My ex force our 16 yr old daughter to stay in his house every other weekend, but she does not want it. They always end up with fight, because he is treting her like a little baby and he does not realise that she is almost adult. She is very good student, she has a drivers licence and also she has a part time job. He is threating me that he won`t pay child support anymore if she does not want to go in his house. By the way they do not talk. He hurt our daughter`s feelings and told her to find another father. She is very disapointed. He threats with police this comming friday. I do not know what to do to protect my child. She went thru a lot , she was a witness of our fights. Please help
Can he makes her go over his house if she does not want it??
2007-10-28 10:45:54 · 20 answers · asked by mina d 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I forgot to mention that we both have a cutody!!!
2007-10-28 11:10:01 · update #1
I do not tell my kids not to go or to talk to their father. My younger daughter,she is 14, she sees him every other weekend and does not have such a problems because she is afraid of him. He was an alcoholic and on drugs for 20 years.
2007-10-28 11:32:31 · update #2
Get an attorney fast. At age 16, she shouldn't be obligated to see her father, especially if he disrespects her. If you can't afford an attorney, call legal aid and see if they can help you. Good luck.
2007-10-28 10:51:21 · answer #1 · answered by katydid 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
At 16, if she doesnt want to go then theres really nothing neither can do about it. He can threaten all he wants to and even take you back to court over this (this is when you bring up all his threats and everything that goes on when she is there to the Judge). Nothing will happen to your child support as not even the Judge can make her go if she doesnt want to, especially if she has just reason for not doing so. Also the police cant do anything about this as this is beyond their capabilities unless something illegal is involved. The legalsystem is on your side here but keep a detailed record of any contact you have with dad and any witnesses will help if this does end up in court. Good luck
2007-10-28 18:01:41 · answer #2 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How often she visits him shouldn't have anything to do with him paying child support. His wages should be garnished anyway so there's no way he could stop paying support without a court order. He's threatening with the police to scare you but there's nothing they can do. He's obviously a control freak and wants to control your daughter and ultimately you. I'd call a lawyer and ask for a consultation because if your daughter has a job and other responsibilites, he should back off and let her do what she needs to do. The more he forces her to stay with him, the more she is going to resent him and once she's 18, she'll cut herself off from him completely.
2007-10-28 17:58:01 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the law has decided that he should have her every other weekend then she should go.
As an adult you should support the laws decision unless he is seen as an unfit parent. You taking her side only shows her that the law does not have to be followed if you don't want to and that her father is not an important person in her life.
She is still a child, which is why you still have custody of her and are still responsible for her. If she was an adult she would not have to have someone having custody of her. You are spoiling her.
Stop being a friend and be a parent.
2007-10-28 17:54:38 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
She can protest thru your attorney to the judge to not have to visit him anymore. She is old enough that the judge will take her wishes into consideration. Or to atleast not have to stay the weekends there. Sounds like theres somethings he has done that she needs to work through in her own head to be ok with him again and his behaving this way is not gonna help. I would suggest counseling but thats not always the answer and they both probably would not agree to go. My advice consult your attorney.
2007-10-28 18:48:51 · answer #5 · answered by babygirl_k2001 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is what we were told everytime we went to court.
Child support is not connected to visitation. The laws are different state by state but usually by the time the child is 16 they are allowed to decide where they stay. It is up to your daughter to go or not. You can call legal aid or a lawyer or go to the courthouse and ask them.
2007-10-28 18:00:53 · answer #6 · answered by just me 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is 16 so I think it is up to her..I think it is once she is 13 and I am also pretty sure he still has to pay child support untill she is done school...I would do everything in your power to not let her go ...My father abused me as a child and I never told a sole and I too was forced to go to his home but by my mom so PLEASE stand up for your daughters rights and help her to have the courage NOT to go ...and take him back to court GOOD LUCK I hope it all works out :)
2007-10-28 17:53:41 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
In most cases until a child is 18, they have no choices regarding visitation. You could try to file a motion for the visitation to stop on the basis of emotional abuse. He would still have to pay child support. Child support is to help financially support the child to adulthood, it's not payment for visitation rights.
2007-10-28 17:55:05 · answer #8 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would ask my lawyer about this and see what he says.In Texas if a child that old doesn't want to go visit the Judge usually will not force her,and as far as child support goes he will pay it until she is 18 or I would put his *** in jail for not paying.Do not let him get away with bullying you anymore,you deserve better and he deserves a lot less.
2007-10-28 17:54:29 · answer #9 · answered by old lady 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I think that YOU should encourage your daughter to have a good relationship with her father.
You may hate his guts, but that has no bearing on the she should feel about him.
Grow up and encourage your daughter to spend time with her father. In the long run, it is the right thing to do.
2007-10-28 17:56:21 · answer #10 · answered by Ti 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋