Infidelity has existed for as long a man. It is a known fact that man is not perfect. So, if a man/woman cheated on his/her spouse, can you really conclude that as grounds for a divorce? Of course if he/she continues to cheat, but what if he/she only cheated once? Even after a 3, 4, 5, 15 year marriage? It’s not only about discipline, but I think it’s more about the nature of man. (Women included!) You mean to tell me, that you are going to just throw away years of happiness? What about all your memories, and experiences together? What about your love for each other? Plus, then you’d have to rebuild what you had all over again, investing valuable time and trying to replace what isn’t replaceable. Why can’t we accept that fact that we aren’t perfect? Plus, although marriage is sacred, it’s not like you get married JUST for sex! No pun intended, if your marriage only revolves around sex, then perhaps you should strongly question the ethics and moral of your union. I know some liberals would suggest that we all get married for different reasons. But how can you just come along and redefine marriage? A union according to societies and the traditions our nation was built on, would surely defy a marriage based solely on sex. What do you think?
2007-10-31 17:58:58 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I really like a lot of you guys’ answers! But, don’t jump to conclusions too fast! I’m happily married, with two beautify baby girls! Not only have I been with my spouse for over 7 years, but we have not even had a single bad argument! She the best! I just wanted to hear different perspectives on this issue!
2007-10-31 18:44:48 · update #1
I really like a lot of you guys’ answers! But, don’t jump to conclusions too fast! I’m happily married, with two beautify baby girls! Not only have I been with my spouse for over 7 years, but we have not even had a single bad argument! She the best! I just wanted to hear different perspectives on this issue!
2007-10-31 18:44:58 · update #2
Infidelity is one of those topics that are hard to touch on. When people get married they are not expecting perfection. At least I am not! I understand you are not perfect but... if we are married I do have standards that I want you to meet. If you do not live up to them then, what am I suppose to do? Am I supposed to be unhappy? Is that even right?
Okay so one person has cheated. What’s next? I think that is depends on the marriage in the end. If one cheated and the other did not! Does that make the other partner perfect? No… the other partner was loyal to the marriage. Why aren’t you? In some cases, people do leave a marriage because of that. I don’t think that I would leave but… I would be hurt and angry. Speaking as a woman, I would feel insecure and undesirable.
2007-10-31 18:57:37 · answer #1 · answered by ielleyby 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-15 18:02:34 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is Infidelity Grounds For Divorce
2016-11-01 06:06:42 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In some marriages it is a deal breaker and in others there is still hope, if the cheater has some remorse. It does not really matter what the cheater thinks. It basically depends on what the cheated on spouse thinks. Some spouses could continue with the marriage, even if the cheating had been going on for a while, while others may feel that only 1 occurrence is intolerable. Every marriage is individual. I can't understand the purpose of your argument. It isn't going to change the feeling of a spouse who is hurt by being cheated on. If your truly feel the way you are talking, either don't get married, or marry a like minded person.
2007-10-31 18:27:40 · answer #4 · answered by Don't Wanna Die 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is not based on sex but that does not mean that we want our spouses sleeping with someone else. What about the love for each other? The spouse that cheated is the one that tarnished that not the one that is upset about the cheating. The cheater is the one that needs to look at the morals and ethics of their union. The memories and experiences are still there. The happiness is ruined by the cheater. Are you trying to justify your cheating. Do not do this at the expense of everyone else's marriage. Trust is the thing that is irreplaceable. If my husband cheats once or 40 times I am getting a divorce. People need to have more respect for their spouses than to do this.
2007-10-31 18:09:23 · answer #5 · answered by kim h 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I think it's all up to you, and once a cheat always a cheat and yes even one time cheating is ground for divorce, but than again you have to make up your mind if you are welling to live with it or let it go.
2007-10-31 18:05:35 · answer #6 · answered by I am women 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it is grounds for divorce. Once trust has been violated in a relationship things can never go back to the way they were before. You might forgive the person but can you forget? Every time your with your husband/wife who cheated aren't you going to think about them cheating?
2007-10-31 18:45:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have never been in this situation, but I guess it depends on the couple and how they feel about it. I know that in *my* marriage it would not cause us to divorce. It would cause *serious* trust issues and a *lot* of therapy, but my husband and I believe that marriage is truely for better and for worse no matter what forever and the only thing that would make us divorce is physical abuse (which we've never had reason to worry about either).
2007-10-31 18:10:22 · answer #8 · answered by lovelymrsm 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I am selfish and don't share my toys well. If my husband cheated on me and I don't care how long we are married, kids, whatever it would not matter, his a s s would be living in a van down by the river. Marriage works when the people in the marriage want to make it work.
2007-10-31 18:09:23 · answer #9 · answered by Simply Lovely 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because it breaks all trust. How can you ever trust that man again or woman again? You can't! And if anyone says they can, they are flat out kidding themselves! If people are willing to give their partners a second chance, then good for them but they can't deny that they're relationship will ever be the same again. 'Cause that trust has been broken and will never be put together successfully ever again.
2007-10-31 18:04:09 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋