I want to get married next year to my long-distance girl friend of 2 years. Money is an issue to me though. I always want more so that I'll have have enough to take cae of the finances. I figure that by next year... I'll have $50,000 saved up and a $10,000 car. I have two more years of school but afterwards I will be a graduate and plan to be a RN. I wont ever be a millionaire, but I think I'll have enough enough to provide for my wife and children without having much saved up at the ned of my life. Is that ok to live with.. or should I strive to have a ton of money saved up (wait longer until I get married) so that I can leave my family with a lot by the time I die. Thanks.
2007-10-28 09:51:35 · 12 answers · asked by gododjgjodjod 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Not too many people I know of in my circle of friends can say they are starting a marriage with $50K in the bank. I could probably count all of them on one hand and have fingers left over. I know I didn't start out with hardly anything in the bank, and well it hasn't gotten much bigger either...the bank account I mean...lol I take care of my family and kids, sure I'm concerned about the future, whether or not I'm going to be able to provide for them like I really want too. But I don't let it stress me out too bad. I know I'm taking care of them now and will work my tale off to take care of them as long as I'm alive. Just be happy in the fact that you have a person that you love and want to marry, not too many can say that and consider it a bonus that you have the $50k to start. Have fun and enjoy life, don't sweat the small stuff and money is small stuff when it comes to life. I've never heard or known anyone to say on their death bed, "I wish I would have made more money" Most wish they would have spent more time with loved ones, kids, etc etc.
2007-10-28 10:09:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You just asked two completely different things. It isn't necessary to have a big wedding. Actually having a bigger wedding that you can afford is one way to start your marriage on the wrong foot. Money and having similar ideas about money is very important in a marriage. Both people should have similar goals when it comes to money. Because even though money will not give you happiness-- lack of money or money problems can cause severe stress.
2016-05-25 22:37:21 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. Money can be equated with living easily and that is all. It's how we live our lives and it's who we love that is important. The things that money can buy pass away. It's just a car... It's just a restaurant. It's just a house. It's also not how u get there... just go. It's not where u eat... just do. It's not only a house... it should be a 'home'. Money is a necessary evil, but it's not an absolute requirement to live a full and wonderful life and to have a fabulous marriage.
2007-10-28 10:33:13 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should never make money a priority in life you will just live a lonely and emotionally empty life. Having a wife and family is one of the best pieces of life. I think you should just do what makes you happy it is like having children you will never be prepared. Trust me the saying money can't buy happiness is true. Money can make you happier but if you lack happiness to begin with well it won't help.
Get married start your family and just be happy money is just paper do not let it control your actions.
Good Luck, Best Wishes and may God Bless You!
2007-10-28 10:10:26 · answer #4 · answered by Livinrawguy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is money all that important? It's pretty tough to live without it, so I'd say that's important, yeah.
Many couples marry without any savings or thought for their financial future, so you've got a good headstart. Marry any time you are ready, but keep putting money in savings or investements so there'll always be something for a 'rainy day'.
Good luck!
2007-10-28 10:04:43 · answer #5 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't ever allow it to be an issue,because when it does become one your marriage will only be worth what's in your bank account,if you love her you will find that you are willing to forfit all you own for her and vice versal if she feels the same.true happiness in a marriage is knowing regardless of what you 2 go through together you can make it as long as you work together.if it's base on the comfort and security of money what happens if years down the line God forbid something drastic happens and you find yourself broke,it happens all of the time to people.your marriage will probably crumble,so goes your money so goes your happiness.i guess thats why i like to see young people BUILD alife together and not have it handed to them because the stuggle makes them so much stronger as a unit,they appreciate it more and in time of trials and tribulations they know how to handle it,don't waste the years trying to reach a goal apart,when you can accomplish the same one even faster together.
2007-10-28 11:51:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Right up there with trust, sex etc.... but keep it in pespective.
If you are already thinking of leaving money when you die, then you are obsessed. Relax, enjoy the money you earn with your wife, and if there is any left over for your kids then that is a bonus. Money earned WHILE you are married will mean more to both of you.
2007-10-28 10:02:45 · answer #7 · answered by fwflyer 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is a good thought about being financially well taken care of.
What you have will help to have good start in a married life. Do not be concerned that you should get more before getting married. You sound very conservative with money and you will do well after you are married.
2007-10-28 09:58:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
money is important but like everything else, it should all be kept in perspective. You need money to live life but you can also have life pass you by while you are so busy collecting money.
2007-10-28 12:14:47 · answer #9 · answered by nidan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
is money that important.. hmm, lets see...
buy a house - takes money
pay rent - takes money
have kids - takes money
buy cars - takes money
hire a sitter - takes money
buy diapers - takes money
pay credit card bills - takes money
pay utility bills - takes money
buy rubbers to prevent kids and std's - takes money
buy beer - takes money
go out - takes money
2007-10-28 09:57:17 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋