We both inlove with each other in fact he introduced me already to his family except for his wife.he got problem with his wife attitude even his parents are not favor on his wife because of her very bad attitude.really he wants to divorced his wife but for the right time as what he said since he has 3 kids and his wife has some psychiatic problem which leads him to worry since we are both working abroad. he cannot divorce his wife this time since we are both outside and he is afraid what would be the action taken by his wife to his kids...what shall i do please advise me....really i don't know what to do..her wife used to hurt his kids even the kids are afraid to their motther esp the eldest one...in short he is really not happy for his married life and there is no divorce in philippines..please try to advice me i really don't know what to do, we are more than one year in our relationship now.
2007-10-31 18:48:10 · 14 answers · asked by chell 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
yes thanks for that advices i received but i realyy want more....i told myself once he will get vacation he will be the one to tell personally to his wife about separation...or let's say he must make an action regarding this matter..once he return and still no development will happen, so maybe that will be the right time that i really need to depart him.. i informed him already that he must do actions once he will go vacation cos if not we really need to separate even how much i loved him....is it right to think that way?
and one more thing...i bought their house in my country because her mother wants to sold it that is why i was the buyer of that.it's form my own pocket personnaly without the help of my bf..thinking that we can be together forever someday....really that much i loved my boyfriend
2007-10-31 20:10:14 · update #1
Please tell me the bset thig to do. shall i leave him along since we are living together...? really it is very hard for me....he don't want me to find another man for me.in fact we are planning to marry here in the country we are working now....oh i don't know what to do now?please send more advice that could satisfy me and convince me.. it's really hard for ..i hope you understand too..
2007-10-31 20:54:00 · update #2
Please tell me the bset thig to do. shall i leave him along since we are living together...? really it is very hard for me....he don't want me to find another man for me.in fact we are planning to marry here in the country we are working now....oh i don't know what to do now?please send more advice that could satisfy me and convince me.. it's really hard for ..i hope you understand too..
2007-10-31 20:54:02 · update #3
Can u please continue mailing me still i an not convinced with the replies i received.i don't know what to do...i am deeply inlove with my bf.....it is ver hard for me to stay away from him...
2007-11-03 21:14:16 · update #4
I'm sorry, but i HAD a few friends who uses the same phrase, " i'm very unhappy in my marriage, Cant divorce her for the sake of the kids." They got affair after affair, but never any of them divorce. I can't stand it.
If your story is true and his situation is real, then i suggest you give him a good test, Ask him what he think if he come to you with him KIds. If the kids is scare of their mother, then bring them to you, introduce you as more than a friend. If he is willing to do that, then you might have a chance, and i wish you good luck. If his answer is No, Give you more excuses, then i wish you have a good life.
I am a men but, Sorry, you can't trust all men, especially those who are married and been around. No matter how loving he is to you, you can't believe them, until and until and not before, they are divorce.
I wish you all the best, may your path be clear.
2007-10-31 22:11:45 · answer #1 · answered by bundy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is married so he isn't your bf. He is an adulterer and you are breaking up their home. Even if his wife does have psychiatric problems, and I doubt that to be true, he took her for better or worse AND he has "THREE" children. So you want to take him away from his kids? That is absolutely deplorable and doesn't say much for your character. He doesn't have any.
You need to break it off and move on. You are still young enough to find a SINGLE man, get married and have children of your own. His family has already made it clear they don't like what is going on so you are going to be flying alone if you pursue this and I have no doubt the kids will turn on you, too. Is that really fair to them to be without their dad? So wrong, just soooo wrong for you to stay in this and be involved with him or any married man in any way.
2007-11-01 00:13:57 · answer #2 · answered by KittyKat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am sure you are the only exception to this in the history of the world, but i think you should know that every single married man tells the other woman that his wife is crazy and hurts the kids, and, that he cant leave her or the kids because of that. he is using you. he will never leave her, and i will bet you a dollar she is the most sane person you will ever meet. and how is it that his own parents are ok with this and dont tell the wife about you?
but on the other hand, it is your story, so, whatever you say!!!
2007-10-31 19:02:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i understand that people tend to get in sticky situations that they werent trying to get in....just get out of the relationship...he most likely isnt going to leave his wife...especially if he has a family...you deserve better...things could get a lot worse...some people are crazy...if his wife has psychiatric problems it may turns for the worst if she find out about you...it could be someones life....God forbids...i think you both have done enough damage to both of your characters and well being...life is too short....the world is filled with single men. So save yourself the time.
Bottom line: Drop Him
ps
Oprah just had a show on the other woman
2007-10-31 22:05:00 · answer #4 · answered by Kelsey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
we dont have divorce here but we do have an annullment. if he wanted to end his relationship then he would find a way. stop using excuses for his actions if he is really serious about you then he would find ways to marry you but seems he find excuses why he cant. sorry but if he can do it with 1st wife why cant he do it to you someday? sorry but my ex did the same things and its HURTED badly so i hate extra marital affairs and i hate guys who try to put all the blame to their wife instead of being man enough to face their shortcomings....and both are working abroad are you sure his family likes you or likes the fact that you can add more money for them? i just hate this kind of relationship. you are single why dont you find someone who is also single then you wont cause 3 children lots of heartaches coz their dad left thier mum coz of you?its really very selfish to just think about you and the guy..think about the KIDS who would suffer too..i saw how my kids suffered coz of their dad's infedelity. trust me wifes can feel it when husband fools around.wake up its not too late for you...
2007-10-31 19:05:22 · answer #5 · answered by silly me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are being played. He has his cake and he is eating it too. Why would the guy want to divorce his wife when he has someone on the side? You and his wife are allowing him to live like this. He has total control of the situation and as much as he tells you he loves you, he is still married to someone else. Now, how much did you say he really loves you??? Because if he really loved you, he would not have a wife.
2016-04-11 07:16:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should stay out of his family problem,
which has nothing to do with you.You understand
sincerity right, what about him you only know him
for more than a year.Be honest to yourself you should be
enjoying yourself rather getting involve in
third party situation.Sorry to say that the
decision is yours,hope you straighten your
thought soon,all the best to you.
2007-10-31 20:14:01 · answer #7 · answered by Advanced Life-Form 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to get out of that situation....every married man that has an affair, has about that same situation, they dont love the wife....they have a bad marriage...same story.....so you my dear are not the first one to hear that mumbo-jumbo.....DONT LISTEN TO THAT..........get rid of him.......
I cannot believe you have put up with that for over a year....
Please get some self respect and hold your head up high and get rid of that two timing man........How would you feel if you were his wife.....and I do not care what he has told you about her.....
How would you feel if you were married and your husband was seeing someone???????????
If he will do it to the lady that had his three children.....when he marries you, he will do it to YOU!!!!!!!!!! dont forget that!!!
2007-10-31 19:02:55 · answer #8 · answered by Optimistic1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you love him and long to be with him no matter what it takes, no matter how hard it will be, no matter how people see you, then stick to him. you don't have to force yourself to stop loving him. a lot of people will say just let go and move on with life. you need a single and available guy. but when it comes to love, there is no right or wrong. so follow your heart. be happy. everything will have a solution. it is just a matter of time. strive for happiness together. cheers.:)
2007-10-31 18:58:53 · answer #9 · answered by cheer 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you will continue to be the other woman because he figures why buy the cow when he can get the milk for free. sorry, try to find a guy that's available and hope no one does the same thing to you.
2007-10-31 18:56:44 · answer #10 · answered by rebel with a cause 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋