I have a problem with my wife.?

Question

I am 35 yrs old.Seven years back I was married.It was love marriage.Now I have 6 yrs old son.
Two years back I connected internet to my home.My wife is a home maker,she started playing game online and then she started chating with boys.After fews months she said,I don't like having sex with you and we had a fight.
Now we live in the same house in separate rooms.we don't have sex.She talk over the phone for hours together with all her boy friends.Even sometime she hangsout with them.
I feel very lonely.I don't want my marriage to break and I also don't want my son to suffer because of separation.So I am just tolerating all these things.But sometime I lose my temper and shout her.
Nowaday she doesn't do house work.I have kept maid for cooking and to do all the top works also.
I am little busy with my work.I have my old aged parents in my village ,twice a month I visit them.
Please advice me how to handle this situvation.
Thanks.

Answer 1

Why are you still there? Get a lawyer and get out of that mess.

Answer 2

First of, marriage is bad for a relationship in my opinion. Second of...DUDE don't be so freaking pathetic. Your only 35 your still somewhat youngish...you don't need her. To me the marriage is both loveless thus pointless. If your alone and she's having fun with other guys, does that sound fair? NO! Divorce her and go out have some fun, and don't waste all your time working. And she's turning into a lazy @ss, she's pointless to keep around now if she doesn't at least clean the house.

And not everybody can achieve a long loving marriage. So don't be sad over that, be sad that your wasting your time on her.

Just dump the lady.

Answer 3

There are a few things you should consider here. First, your son will learn what relationships are like by watching you and your wife. The lesson he is getting here is that a married couple does not share a bed, they do not show interest in supporting each other emotionally and they are not happy. Are these the lessons about marriage that you want your son to get?

Second, your wife is cheating emotionally - at the very least. The message that you are ignoring is that, for her, your marriage is over.

Third, don't let your loneliness lead you to accept staying in a very bad situation.

Get yourself to a counsellor and think about calling a divorce lawyer - at the very least for some advice.

Answer 4

Get a grip Man! You DO NOT have a marriage to break up? You are doing nothing but enabling your wife to live in convenience. She doesn't have to work, her bills are paid and she gets to hang out with her "boyfriends" OMG!!!!!! YOU need to gather some self worth and self esteem and divorce her @ss! Do not say you are staying w/her for your son! HELLO! Do U want your son to think this is a normal marriage? Do NOT stay w/this woman. You deserve more than this. What the h*ll are U getting out of this relationship? NOTHING! Listen, there is a GREAT chance that U would win custody of your son! She sounds unfit and neglectful! If she is constantly on the internet chatting then who is caring for your son? The MAID that U had to hire because your STAY AT HOME wife will not do anything. UGH! I know alot of women who would kill for a good man like you! Gain some LOVE FOR YOURSELF & some self respect and leave her sorry @ss! You and YOUR SON deserve better. Let one of her boyfriends take care of her sorry good for nothing butt! You would get over her in the blink of an eye, besides...What the hell is there to get over? She offers you nothing but grief and heartache! Good Luck. File for divorce and then get some counseling!

Answer 5

I think you are kidding yourself and your son is being deprived of a healthy home life anyway. You could try counseling but I hate to say many people fall out of love and that's the end of that. People grow some together and some apart. Just be truth full with her and yourself but don't think you are helping your son by tolerating a non-loving home environment. LOL and just believe everything happens for a reason there is a better life waiting if you have the courage to seek it out.

Answer 6

She stays hope and doesn't do any house work, that is very sad that a woman can be that bad and lazy. She is not good example to your son.
No hope for this marriage, you sound like a good decent man, you are still young get a divorce and in a short time you will find a woman who will love and appreciate your devotion to marriage. Good luck and start being happy. No need to be miserable for such a long time. No stigma being divorce, do it and life will be better.

Answer 7

It's good that u r doing all this mostly for the sake of ur son .. he DOES deserve to live in a normal enviroment with both his parents in it

first .. think what attracted her to those internet stuff ? and the minute she got a hold of a few internet guys she went for it and became friends with them ! maybe she found something in them that u haven't been giving her ? maybe u r not giving her ur time and always away?

So if u dont know the answer then talk to her .. if she doesnt want to be with u she'd move out .. instead she stayed even if it was in a different room and not taking care of the house she's telling u something .. she's asking u to go talk to her QUIETLY but instead u shout at her

Control ur temper and talk like adults and get over all this quickly before it's too late

GooD LucK ^__^

Answer 8

I know that you are looking out for your son and you want your son to grow up in a normal family, but usually your children find out about this stuff. Do you think both you and your wife are setting a good example for your child? Your wife isn't setting a good example and that is self explanitory, but niether are you. You are letting your wife tample all over your feelings and you're letting her get away with it. You're also doing things that is helping her out, like letting her talk on the phone to her boyfriends and letting her live in a house where she is doing nothing to help out. You should really seperate with her and go to someone who will really love you. Or have a serious talk with your wife about her boyfriends and how you really want this to work. Also, marriage counciling could help. If she completely is rude and doesn't care then you should seperate. I know that is horrible both for you, because you seem to still really love your wife, and for your son, but it isn't healthy for your family. Also, take your son with you. Of course these are just suggestions. I'm just trying to help.

Answer 9

some people do this type of life all the time but really if your going to do it then you need to say to your wife something so you know where you stand with her one way or the other like if you and her are able to live together and have other partners then that might work for you 2 and then at lest you both have your child but if you need to take off then do that too and fight for your son if you can.

but until you speak to her you have no idea where she is or what the rights are that your gong to be needing or if your after device or anything alts just try talking to her

Answer 10

Sounds like your wife doesn't want to be Married anymore. At least her behavior says that !! You need to talk to your wife CALMLY.... see if you 2 can work things out. If you can not, then you need to seperate. It is the Best thing for you and Your Son !!! Children KNOW what is going on between their parents. They are very smart, and it WILL hurt him more if you keep living the way you are living now. You and your son deserve better !! Your wife is obviously not interested in being a "wife", and I'm not sure about what kind of Mother she has been?! Good Luck !!

Answer 11

There comes a time when you must stand alone.

You must feel confident enough within yourself to follow your own dreams.

You must be willing to make sacrifices.

You must be capable of changing and rearranging your priorities so that your final goal can be achieved.

Sometimes, familiarity and comfort need to be challenged.

There are times when you must take a few extra chances and create your own realities.

Be strong enough to at least try to make your life better.

Be confident enough that you won't settle for a compromise just to get by.

Appreciate yourself by allowing yourself the opportunities to grow, develop, and find your true sense of purpose in this life.

Don't stand in someone else's shadow when it's your sunlight that should lead the way.