why does it seem like husbands would rather be with their buddies?

Question

My husband it seems would rather sit down and watch a hockey game with his friends then be home with me.

okay ppl this is every saturday night when the game is on he goes out plus sometimes friday and saturday. Also for the one who mentioned it I am not out of shape at all so you can kiss my white A**.

Answer 1

Because buddies dont ***** about everything. We are stupid and care about food, football and sex. Period.

Answer 2

I believe that when you are married the spouse comes first. It's fine once in awhile to hang out with friends to watch a sports game but if they are out doing the club scene Hell No!! It is not appropriate for a married man to be out running around with buddies drinking and possibly enticing each other to be up to no good and acting like they are single. A married man should be more commited to his wife in doing things with her more than his friends. I would set limits on how often he hangs out with the guys if I am being ignored and he is not attending to any special times and moments with me. You have to draw the line in what is acceptable and not acceptable in your marriage other wise he will just get worse.

Answer 3

It really depends on the situation at home, if there is a lot of tension in your relationship, he may want to get away just to be relaxed for a while. Perhaps you could compromise and occasionally sit down and watch a hockey game with him. Also, a good way to keep a man home is to always have good food for him. Men love being home when dinner is hot on the table, with a sexy woman who loves him enough to make it for him. If you think you can't cook, you're probably wrong, there are so many very simple recipes that will make him happy. Maybe for this day and time this is considered sexist, but you can't deny what men like. If you want him to stay home with you more often, you can't always be nagging and getting irritated at him for small things, you have to be loving and understanding, because after all, men are just very large boys.

Answer 4

How do you treat your husband? It's an honest question. In the beginning of my marriage I was a witch I treated him like he didn't matter and like he wasn't enough. Needless to say he spent a lot of time with friends. Now I treat him like my man, and he's happy to be home with me all the time. I don't nag him, we make love a lot and I am constantly telling him how wonderful he is (it's true) Now men do need guy time don't get me wrong, but that's quite a lot your husband takes. So again how do you treat him?

Answer 5

Men don't need an excuse for being a horses A$$.
If they want to go out with their buddies and play those games, we women can play their games way better.
Do it back and see how they like it. It doesn't feel too good when the shoe is on the other foot. -Do it back on the days that he wants to spend with you. Let him know how it feels.
When you act like you don't give a crap anymore what he does, then you will see how the tables will turn and he will be kissing your butt. -It works just fine with me.

Men will say women like to play games, but when we play the same game they have started, they don't like it because we play the same games but better then they do.
-Keep your head up sista'.

Answer 6

White buttock kissing aside lady... perhaps you learn to pay more attention to what he says ..or does not say about his dad and how his dad treated him when he was young. My opinion only , but from reading five million questions from men in here.. it seems to me a severe lack of good leadership from men who are parents is what is going on. I think the reason many men want to be with other men is to get those men to approve of them... i know that sounds strange..but seems as though many mens dads forgot to lead them into the belief that it is good to pay attention to the spouse and the children and focus on the family most of all , then the job..THEN the friends. So it ends up boiling down to alot of insecure men who had bad fathers who want other men ( substitute father figures ) to approve of them no matter what ( substitute for the unconditional love they should have recieved from their own dads ) and now fear trying to give it to their own progeny.

God bless you in your endeavor to help him know you love him with all of your heart.

Answer 7

There is a reason and you need to find out what it is. You won't find the answer here. You have to talk to him. If it means the two of you getting marriage counseling to be able to open up and discover the truth behind his rejection of you, then get counseling. Because I know rejection is what you are feeling and behind the rejection is hurt that can turn to bitterness and anger. It very possibly could be because of his own past baggage and he may not even be aware of his treatment of you. Talk to him.

Answer 8

Being married doesn't mean giving up your friends and the fun you have with them. Though it does mean that there is less time for them.

Both partners in a marriage need to have time away from the partner. You and he should be scheduling time with your respective friends.

You should also be scheduling time to have fun with each other (not necessarily talking about sex here). Have a date with your spouse. Just the two of you. Make it fun. Do something new and novel, as well as go to a movie and dinner.

Answer 9

Because he doesn't have his priorities in order. This usually happens when they don't have God in their lives. If he is a married man, he should be fully committed to his wife. He isn't single anymore so he shouldn't be acting like he is. He should be more inclined to do fun things with you than with his buddies. -That is so juvenile.
Maybe sit down and talk to him and let him know what bothers you. If he doesn't change, you may have to take drastic measures. Sometimes we women need to become the backbone of our family and get our men into Church.
If he wants to have his fun on Saturday nights, then prepare him for Church early Sunday morning. -It is all worth it, if you want your man to fly straight. -God Bless.



Don't let other people say that is just the way men are. Mine is not that way. He knows his priorities and he puts GOD first, me (second) and my son (third). -That is the way it should be.

I believe people will say that you just have to accept that, but you don't. That is just a cop out and men will use that excuse if you let them.

Answer 10

Because he's aman and that's just the way they are. Look, he's always been like, you probably didn't notice before because you had stars in your eyes. And you didn't have to live with him 24/7.
Men are not as emotionally attached to their mates as women are. It's nothing personal, it's just them. If you stress the issue, you'll strain your relationship. Just accept whatever time you have together and make the best use of it. It would be such a waste to squander time that is already in short supply on whinning & bickering.
Yes, you married the man of your dreams, you have to live with this one wide awake. The man of your dreams unfortunately is different from the man of your waking moments. All the best.

Answer 11

i think mostly, because they encourage him! if they are not all married and are still young , they are jealous of your marrige and will try to see how far they can go to goof up your marrige, same thing if your gilrfreinds are ecourageing you to do something your not comfortable with. marrige is a funny thing, and you lose so many so called freinds once you enter it. especially if you are happy, people are greedy and selfish, and clanish, both of you have to be strong enough to determine who are, our real freinds? when you said I DO! your whole world changed as you once new it, so be like a good girl scout , and good boy scout because your so called freinds are and shall screw with your realtionship out of jealousy, TRUST ME. talk with your husband! You might get the shock of your life and find he feels exactly like you do!