it's been 14 long years since i heard any news , and what i don't understand is why do i still have this thing for her ? although i knew that shes happy and having all the time of her life right now and i have a relationship for more than 13 years. but still theres a piece of me that saying to 'tell her about this feeling i still have '.
2007-10-31 21:48:18 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well we all carry a torch for an old flame---we normally never do anything about it--what exactly do you hope to gain by making contact?? It will probably lead to BIG trouble or a disappointment for you---wait a while--you'll eventually see it is a silly idea. Why the fascination with a girl from so long ago?? I mean you sound like you are dwelling on this...are you unhappy with the woman you have?? You better work on fixing your issues at home--- if there are any. Don't get caught dreaming about this girl or any other girl--your present woman just won't understand....they hate all that mid life crisis crap. You better forget this stuff and get busy at home...you know what i mean !!
2007-10-31 21:56:17 · answer #1 · answered by fire_inur_eyes 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a similar thing with someone I knew when I was at school. I still dream about him now, even though I'm in a really brilliant relationship. I think that your first love is something really special and there is a part of you that just "stays there". Personally I think that the dream of what they are like is greater than the reality and if you ended up with them, all that soft glowing special feeling would eventually turn to regular every day stuff. I suggest that you cherish that as it is - a fantasy, and that it would never be good to make it a reality as it would deminish what a special thing it is. I say walk on and enjoy the warm fuzzy feeling but be greatful you have a real stable relationship that you can rely on.
2007-11-01 04:55:38 · answer #2 · answered by alena m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U must stop living in the past, Perhaps she was ur soul mate, but why tell her how u feel after all this time and destroy other lives by doing so. Use ur energy in strengthening ur 13 yr. relationship. If u know shes happy, leave well enough alone and get on with ur own life. Apparently she doesn`t feel the same about you, so stop thinking only of ur own feelings and live in the present. Stop chasing a dream.
2007-11-01 05:21:02 · answer #3 · answered by flamingo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can tell you this when anyone enters your life and make's a impact you never forget that person, the pass is not erasable its what makes us who we are today. I think you will always have her in your life even if is in your thoughts, its hard to tell your mind not to think of that person. I also think its normal, if she is meant to be part of your life someday so be it, but I wouldn't look her up. It will happen all on its own if its meant to be, for now make yourself happy with what you have and not what you don't. Life is way to short to ponder over anyone, so enjoy your partner in the moment she is who you should be focusing on.
2014-01-17 15:43:29 · answer #4 · answered by Miriam 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO no no, you keep those feelings hid in your heart.
Some times a person still has a piece of our hearts,
that's just sad for us, we have to try harder to appreciate
what we have.
Please try not to think of it, when the thought comes,
just say " No" and think of something else, I have been doing this for 20+ years.
I will not allow myself the luxury of slipping into the
thoughts.
God has given me so much, and I will do nothing to let the thoughts of the other person into my mind.
Please try to move out of the way you are thinking, God has all so given you a new family,
REJOICE, thank God for the loving family you have now,
God bless
2007-11-01 05:21:31 · answer #5 · answered by luvspace 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you are in love with her still? Maybe only you could answer why. I don't understand the whole love thing anyway. Like everyone else I suppose, I just want the real thing with somebody one day. To me though, love is very superficial.
2007-11-01 04:55:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have spent important part of your growing up with her and shared her love and sorrow when you were together.
You may also have shared her talents, achievements and was there for her and she was there for you when you attained the goals one by one.
You have to once go see her to easy your mind.
PS: It is not love that you have for her.
I went through the same thing and am happy that I did.
I started my second inning in my life and am happy.
2007-11-01 04:55:15 · answer #7 · answered by Vartha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't think you're in love, i think you're just thinking how it would have been for the two of you together. move on and let her go. she is happy and you're sad thinking about her. don't live in the past cause people change after time. maybe now it wouldn't work out. cause I'm sure you don't act like you did 13 years ago and don't think she does either.
2007-11-01 04:54:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
can i ask a question??? how did you broke up? was it bad? maybe you just felt that there was a lot of things unsaid...
try to resolve this issue, for you to have a good relationship with your current girlfriend... stop being unfair to her... you can't say that you'll simply ignore this feeling, Heller! it has already been 14 years, and you seem to be not over her...
2007-11-01 10:58:00 · answer #9 · answered by ♀ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So tell her and let the other one go, your not Fair to anyone in this little picture, maybe the grass isn't as green as you imagine it would be, look deep before you leap and for god sake don't keep the other one as a safety net, that isn't love that's convenience.
2007-11-01 06:07:51 · answer #10 · answered by want2flybye 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋