I want to follow in the footsteps of my roommate and second cousin....they have twins...aww...could it be because of his first wife?
2007-11-03 09:17:21 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
if you get married, will you still have swingers parties?
please say yes.
2007-11-03 09:37:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
For one I do believe you need to realize that you are your own person and your roommate and cousin are their own people as well. You shouldn't be following their footsteps or their lives either. Because everyone gets married, divorced or even have kids at their own time and when they are ready for them. Now that being said, you should realize that you can't make your guy propose or marry you right now if he is not in that place to be married again. You really didn't provide any details about his first marriage, so I can't say if it has to do with his first wife or not. But if there were things from his first marriage that taught him to be more cautious after it ended you have to be able to accept that too. I mean just because he was married before, doesn't necessarily mean he is ready to be married again. I think you need to hold off on what you want for right now until you talk more with him and figure out where his mind is at throughout all of this. I mean if he says he never wishes to be married again you have to accept that. And then decide if you wish to be with him or not. But if you really wish to have a family and be married then move on and find someone that shares your goals. But just realize that you can't make someone else live your dreams if they don't wish to.
2007-11-03 09:47:43 · answer #2 · answered by Cursed_Romantic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do no longer rush it. 15 months rather isn't that long. I mean, that's easily decent on your age, besides the fact that if it is not such as you're able to desire to be feeling undesirable that he hasn't asked you yet. besides the fact that in case you have been engaged, you won't be able to get married till you turn 18 so why rush it? Plus, the longer you're mutually in the past you get married the extra useful opportunities you have of easily lasting and not getting a divorce. so, decelerate and communicate making your relationship as impressive as conceivable and in time marriage will come if that's the main suitable ingredient for you the two.
2016-12-15 15:28:25 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, if this guy was married once and it didn't work out why would he want to do it again without being totally sure. Besides, marriage is a lot of work. Many people think it is just walking down that isle and happily ever after. Well, it is not. You have to maintain a relationship and work at it to keep it good for both of the parties involved.
2007-11-03 09:29:40 · answer #4 · answered by Lia 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Questioning someone else's timetable, is not going to help you in any way. Don't try to manipulate him. He will get sick of it real soon and then you'll blame him for losing interest in the relationship.
Wanting to follow in someone else's footsteps is not the right reason to get married and by no means, requires this particular guy.
2007-11-03 09:33:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Could be tons of things. He is not ready yet, again. He wants to get alot of stuff in order before he does. Or he just doesn't think you are marriage material. I don't think it is the last he is just probably waiting until everything in life works out.
2007-11-03 09:20:51 · answer #6 · answered by steven c 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Marriage sucks. Some people don't want to be married. It sounds like he learned his lesson the first time.
2007-11-03 09:20:56 · answer #7 · answered by systemofanalias 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It could be because he doesn't WANT to marry you. Just because YOU want to doesn't mean he has to have the same feelings you do. You OBVIOUSLY have a lot of growing up to do before you are actually mature enough to be married.
2007-11-03 14:59:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
What`s the rush? You want to keep up with other people because of babies? He will ask when he`s ready, not when you want him to. Patience is important, if you lobe him u will wait.
2007-11-03 09:56:00 · answer #9 · answered by I tell it like it is 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You probably scared him off with all that talk about having twins, ha!
2007-11-03 10:04:38 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe cuz he doens't want to be married yet?? LADIES quit rushing it. marriage and kids will come when its time for it to come. and then u'll be asking, why is my husband of 2 1/2 months cheating on me??? slow down shorty
2007-11-03 09:26:04 · answer #11 · answered by iluvmeeee 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋