In the afternoon i went to sleep as i wasnt feeling well.During that time my husband was in front of computer. Now when i watched youtube website i noticed from the history that he watched sexy girls videos along with other normal videos especially girls with big boobs.I got very jealous.Is it fair while I am sleeping feeling unwell he watches this kind of videos?Now he isnt at home when he comes back i want to leave computer page on cover boys or something to make him feel that i was watching it to make him feel the same. I dont know should i do it? Generally at the moment we are good towards each other and it improved recently i am a bit worried i will spoil it by doing the same to him .
2007-11-03 06:58:17 · 15 answers · asked by Sindy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
playing games like that doesnt help anyone and only makes things worse, talk to him be open and honest and for the most part dont worrie about stupid videos online. its a pic or a movie hes not cheating. you seems hurt and you should explain to him why your hurt. remember hes with you and come home to you.
2007-11-03 07:33:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think all the answers are good so far except for Lover of Blue. I do not agree with Nessaja that what your husband is doing is hurtful in and of itself, but he is right when he says you should express your feelings to Hubby.
I say you might want to ask your husband if you can look at what he has been looking at WITH him! Or offer to look. Most of my favorite girlfriends AND MY WIFE looked at and read men's magazines with me before the internet age and now that we have internet my wife and I sometimes look at adult sites together. Yes I look at big boobs too. So we look and comment on the boobs or whatever other part of anatomy. We also look at men sometimes.
Try it. You might find that it is a turn on. It might lead to some hot , dirty satisfying sex.
Whatever you decide to do you SHOULD talk to him about it because it bothers you. Don't forbid him to do it anymore. And don't make a big deal that he did it while you were sick in bed bed either-that is pretty insignificant.
2007-11-03 08:50:25 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trying to make your spouse upset because you are upset is not the mature way to handle a situation. I don't think watching the videos is bad, but since it bothers you, ask him about it and tell him you'd like some of that attention and affection. Maybe your presence will appeal more to him than a picture on a computer?
2007-11-03 07:10:35 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you worry? Does it make your jealous? It's not like he's meeting other chicks online and then going to their house for some on the side. Maybe he just likes big boobs? I think you should feel secure in the fact that everything in the bedroom is okie and he's not feeling like there should be something more happening.
2016-04-02 02:37:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The bottom line here is he doesn't need to be doing that. It makes you wonder what the hell a man is looking for and what he is thinking....and you can bet one sure thing that while he is doing that he isn't thinking about you! Men cause more problems for themselves over porn and they just need to stop and grow up and get their heads out of the gutter. Explain to him that finding it made you uncomfortable and you don't like what porn stands for to you....it does not depict the true intimacy between a husband and wife. Tell him if he needs to view it again he better think about the consequences of his actions because you won't tollerate being disrespected by him looking at women that pose for it and live their lives in a toilet.
2007-11-03 08:56:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Umm if he was just looking at pictures, then I don't see the big deal. That doesn't mean he lusts after them, but everyone can appreciate a good looking man or woman. If it really bothers you, then ask him about it....don't play silly childish games...you are in a marriage......you aren't 16.
2007-11-03 07:06:51 · answer #6 · answered by Scooter_The_Squirrels_Wifey 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well...it's normal. My wife and I check out members of the opposite sex al the time ("oh, she's hot!" or "He is so cute!")
It's natural to look...you guys are married, not dead. If it bothers you then confront him about it and ask him why.
I have a feeling this may be more of an insecurity on your part. No offense.
2007-11-03 07:03:51 · answer #7 · answered by Hammer 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I personally don't have a problem with my husband looking at sexy girls on youtube.
But if you do, you should just talk to him and tell him it bothers you.
2007-11-03 07:05:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
His eyes are supposed to be yours and your alone! It's a loyalty issue (and a purity one). You need to let him know that it bothers you when he's undressing other women. (That's what he's doing.) You may need to get some counseling if he won't talk through this with you. Porno is very addictive and it hurts marriages and relationships greatly.
2007-11-03 07:36:03 · answer #9 · answered by Lover of Blue 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My husband watches porn all the time and admire sexy, beautiful women. The one thing he hasn't done is make a move on them, or flirt with them in front of me. That is when he will cross the line and I will kiss his azz.
2007-11-03 07:14:46 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋