go without sex if your on bad terms with your partner.. how long is too long..?? i think we've gone for too long but i'm not sure..1 and a half weeks..:(
2007-10-31 22:13:42 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i am 26 husband 27 married for 2 years have 1 kid still a toddler
2007-10-31 23:05:00 · update #1
Think 1.5 weeks, due to being on bad terms with your partner, is too long. Sex should never be used as a tool against someone because you are upset with them. Instead of being on bad terms, you need to sit down and talk about whatever situation is causing this. Don't allow this to change the love you have for each other. Talk, clear the air and start cuddling and teasing each other and the rest will come naturally.
By the way, I don't believe there should be a time-table of any sort as to what is too long or too short to have sex. You will have weeks when you have sex quite a bit and other times it may slow down due to illness, work, etc. - but you sure can have fun making up for the lost time.
2007-11-01 02:09:03 · answer #1 · answered by pussycat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mel, You did not clarify if you are married or not and if your question is dealing with yourself or someone else... Therefore, I will assume this is about you and your husband and that you have been married just a few years or less...
My thoughts are this...:
It is people like you that make divorce possible and divorce desirable...!!!
You have yet to learn that a relationship is 98% sexual and 2% love. If you or anyone here disagrees then fast from sex for 98 days and find out the hard way...those last two days will either be in a divorce court of someone else's bed...!
Arguments and disagreements will appear in a relationship for the rest of your life, accept it. It does not matter who is right or who is wrong but one has to give in to the situation to keep the relationship healthy...that is what real love is about, being supportive of your mate regardless of knowing he / she is wrong about something...
Working things out in a loving manner often takes time and anger only provokes more anger and leaves unsightly scars to blemish a real loving relationship...
What authority in a relationship is granted to one to "submit punishment" upon the other...? The ultimate success of a loving relationship is that of mutual sexual satisfaction and if one takes that away the satisfaction will be found elsewhere...
When times of disagreement and anger do appear then both should just sleep on it, if need be, but when morning arrives, one best be prepared to give in or conditions will grow worse, I assure you...!
Sadly spoken...
2007-11-01 05:53:08 · answer #2 · answered by farplaces 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you should never use sex as a weapon , and 1 1/2 weeks isnt really that long (im guessing you havent been married that long), at this point it seems you are more worried about having sex than working out or talking out what caused you to get on bad terms ... after arguing sex can be great reminds you that you love each other and what you have is worth fighting to keep
2007-11-01 05:55:48 · answer #3 · answered by autumn 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Are you trying to be funny, 1 1/2 weeks that's normal to go that long when your not mad at each other. We have gone 2 months and we ain't even mad at each other but we have been married 28 years.
2007-11-01 05:28:10 · answer #4 · answered by Teenie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How young are both of you?? Anyway one and a half week without sex is nothing to shout about.. If you are young and don't have sex for two weeks, may be there is an issue..
Change your attitude towards your partner
2007-11-01 05:47:49 · answer #5 · answered by AdultMale 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you SHOULD have sex after a fight. i reminds u both that u love eachother, even when u cant agree. punishing the other person by not giving them sex is just wrong, controlling, and unforgiving.
my husband and i have a rule, that we dont go to sleep angry at eachother, but if by chance we do, then as soon as we're awake, we sort it out. because its so unhealthy to stay angry at eachother, and resentment will eat away at the relationship until theres nothing left but divorce.
i say nurture ur marriage, water it with love and forgiveness, and the best thing of all, SEX. dont deprive eachother. u dont want affairs to break u up either....
2007-11-01 05:22:09 · answer #6 · answered by thatchica! 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't be worrying about sex right now, I'd be worrying about getting things right first. Who'd want to have sex when you are still on bad terms? The only time we didn't have sex was when I just had a baby, never from being upset.
2007-11-01 05:19:36 · answer #7 · answered by Linni 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't you love how most people don't even read the question properly?? Then ask about whats already been stated...lol
Honey the longer you leave the situation to fester, the uglier it can get. Try and sort out your problem sweetie and have mind blowing make up sex!!!!! Good luck.
2007-11-01 07:13:49 · answer #8 · answered by gloria b 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ive gone a month before but not because of a fight, Just because our children and work scheduals diddnt permit it. It sounds like the two of you need to work out your differences. Dont use sex or lack of it as a punishment for a fight.
2007-11-01 05:27:19 · answer #9 · answered by eightieschick70 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it depends on how frequent you usuall are..
since you have said that you think it's gone for too long, it's time to make certain you've dealt with whatever the bad terms were about and start with the make up sex!
2007-11-01 05:31:50 · answer #10 · answered by chilly 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋