people above that say that she has a problem, internet addiction is real. I'd ask her about it, and say it's causing problems with your relationship with her, and your family.
2007-10-28 18:46:31 · answer #6 · answered by freakmebabyaddicted 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is addicted, you need to shut that box down and lock it away. She is out of line neglecting her family. Take that computer away from her now regardless what she has to say to you. Give her some time out and then start talking about her behaviour to the family. She needs to realize that she messed up and she has to get it right.
2007-10-28 18:44:08 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
15-20 hours a day? When does she have time to sleep? She is addicted.
2007-10-28 18:29:45 · answer #8 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She really sounds addicted. She may be bored with her life and finds the computer an escape. If you guys have kids, Id really try to get her to understand that she needs to be bonding with them or they may grow up to resent her lack of attention.
2007-10-28 18:31:25 · answer #9 · answered by hair princess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she is simly addictive, have you ever seen what she is saying on these sites??? i recently found my bf on them and seen what he was saying to other women and it was soo hurtfully i couldnt believe he was capable.... tho he does appear to have broken the addiction through using computer games etc... my best advice is put a web watcher system in the computer and see what she is saying on them, try to explain that she is emotionally cheating on you by doing this. not only r you missing oput but your family also maybe she has more indepth problems and she is using this to block it out, talk to her and see if she will see some one...
2007-10-28 18:34:19 · answer #10 · answered by jak33 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋