Men? What would u do if ur wife cannot get along with ur family?

Question

When they quarrel who do u side most? Why?

Answer 1

i married my wife, not my family, and i will not do anything or place her in a situation that will cause her greif, my family did not like my wife and so i just told them all to go to H**l and my wife and i are happy as can be for 20 years, and i dont miss the family quarels one d**m bit.

Answer 2

Well, when you married her, you married HER. Not your family. Although you are in a tough situation, when there is a quarrel, its ok to be neutral,to a point. If there is name calling and finger pointing at your wife, well you better be a man and step in. Regardless of your family. Remember, you have to go home with her. One thing that you should ask yourselve, Would you allow your best friend to talk like that to her? So why would you let yoour family? When you got married, hopefully it was so you could start a family of your own. Im sorry but you need to tell your family that they have to get along or you wont come by.

Answer 3

your wife needs to divorce you if you dont know the answer to that question. sweetie when you married her she became your family and mom, dad, brother, sister, aunt, uncle, nephew, niece all became SECONDARY. you should have put your foot down on the very FIRST quarrel between the two. you should never be made to pick between your wife and your family but if you have too it should always be your wife regardless. you need to tell the wife and the family in front of each other that you are tied of all this bull crap and that it will stop today. from this day forward i will no longer tolerate disrespect from either one of you. you the family will respect my wife if only for the fact that she is my wife and you all love me. and you tell your wife in front of the family that she will no longer disrespect the family regardless. and if either side cant agree to this than I will have to distance myself from the both of you. tell them that they all need to grow up. there are children witnessing there behavior towards one another and it must stop now. you should have got a back bone a long time ago. if the family cant respect your wife than just stay away for a while. GodBless

Answer 4

First and foremost you need to decide within your self who you truly believe is the major cause of the problems. If it is your family, be a man and protect and honour your wife, speak to the person and people that are the problem and ask them to respect that she is your wife and if they dont you will have to erase them from your lives, but if your wife is the cause and is difficult for your family to try to deal with then she should step up and be your wife by supporting your contact with your family whether she agrees or not, and to hold her tounge. If she cant do this is she then really the person you want to spend the rest of your life with?Unfortunately for you if you can't find some harmony you may loose one or both.

Answer 5

I am not a man, but I was once married to a man who'se family simply did not accept me. I for one, say to take your wife's side, (unless she is blatantly out of line) because SHE IS YOUR NEW FAMILY. You have to live with her. Your parents are your parents and they will love you, whether they love/respect her or not.

My ex did not have the balls to stand up to them and it was ultimately the reason we divorced.

Talk to your wife and find out why she has such a problem getting along with them. You might be suprised, your mom or dad may have said something to her and she may be holding a grudge. Good luck, I know first hand this is not an easy situation.

Answer 6

Ditto "Sunshine" (from above). Go with who you think is right always. The burning question is why are they arguing so much. Do you need to step in in general and tell people to act like an adult and stop picking on each other or else? Your "or else" could be backing off from seeing the family or going to counseling if it is your spouse who needs to be more agreeable. Life is about getting along the best you can. you are not always going to agree with your loved ones but you are family and need to talk your way out of it. Maybe you will need to be the adult for them all?

Answer 7

ALWAYS take your wife's side. You did not choose your family, you chose your wife. You took vows with her, to stand by her in good times and bad. Live up to them. Your family has their own life. Why are they interfering in yours, unless you are crying on their shoulders eveytime you have a problem? That is not the way to handle marital problems. You and your wife need to work them out, and get counseling if necessary. Never let her family or yours interfere!!

Answer 8

you must remember that when two people get married then they bring together two families having individuals who have been brought up entirely in different ways,have their own way of thinking which goes on to say that that their backgrounds r completely different.
To expect that a newcomer at once settles down with your family just like one of them and is at ease with them is difficult.to put her at ease with her surroundings she should be welcomed into your family as she is (she should not be pin pointed at every now and then as to when she is right and when she is wrong)and members of your family should respect her opinions, her individuality too.It takes times for every person to observe and learn the ways of people whom one has to stay associated with for a lifetime.Give her a helping hand to understand those around her as you r the one who has been with them for quite sometime and not she.Similarly make your own people understand her as knowing the nature of oneanother would help them to avoid situations of confrontations and if they do arise try not to interfere let them solve the problem between themselves(it will help them develop an understanding of their own with eachother) but do step in only when you see things going grossly wrong and at that time do not side with either of them but help both the sides see the problem and find a solution rather than aggravate the problem.

Answer 9

if your married you should side with your wife if you feel shes right. but with that said they really need to all try to get along together and if they cant then maybe they shouldnt spend much time together.. its a shame people do this. fighting just drives me crazy. hubby and i have been together for 23 yrs and never fight. some people have to accept that its ok to agree to disagree. also not making things that wont make or break my day an issue. i hope they all learn that if there going to fight anyway to fight fair.good luck

Answer 10

You side your wife. Always! Your family is your wife and kids now, not your parents. Move away from your parents and visit them only during the holidays for your own family sake.