im now happy w/ my husband. Weve been together for almost 4 years now but during the first 2 years of our relationship, I got bored and I wasnt satisfied w/ him. I met a guy and we made love and had a one month relationship. Then Ive jst realized that I was wrong and my husband became more sweet and loving thats why I tried to correct the mistake that I had but I rather not to tell my husband about my mistake coz I dont wanna loose him. I was wondering if it is necessary to tell him or not...? please guys help me out. The guys can also answer!!!
2007-11-03 16:46:43 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Good grief....No, you absolutely should not tell him and hope and pray to god that he does not find out about it. If you are caught sooner or later, which is a good possibility, come clean about it. Don't extend his misery by continuing the lie. From now on, keep your lip zipped and your legs closed. Maybe, just maybe, if you are extremely lucky and the gods are smiling on you, he will never have to have his heart ripped out.
2007-11-03 16:55:11 · answer #1 · answered by Slimsmom 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Has your husband ever gone out on you! Why did you do this! I don't know dude! What is done is done. It happened 2 years ago. Right now, if I were gonna tell him. I would leave it well enough alone. Your husband could absolutely go crazy! He could go out and find the guy that did this( To Him ).....Look I know it would be really hard to tell him. Just say dude, 2 years ago you were an as* to me. You made me feel if I made a mistake about my life! Your feel better about yourself, no matter what happens, Your showing that your strong and that you really love yourself. A lot of people make mistakes everyday. Either the guy is a real man and will get over it or he isn't and this might be why you needed this other guy 2 years ago! Shi* happens!!! Now the 2 of you have grown together. Tell him you know you have too!!
2007-11-04 00:40:26 · answer #2 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you don't tell him, it will eat you up inside day by day. I told my husband and he was very understanding and I could finally live with myself again. Neither of us were the same person back then and he treated me pretty horribly when we were first together. Tell your husband why you did it and that you will never do it again. You need to be able to forgive yourself and move on with life. I'm sure he's made his fair share of mistakes, too. Admitting your mistake might bring your relationship to another level of honesty and openess. Good luck!
2007-11-03 23:57:31 · answer #3 · answered by green velvet 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Everyone makes mistakes But if you go on and tell him your going to break his hart and he may not look at you the same. Things could come out for the worst and getting a divorce may be an issue. If your looking for forgiveness he may not give it to you. I would just leave it in the past and never do it again if I were you. You know what you did wrong and you should just hope it doesn't happen to you. what go's around comes around.
2007-11-04 00:02:51 · answer #4 · answered by BZCranium 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Ask yourself this: Would you want to know if the table was turned? Marriage is about honesty. If you are afraid he'll leave, than you need to deal with the mistake you made. It should be up to him whether you are forgiven. Bottom line, would you want to know if you were cheated on?
2007-11-03 23:58:41 · answer #5 · answered by Sue A 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You should always tell the truth. He might be very angry though and with cause, but at least you can live with the knowledge that you didn't lie to your spouse anymore. This can either strengthen your relationship, or it can break it apart.
If my wife had cheated on me, I would like to know, but I would be upset.
2007-11-03 23:55:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't tell him. If he finds out in the future, then you should be completely honest with him. To tell him now would just be very hurtful. If you're ever unsatisfied with him again, talk to him first and let him know how you feel, don't cheat. Cheating never solves anything.
2007-11-03 23:54:21 · answer #7 · answered by Le_Roche 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Its hard to say, if you tell him one of two things could happen- 1) he leaves you 2) he wont be able to trust you for a good while. If i were in your shoes tho i would have to tell him. thats too much to hold in.
2007-11-04 00:25:55 · answer #8 · answered by *Jace's Mommy* 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have the choices.
If you feel you're happy and contented with your hubby now and the guy is not bothering you anymore,then don't tell.
But if your conscience is bothering you and you feel you are strong enough to face the consequenses,then do it...tell the whole truth.
2007-11-04 00:00:38 · answer #9 · answered by brainwhacker 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Why are you asking for our help? You did it! If you wasn't happy then why didn't you tell him. Did ever "occur" to you that there may of been a time that he wasnt happy with you?
2007-11-04 00:36:45 · answer #10 · answered by bella s 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋