Does every one feel they are not appreciated quite enough by their partners?

Question

or do you feel as though you get back as much as you give?

Interesting that after 10 answers no men have said that they feel appreciated!

Answer 1

Ok, been married 20 years, the truth is it goes in cycles. It is not always 50/50 or even 60/40. Each partner has their strengths and weaknesses and what goes on in your day to day life may change the give and take percentages. It is also very easy to get caught up in the day to day stresses of life and take your partner for granted. If you feel like you are being taken for granted, try sowing into the relationship. Start doing for your partner extra things. You may not reap the rewards right away, but you usually do reap them.

Also, if you keep a tally of who does what, you will drive yourself crazy.

Answer 2

I do a lot for my husband. But at the end of day it does not matter who did more. There are time when my husband is away for eight months at a time. I take care of everything. The two kids, bills, the house, the dogs, the five vechiles and work full time. I often find myself think why do I stay with him, but then I remember that he does do alot. When he is hope he cooks, cleans and take care of everything else. Instead of keeping track of everything you do keep track of everything he does and thank him. He will get use to you saying thank you and he will start to thank you also. Give a little to get a little. I have also done most of my husband two year degree online for him. There are lost of time I feel he does not appreciates me, but hay it is my chocie to do it all. Without me he would just do it by himself without. Pick your battle wisely.

Answer 3

There are times when I don't feel appreciated-there are times when my husband doesn't feel appreciated. It's a difficult thing sometimes to be around someone 24/7 and still remember to take time to tell them/show them appreciation....it's not like you spend a lot of time away from eachother missing eachother and thinking about eachother in that appreciative, romantic way that happens when you're apart for a while-you see eachother everyday so it's easy to take things for granted sometimes.

The best thing to do (from my experience) is to try not to "keep score" of who is or isn't appreciated, but instead focus on appreciating your partner as much and as often as you can, and speaking up *immediately* when you don't feel appreciated.

If you just sit on your feelings they will simmer until it becomes a big fight-instead just say something simple as soon as you start to feel that way. Something simple and pretty non-confrontational like "hey, hun-I know you've been busy (doing) ______, but I was pretty proud of myself for (doing) _________ and was hoping you'd notice." I'm sure that'll bring some attention to your needs. And if you focus on showing them more appreciation, I guarantee the same appreciation will come right back to you.

Good luck.

Answer 4

I do feel appreciated by my partner probably 80% of the time. Sometimes I feel like I am working very hard on relationship things, or trying to please him more than he does to me and he doesn't seem to notice or care, but I know in general he cares about me so much. I am definitely way more satisfied than unsatisfied.

I wish he would verbally SAY that he appreciates me a little more because hearing it really makes it real for me, but he doesn't always do that and he expresses it in other ways so I am happy.

Answer 5

Nope, sometimes I feel as if I don't appreciate him enough because he does most of the housework, but I try to keep up too, but I'm really not good at that kind of thing and my depression and anxiety doesn't help! I don't think he feels under appreciated though, because I try to do other things for him to show how much I care and appreciate him.

Answer 6

Oh yes I do most of the time. But I have long patience and I try to make his job as an excuse for it at times, of course we can never stop the feeling of being unappreciated. So the best thing to do is to talk and say what you want or else you'll end up erupting like a volcano one of these days. goodluck!

Answer 7

Wow...thats alot. sit down possibly and vent first with a stable buddy or relatives member. Then get some stable concepts from them. communicate on your husband once you dont experience like crying and be undemanding with him. tell him the way you experience. in case you the two take on the duty, like a married couple ought to, then the load wont look so undesirable. Your husband married you for a reason and could be keen to do in spite of it takes to make issues paintings and be much less confusing on you, extraordinarily suitable now. Take a deep breath and attempt to cool down. Your little one cant look after that style of stress

Answer 8

I do. I guess I'm one of the fortunate few men out here that does feel appreciated.
We both give and take. Sometimes it's a matter of one trying to out do the other, as it should be.

Answer 9

Here's the way it works. You give 100%, and if your fortunate,
once in a while your partner gives 1 or 2%.
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Sorry, but there you are.

Answer 10

everyone these days have less and less time too concentrate on what there partner needs but i have learned too compliment my husband everyday even when im mad at him and by doing that he in return has started to do the same for me it may take awhile but hang in there and eventually they will pick up on the idea