my marriage life is a failure, husband does not want to go for work, me working earning well, two kids, husband always suspicious and now i have a good friend with whom i go out and spend time together, i am very much attached to him, he makes me happy in every way, i was attached to him more because of my husbands suspicious talk, i am happy when he is around even though my husband hates me he want to sleep with me daily which i dont allow, because i dont love him at all, i dont have any guilty feeling that i am having an affair, how to tell this to my husband, can any one guide me
2007-10-31 23:45:23 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Tell your husband frankly that you want to end this marriage as neither you love him any more, nor you want to stay with him as a wife. You need not bring your affair in this conversation but if he makes any remark tell him yes you are having affair & want to continue it. Just tell him to leave you now, rather then making your life hell any more. Although all such talks will make things difficult for you & you should be ready to walk out with your kids after this, for this reason make some arrangement for your living in advance. You need not give a penny to him when you leave & let him suffer for rest of his life. As far taking legal divorce is concerned ,need not go for it immediately, but if your husband insist for it then agree for divorce by mutual consent on one condition that you will not give him any permanent maintenance/alimony which he will be thinking for this divorce. I told this considering you both are Hindus & married according to Hindu form of marriage which is covered under the Hindu Marriage Act,1955 & which provides for such maintenance even to husband who has no income & is unable to maintain himself, so be careful regarding this legal issue & only agree for divorce if he forgo his this demand not otherwise.
2007-11-01 01:29:24 · answer #1 · answered by vijay m Indian Lawyer 7 · 5⤊ 0⤋
1. No, if a lot of people were dying at BTC, they'd get rid of the cadre and start over. 2. For the most part, everyone is treated the same. You do have to be careful about sexual assaults, etc., especially when deployed. That's why you get a "Battle Buddy" to always be around. 3. It is better for someone to have come into the military as enlisted and then later become an officer, if they so choose. In my opinion, it's better because you will have a better understanding of what your enlisted subordinates deal with on a daily basis. 4. Hopefully you will not have to deal with this but if you get injured one of two things will happen. First, you may continue the job as long as it's within your physical limitations, or move to another position. Second, you could be medically discharged. If you really want to stay in, there are ways to make it happen. I've had broken bones and a few surgeries since I've been in and the Army and am about to retire at my 20 year mark. Good luck.
2016-05-26 06:32:05 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's quite obvious where your situation is going if you are positive neither of you can can bring back the love once found together...
If then you have your mind made up, just hire a lawyer to begin the proceedings and after they have been filed would be the best time to tell your husband. Telling him sooner may or may not worsen the situation with but more promises he will not fulfill... He will be sequested to the hearing but may refuse to attend...his choice...!
Depending upon the state you live in and because you have children, you both may be required to have family therepy before a judge will grant you a divorce...be aware of that and don't make swift plans to move out unless you or the children are being physically abused and are endangered...
So sad...
2007-11-01 00:10:14 · answer #3 · answered by farplaces 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It seems that you don't love your husband anymore. Or do you still love him?
Don't you have any plan to save your marriage?
If love doesn't exist anymore, what's the use of living together?
Or you can give him a chance, work it out together. Let him find work and help you support the family.
You are a married woman ... at least do something to save your marriage.
One day, you have something to tell to your two daughters that you did your best to save your family.
Now, if you are really decided. Talk to him in a nice way ... that you can't go on like this. That it is him who drove you away from him.
Life is short.
2007-11-01 00:09:32 · answer #4 · answered by always confuse 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As u said u hate ur husband then why r u not getting out of this relation, divorce him & be a free bird since u r also earning well , then ur financial problem is also solved u can easily raise ur kids,
& if this man is ready 2 marry u , u can go ahead & marry him, in this way ur kids will have a father also, & if this guy is not ready 2 marry u still u can lead ur life happily . But just divorce this idiot . Just remember financial independence is ur greatest support.
Best wishes
2007-11-01 01:35:19 · answer #5 · answered by shilpee r 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's not working that's why he's suspicious and your the one who's earning.your being pushed to see other man bec. ur husband is like that u want to have an affection w/c maybe the other guy can give, why not sit down & talk to husband. you're both old enough there's no point of living together w/o love you'll both just suffer if u don't find answers to this at once.
2007-11-01 00:45:58 · answer #6 · answered by judith k 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is the man you are having an affair with willing to help you raise your girls if you divorce your husband! Most men enter into an affair with a married woman to avoid comitments and visa versa.Think of your girls future number one,and be honest with your husband as his suspitions came true.Only tell him if you know for sure he would not get violent.you never should have started your affair.I would hold off till you are divorced as you are setting a bad example for your kids.Get out of your situation at home ASAP if you are absolutly certain theirs' no future for you both.
2007-11-01 00:03:28 · answer #7 · answered by JackieG 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Obviously your husband has disappointed you in your marriage. However, your affair is called adultery. For how long do you think you can keep going on this way? Since you have decided that your marriage and relationship is over, you need to make that clear to your husband also.
2007-10-31 23:58:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you are doing the right thing cos for better or worst you should hold on to your once beloved husband.You should try and talk to your husband to get some job doing and earn a living, provide and protect his family at all times, as he once promised. Having an affair outside will not help matters and for the sake of your children please try and respect yourself.
2007-11-01 00:58:35 · answer #9 · answered by okisput 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are the bread winner because he does not work you should move on in your life.There is nothing holding you back.It sounds like he is dependent on you.Remember that you earn your money and you are not dependent on him to provide for you.Why stay with some one you do not love.One Little tip the problem will not improve your marriage if you have stopped loving your husband.Once the feelings are gone they never come back.Follow your heart.All the best.
2007-11-01 00:52:30 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋