2007-11-03 10:50:13 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
if you still have kids that need ya yes, otherwise wait for them to grow up, then do it
2007-11-03 10:54:47 · answer #1 · answered by reg 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me tell you something if you have been married to this man for twenty years and he has told you about several affairs he has had. You better be tahanking god for taking care of you to remain healthy all these years. Why worry about forgiving him now let the pass stay in the pass and keep on living if this is what you want to do forgive is a big word forgiving in the heart makes everything right not just by lip service. When you forgive in your heart you let eveerything go and you become clean again without a spot left in your heart let it go.
best of luck
2007-11-03 12:09:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was married for 22 and my ex only had one that I know of. I got out and have no regrets. I'd say that if he admitted this after all this time there has to be more to the story. He either wanted to hurt you badly or he was hurting badly, and whatever it was I'd take that into consideration. Know that this is not all about you either. Trust is very fragile, and once broken is never quite the same, in my experience. Is he willing to do what it takes to earn your trust? Have you even put that into words?
Either way it goes, you have rough roads ahead. Peace be with you.
2007-11-03 11:24:51 · answer #3 · answered by bonnieboobabe 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmmm, Not just one, but numerous affairs ?? Should you forgive him, in my opinion "no",,,How did he happen to admit affairs, was he caught , or feeling guilty? I don't think I could ever trust him again,,,You deserve better !!! Can you forgive him? That is up to you,,,, I happen to feel once a cheater, always a cheater,,,
2007-11-03 11:03:29 · answer #4 · answered by Gringa_uno 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is he going to stop having affairs? If he is willing to stop and work on the marriage I would forgive him but making sure he know if it happens again you are out of there!
2007-11-03 10:56:45 · answer #5 · answered by Dance 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only you know if you can forgive him.
As for whether you should, the man's cheated on you not once, not twice... numerous times! He epitomises the phrase "once a cheater, always a cheater".
You will never forget his indiscretions. Move on and give yourself a chance to find happiness.
2007-11-03 11:05:27 · answer #6 · answered by cherie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you still trust him is another question? if he has had numerous affairs, i dont think i could or should forgive him at all.
2007-11-03 11:59:55 · answer #7 · answered by Stephanie C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm sorry that he did that to you. I think you should forgive him. It's up to you if you stay with him or not. But forgiveness, defanitely. If you stay bitter, it only eats at you, not him. Other than that, be encouraged. Stay around ppl. who bring you up. Church is a good place to find ppl. and groups that can help through hard stuff like this.
2007-11-03 11:46:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why is he 'coming clean' now after all these years? Is he wanting you to leave or is he overwhelmed with guilt?
Think, personally, I'd be gone; he can live with all his 'memories'; I'd be making new ones of my own, without this continually lying, deceiving man.
And - only you can make the decision; you must do what is right for you.
2007-11-03 10:59:31 · answer #9 · answered by pussycat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Over 50? Ride out the storm and use him for what he's worth. Under 50? Get out there and find two guys at once.
2007-11-03 10:57:44 · answer #10 · answered by csiders30 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would he quit now?!
I'd say it's HIS turn to prove to YOU he's changed, not up to you to believe him, just cause he admitted to it ..
This isn't all about him .. but in turn IF he is true and serious .. then it will be up to you to work through it .. I doubt you could without help tho .. lots of issues and feelings there ..
Lots have made it through. Even more have not tho ..
Good Luck!
2007-11-03 10:58:29 · answer #11 · answered by Queenie` 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋