Is it legal for me too...?

Question

Is it legal for me too?Change the locks so that my husband cant get into our home again.My hubby and i have been married almost 3.5 years now and its been very rocky.We met while we were both sill in college i was a freshman and he was going for his masters.He was nothing like he is today.We got married after i graduaed and thats when trouble started.My hubby is a workacholic and thats his obsession.While we were dating though he made time for me but when we got married i got pushed aside.Unbeknownst to me he was also becoming an alcoholic and becoming addicted to prescription drugs .After 8-9months of marriage he just up and left after a melt down because he was fiered.For 6 months i had no clue where he was so i filed for divorce and started seeing an ex.bf.Hubby came back begging me to try again and i caved.I found out i was pregnant, he was made aware of the paternity(unsure) situation and said it did not matter he never wanted to know .Well now my hubby has started up with his old ways again

Hibby is acting paraniod,constantly moody,rage outburst and is toying with my emotions/brain.I never thought he would do anything to my daughter who is now almost 2 but there was an instance last night here he came home drunk and went to her room.

I only have 1 child,not pregnant and have never slept around

Answer 1

Your story is irrelevant. If he is your husband and you have no restraining order, he has every right into the house.

If you need to start the divorce process consult an attorney.

Answer 2

No, changing the locks of the home which you and him own is legally wrong. In the eyes of the law; you both own that house and if you try in any way to prevent him from accessing his property; he could bring you up on charges, and unfortunately he might win.

On the other hand if you were able to prove that you felt your life was in danger and you had hospital visits copies (hardcopies which showed injuries that were treated) then you might have something to prove should you go to court.

You are free to move out if you so choose, then you could do the court thing.

Have you tried speaking to him, or trying to resolve this issue? It would be a shame to have a divorce and do that to the kids.
All the above advice is applied depending on the country and state you live in.

Good luck, in what ever you decide.

Answer 3

First you need to call the police should he become a threat to you or your unborn child.
If he is still living there and paying bills then you are going to run into problems keeping him out legally.
Talk with a lawyer before you start making hasty decisons, that can and will affect you during the divorce proceedings. I really think you need to get your husband to go to counseling and you as well because regardless this is a lot of stress and emotions in this situation and again you want the best for each person especially this child that you are carrying.

Answer 4

I don't believe it is illegal to change the locks on your own home at all. If you believe that your marriage is worth saving you guys should see a counselor or your local head of church if you are religious for help to fix his problem. Since your are pregnant things are obviously much more complicated but you have to think about your childs future too. Some guys after they have a kid completely unscrew their crap once they realize they have a child to support and out of love for that child be willing to change all of their ways. If you don't believe in him then all i have to say about that is life is far too short to be unhappy. I don't think that locking him out is the answer though unless he is a threat to you and your baby. That would be like putting a bandaid on a bullet wound, its hardly a temporary fix. If you avoid a problem it doesn't go away it just gets bigger til it bites you when your not looking. I wish you the best of luck and i hope this helps.

Answer 5

If he is a danger to you and your unborn child you need to get help ASAP. Get a restraining order and then change to locks.

Call a lawyer right away, call the police and get a restraining order. If you don't feel safe in your house, stay with a friend.

I am worried about you. Do NOT let this man back in your life, whether or not he is the father of your child.

Answer 6

Of course you can change the locks!! Wouldn't you do it of someone had broken in....or the lock became unoperable?

But I'd also start legal proceedings to cover yourself, get an injunction, file for separation, file for divorce. If you want child support from him you'll have to prove paternity...good luck on getting DNA evidence from him, but you might be able to eliminate the boyfriend. As for seeing alimoney from this guy and child support if warranted, good luck. But get him out of your life. He's got mental problems, your life with him would be ..........unpleasant. Your child's life would be........well, you know. OH and by the way, in these days of multiple birth control..........USE THEM! No excuse for bringing a child into life when your's is so messy.......it borders on child abuse.

Answer 7

You should see a lawyer, that way you will know exactly what your rights are. Let them know about the baby situation also. Since you may have to go through with this divorce, you will need professional advice from people who know the laws and how they work. Do this asap and before you change the locks.

Answer 8

Yes, unfortunately, it is illegal and you would get in BIG trouble for doing something like that.

If you feel like your husband is "out of control" and are afraid that you could possibly be in danger, you need to take the inntiative to leave the home and stay someplace else until you can get the situation resolved.

Answer 9

If he lives there as well you can change the locks but you need to file for a divorce again as well.The police may let him back in if you don't file the papers.Since you are getting a divorce because he worked to much you surely wouldn't want any of his money would you?

Answer 10

You need to consult with your attorney and change those locks! You will need to get a paternity test to determine who the father of your child is, if you really want to know, and to make sure that you and your unborn baby are safe. Do you have a place to go? Do you have family support? Do you have any money? You'll need to get your bank account and affairs in order before he does! Good luck!

Answer 11

First thing you need to do is get an attorney and a restraining order. File for a separation. Convince him to get counseling for his problems. If he does not, file for sole custodity of your child. Remember protecting the kid is most important of all. If necessary, look for some help in your area. Get out of the destructive situation before he drags you down with him.