We were both down when we met. Got her pregnant, she admitted that she did not love me then. Though she's saying that she loves me more now, I am still in doubt. by the way am making 6 digits bucks now per month and starting to noticed that she's a spender.
2007-10-31 19:16:42 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
She' got her claws into you now, she's having your baby and you married her.....good luck!!!!!
2007-10-31 19:21:51 · answer #1 · answered by Greeneyes 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Ur wife may or may not love you, only you can know the answer to that. But I do want to say that age should not enter the picture. I was once deeply in love with a man 20 years older than me, he has since passed away. Age was never an issue, the difference here, is that he knew I loved him dearly and he was quite financially generous to me. I`m sure you don`t want your wife to squander away ur entire savings, so set some limits, but don`t be miserly. See how she reacts. That should give you an inkling as to whether she loves you more now or is it the money she now loves.
2007-11-01 03:15:44 · answer #2 · answered by flamingo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
These doubts are being fostered by you due to the media and all the wonderful 'sugar daddy' websites...and possibly both sets of friends. I was once married to an older man and it was a marriage of convenience. He knew this going in. He wanted a companion; I was a single mother. He was a good man. Out of respect for him grew love. We divorced due to too many differences and too few common points. She probably does love you more now. She sees who you are and that you are a good man. She has (I'm assuming) a good marriage. Her spending money is just something women do. And we're damn good at it, too. I HATE shopping but most women do not and really appreciate when their husbands or boyfriends indulge this particular interest. Don't let her shopping dictate your impression of her love for you, though. If she genuinely shows you that she loves you, accept that she does and don't doubt her. She may have married for the sake of her child (which isn't exactly a dishonorable thing to do) but she has fallen in love with her husband. Enjoy your marriage. I wish you the best.
2007-11-01 02:43:14 · answer #3 · answered by MWestbrook 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Maybe you did something and now you think your wife does the same...fooling around like you may do.
You two should respect eachother first, talk to eachother, try to create a good relation between you two.
I am 17 years younger than my husband. The age never been an issue for us. And we always try to make our relation grow stronger and stronger. He makes good money too and I do spend some, but for example we decided that I will not spend more that $300-400 per month on my stuffs. You should talk to your wife and make a limit together.
Good luck!
2007-11-01 02:56:09 · answer #4 · answered by LMH 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, my husband-to-be is also 20 years older then I am. He's 40 and I'm 20. I'm in the active army and he is in national guard. We meet on a deployment in Kuwait and it was love at first sight. Before his deployment , his civilian job is a Mortgage Banker at his brothers company. He comes from a wealthy family and has two cute love-able twin boy's. When I came into the army and started to be independent, making my own money and paying my own bills. I too love to shop. We both plan on getting married and live together as a family. Him, I , and the twins. We also want to extend our family in the near future. We already talked about baby names and everything. We both make our own money, but he insist that he buys whatever I want. I still am hesitant about him buying me things, cause I still wanted to be independent....
I would honestly say, if she started spending money now, then really make sure she is not with you for your money.
But on the other hand, she could really deeply love you, and she just realized that. I hope this gave you alittle hope for your marriage. and good luck with everything..
2007-11-01 04:30:41 · answer #5 · answered by armygurl052000 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
u cant expect strangers on yahoo answers to tell u if this woman loves you or not. there are ways to find out...like if she adores you, brags about u to her friends, says the 3 words with a deep sincerity in her eyes. i have an insane hunch that none of these are the case. it is too late now that a child is in the picture. before u do anything, or take ANY ACTION whatsoever, u better put that childs best interest first.
good luck.
PS: if ure making 6 figures, so what if she spends a little? if shes working hard to take care of your child, shes entitled to use some of it loosely. if you're afraid its out of budget, then have a "financial talk" together to make sure everyone knows their limitations.
2007-11-01 02:49:37 · answer #6 · answered by gaga_chick 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
theres an old saying "When in doubt, Throw it out" but i tend to beleive her, and if your makeing that much money? Whats wrong with her spending a little if she is doing it wisely. So maybe you should just count your blessings and enjoy your marraige to the fullest. And cast your doubts into the wind. Or are we having a Major Mid-life-Crisis?
2007-11-01 07:54:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
All I can tell is that if you divorce her and she gets custody of your child, you are going to get royally screwed on child support because of your income. My husband has a daughter with his psycho first wife, and 14 years later, she is STILL coming after us for more money and he has to pay SO much it's ridiculous. He doesn't make quite what you do but he makes a healthy income and has to pay such a huge chunk of it to his ex (who is a multi millionaire by the way, but that doesn't matter because SHE has custody so court doesn't look at her income), that now we can't afford to pay the mortgage and he's looking at other ways to earn money.
Just wanted to give you a heads up in advance because Family Court is totally biased towards women/mothers and against men/fathers. Stay with her as long as you can unless you want all your income to go to her.... Child support now gets women rich (if the father's were wealthy) especially in California. Don't let it happen to you!!
2007-11-01 02:28:02 · answer #8 · answered by Wintergirl 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
i think that you are the only one who can answer that question because you are the one who's with her most of the time. ask yourself, is she acting in a way like she doesn't love you anymore? i'm pretty sure that you can and will sense it based on the way she's speaking and acting towards you. actions speak louder than words. do you think that she only loves you for your money? communication is the key to every successful relationship. you can tell her what you feel about her being too much of a spender. try to talk to her also about your feelings and doubts. it takes two to tango so the two of you will have to work together to save the marriage and resolve the situation.
2007-11-01 02:36:08 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 3⤋
Age is not an issue here, they way you equate love and her spending spree. You can feel love by the care she gives you. Check yourself on how much you love her.
2007-11-01 04:00:17 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Keep watching for signs....maybe limit the spending and see how much she shows her love.....
2007-11-01 02:22:09 · answer #11 · answered by Bonnie C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋