My husband and I are both 19, been married for 7 months. He started acting weird a couple months ago. He was coming home around 3 every morning which pissed me off, because that is unacceptable for a married man. Anyway, he left me a week ago, and he came back last night. Today is Halloween and we were suppose to go out together but he ditched me for his friends... which include other girls. Since he came back he doesn't act like he loves me anymore, he seems distant. Now I'm drinking, very upset, and I feel like killing myself. What do I do?
2007-10-31 18:17:51 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I know I shouldn't put up with his crap but I don't know if I can live without him...
2007-10-31 18:41:11 · update #1
i m also facing the same prob what u r facing but i would suggest u to not to leave him try to talk him lovingly and patiently because both of u r too young in this age one can mistake n even he can go to other girl so u would have to try to attract him to urself n don't hate him let me tell u that evey man is same in this world if u would go one step away from him he will move 4 steps away form u , i alsi did this mistake , n i hav understood there is no lif e without husband .don't expect from him bcoz first u will hav to devote for him don't think that he is wid other girls bcoz those girls will try to attract him but u will hav to stop him to do all dis
2007-10-31 18:30:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It sound that although you are both perhaps too young to have gotten married you are at least a little more mature about it. No matter how much love you feel, he apparently doesn't love you that much or he would be there with you. Tell yourself that you don't deserve to be treated like this, that you are better than that, and give him a choice of counseling or a divorce. You can do better than be married to someone who would rather be with his friends than you.
You can live without him and be much happier when you find someone to love who will love you as much in return, but you have to dump him first!!
2007-10-31 18:47:31 · answer #2 · answered by Al B 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
guess what you can live without him..you lived without him before he came and you can live without him when he's gone. Don't allow your life to revolve around one human being ever...this is how you get hurt..take it from me I got married at 17 and it was rough. First off you guys are too young, what were you thinking? I know love right? well, love can wait if its true then there's plenty of time. Get a grip girl! you are both young...he's a kid..he doesn't have a clue what a good husband is supposed to be...his actions prove it without a doubt....maybe its time to re-evaluate your relationship
2007-10-31 18:58:15 · answer #3 · answered by only1sol2000 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you need to get a grip and get over it. so what he has left you its not the end of the world. you and him were to young to be getting married anyway and he is just realizing it thats all. you need to talk to him and ask him does he want this marriage and if not roll out sweetie. you will be OK i promise you that. but dont allow him to keep coming back and forth and coming in all times of the night. sounds like he doesnt want the responsibilities of marriage. so let him go on and be with his friends and you get yourself together so that you can be emotionally and mentally available when the real Mr right comes into your life. GodBless
2007-10-31 18:29:56 · answer #4 · answered by Crystal G 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
19 and married thats kind of young. Sounds to me like your husband wasn't ready for marriage. I think you need to talk with your husband and see where both of you want to go from here. Maybe it's time to end it even though you've been married for only 7 months.
2007-11-01 03:52:13 · answer #5 · answered by healthnut 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you had only gotten married at 16 that would have solved your problems. At 16 you were probably WAY smarter than you are now..right? When your parents asked you NOT to get married at 18 you kinda listened, but what did they know? You were in LUUUUUUVVVEE. Sixteen was the right age for you knowing your parents were TOTALLY stupid, and you were WAY SMARTER. So if you had gotten married at 16 you both could have had at least 3 years of ingenious bliss before reality caught up.
2007-10-31 18:25:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
No need to drink yourself to death. No man is worth it, ever. You got married way too young. You have a lot of single living left in you. Your best bet would proabably be to divorce this boy and wait until you meet a real man.
2007-10-31 18:22:55 · answer #7 · answered by Simply Lovely 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
no man is worth the booze but you need to leave him and kick himto the kurb as he is not trusting and if he ditches you for his mates and you need support at the moment he aint much of a husband cut you loses now you are young and will move on from this
2007-10-31 18:37:55 · answer #8 · answered by mezzina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are too young to be married. Do not kill yourself. Go out with other guys and just have fun.
2007-10-31 18:23:17 · answer #9 · answered by crasher 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Divorce him or at least threaten him and tell him that if he doesn't want a divorce, he has to go to couples councling. What he is doing is unexceptable.
2007-10-31 18:23:45 · answer #10 · answered by RedRabbit 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋