This is part question, part just...open if anyone wants to share their thoughts....
I haven't lived with my parents for a couple years, and it's been fine, I've done pretty well on my own and haven't lived at home for more than a couple weeks at a time since I graduated high school. This summer, my parents began the process of getting a divorce, and recently my mom got her own house 20 or so miles away.
The thought of being home for the holidays makes me want to stay in my dorm for all of the holiday season.
Has anyone been in this situation? How did you choose which parent to be with? and just any thoughts on the first time going home to a family that's not together any longer?
2007-10-28 18:55:20 · 4 answers · asked by Sarah 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I am the grown child of divorced parents and also a divorced parent myself.
We split holidays. If it was too far to travel on the same day, we saw each other the day before or after and each year alternate the "real" day. My parents were much harder to deal with than my ex and I are being!
What are your traditions? If there is a particular holiday that is more important to one parent or family section then go with that side. If they are equally important, then you need to split them. This year with one, next year with the other. If they all make it too difficult or lay a guilt trip on you, it is a good time to take a vacation and not go to either side.
You learn to value the time spent together and hopefully they will too.
2007-10-28 19:51:43 · answer #1 · answered by dizzkat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm only divorced for two years. My kids are in college. When the holidays come around they spend it with both of us. a few nights at Dads then a few nights with me. It was weird for all of us in the beginning, but they have adjusted and after a few holidays like that it gets more comfortable for everyone. They like having two Thanksgivings lol. Good luck honey...I know it's hard for the kids :( I hope you enjoy your holidays again.
2007-10-28 19:03:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow!! i won't be able to have self assurance all that funds it is being given out... with a bit of luck the mum is saving some for college!! assisting with college is wonderful -- books, classes, and so forth... yet as quickly as 18, i think of it could end. You already pay the cellular telephone bill and help with a automobile.. it is extremely sufficient!!!!! it is stupid to furnish them funds for mothers presents!! OMG.. would not the mum artwork?? you're able to furnish some funds once you spot her grades in college--if the grades are stable, supply her some spending funds. I have been given a scholarship so my mom and father gave me spending funds each and each month... definite, it grew to become into super of them and that i in my view liked it. some months, i could spend it and different cases i could keep it... i could defiantly look over all this funds that is going in direction of them. Do you particularly could pay for the two automobile coverage and cellular telephone bill?? i assume it is your decision.. stable good fortune!
2016-11-09 19:37:04 · answer #3 · answered by laubersheimer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I AMA DIVORCED PARENT OF A COLLEGE (soph)
We do not have that problem . Her father does not have a place for her to stay. Her bedroom in at my apt.. He has moved in with another person. She visits dad whenever she wants. I do not stand in the way of that. He lives close and she can come and go as she wants.
2007-10-28 19:17:23 · answer #4 · answered by littlerascal711 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋