Guys, what does it mean when you keep reading newspaper when your wife is trying to discuss things?

Question

It really bothers me when I want to have a serious discussion and he either keeps reading the newspaper or working on the crossword puzzle. He says "I am listening." Or he jokes about things and doesn't take me seriously when I am trying to express something important to me.

I understand timing but this happens all the time. He even works on suduku when we are in meetings for work.

Amen Bella, but that isn't always practical.

Or does it mean he just isn't that in to you? What do you say guys? I know we woman love to talk but it can really be hurtful.

Or does it mean he just isn't that in to you? What do you say guys? I know we woman love to talk but it can really be hurtful.

Answer 1

Oh Welcome to the club! Almost 95% (and I'm being generous) of all husbands are like that. He loves you but men are big conversation holders. If it aint naked or holding a can of their favorite beverage then it is hard to get their attention! LOL

Answer 2

It is all about timing, and if your husband is anything like mine "I am listening" means just the opposite pretty much, it means "I know you're talking".

In my case I know there are only a few times a week when I can actually get his attention for serious discussions, which with us are mainly financial, so I wait for say Tuesday afternoon to come along and we discuss it at that time. On occassion one of us will remind the other of something or other we need to talk about on tuesday.
We have a systematic schedule for the "ugh" talks and it works great, you might consider trying it yourself.

Answer 3

I am not a guy but I know that this is part of the selective hearing process which all human beings are capable of.

The male of the species has elevated it to an art form all of it's own....

One of my friends jokes about having the most serious discussions with her boyfriend when she is driving on the highway in the fast lane.....guess it could be considered "entrapment," but sometimes a woman has to do what a woman has to do....

He, he have a good day....cheers.

Answer 4

You have to pay attention to timing. Maybe he has just come home and trying to unwind for a few minutes? It would help to say, "I need to talk about this, is this a good time? IF not then when because it is important to me to discuss this."

He may only need 5 minutes, but he just needs a little down or a warning first.

Just how it is for me, ain't marriage fun?

Answer 5

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Answer 6

Talk to him at a different time, at night in bed, after he reads the paper or when you are with him in the car and you have his attention

Answer 7

I get it to, when he's watching a game. I think men have a short attention span. When I want to talk to him about finances, he says if he doesn't know he doesn't have to deal with it. So I guess were just suppose to deal with it. HAA!

Answer 8

It is the different communications styles of men and women. He really is listening to you, believe it or not. We learned this in one of my classes in college. Women look at each other when speaking, men don't. It is just their nature.

Answer 9

it always bugged me when someone would interrupt me when i was reading the paper, sounds like i am not alone.

Answer 10

Bella is right.:-)