He was drafted and was in infantry. He was shot in the head in
combat in Vietnam. He walks with a cane and speaks as though he has had a stroke.
For many years he has slept in his own bedroom as he kicks and fights in his sleep due to PTSD.
He is a great guy. He is not cruel or mean to his family. However he is rather difficult to live with and do family things together.
He is very racist and it's getting to the point that after 40 years
of marriage my mom is about ready to call it quits......as in
divorce.
He cannot watch any news, movie, DVD movie, anything without using derogatory racial and ethnic remarks which my mother has had talks with him many times in the past. She explains to him that it upsets her and then he is good for a little while and then starts again.
2007-10-28 12:07:27 · 3 answers · asked by thefinalresult 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
has anyone bothered to call veterans affairs? or the local v.a. hospital? they are better equipped to deal with this.he should have gotton help a long time ago. it's going to be pretty hard to break a habit that's gone on for so long.
2007-10-28 12:59:05 · answer #1 · answered by racer 51 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your Mom needs counseling in learning how to deal with your Dad's PTSD. Ask her to get counseling, rather than throwing the towel in.
2007-10-28 19:23:49 · answer #2 · answered by janetrmi 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you need to tell your mom that she has to figure out how to deal with him.. maybe look at what he says and how he reacts with a sense of humor, or with a little more compassion by remembering what he went thru. no one that i know of would want to be shot in the head and left the way he is. or just tell her to not take it so seriously. this is the way he has to deal with his life and ailments. your father will not change. she 's going to have to.
2007-10-28 19:11:58 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋