I've always wondered how they do it...? How do you take someone's husband or wife..? Or take them away from their children? Those children have the right to grow up in a home with 2 loving parents. We all know that sometimes relationships can be hard so why take advantage of that? Why take advantage of someone when their relationship may be going through some troubled times?
I just don't get it... what's your take on it?
2007-11-03 07:20:54 · 36 answers · asked by *Shayla* 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I will agree that the cheating partner is also the home-wrecker, but as I said.. lots of times the cheating partner's relationship is going through rough times and along comes a 'whore' male or female whom to me... take advantage of the situation..
2007-11-03 07:29:49 · update #1
I guess I should've added that I was just curious about this subject and that I'm not and never have experienced this .. I'm not married either.. but I did see where everyone was coming from and how they got their veiwpoints on the subject. Also, sorry to offend anyone by using 'whore'.. that is just my perception.. not everyone's.
2007-11-04 03:38:41 · update #2
I think they never learned morales, or how to have healthy relationships.
2007-11-03 08:02:23 · answer #1 · answered by nwnativeprincess 6 · 5⤊ 2⤋
A Homewrecker Can Only Exist With A Willing Partner, Your Problem Is That You Chose A Poor Quality Person To Make A Home With, So Blame Yourself First And Foremost
2016-04-02 02:38:37 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people don't value themselves enough to try and find there own man/woman , so they will settle for a piece of someones husband/wife. I am currently involved in this situation right now. My soon to be ex treats this girl , because she not a woman, like crap and she kisses his *** constantly. It's all about self esteem and how much you love yourself. If the "home wrecker" had any self respect they would not break up someones home. I feel that if the home is already broken up or about to be , give those people time to deal with that totally and then begin your relationship. But as we all know , it never works that way.
They don't care about the other person's children. It's all about their happiness and what they want.
2007-11-03 07:30:45 · answer #3 · answered by cutejawjapeach 1 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Sweet heart, im in love with a married man and he has a daughter with his wife. Me and this man have been having this affair on and off for 3 years. We love each other ver much. But besides the point hun, i am not a home wrecker. He's the one who chose to decieve his family. I didnt make him do it. As a matter of fact, i didnt know he was married. I found out through a friend but by that time, i was already in love with him so it was really hard to let go. He didnt want to let go either. So if you think your husbands mistress is the home wrecker, sweety think again. Sometimes we tell them to go back to their wives and they refuse. The cheating husband is the home wrecker, BOTTOM LINE!!!!!!
2007-11-03 08:40:33 · answer #4 · answered by strwberri81 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I agree with ty's dad. It is the person that is in the relationship that is the responsible party. Too many women and men for that matter want to blame the other person, but it is the sppouse that made that vow to love cherish and obey. They clearly did not do that when they took off their pants for someone else. The truth is the wife or husband that has been cheated on is better off because now they can move on and hopefully not catch some disease that their spouse brought home. I know what you mean about the kids it is a sad situation, but you don't want them growing up thinking that it is okay for one person to treat another like that.
2007-11-03 07:28:50 · answer #5 · answered by Me 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Well, I believe that the responsibility falls on the married person. If you are having trouble in your marriage, it is up to the married couple to seek help. If one of them decides that they are going to seek a relationship outside of the marriage, then he/she is the home-wrecker. Because regardless of what problems you may be having, you know where you belong. Lots of times, the married person will lie or not hide the truth from someone who may be interested in them. Start a relationship with this person, and then risk having emotional attachments to them.
When my husband cheated on me, I blamed him not the other woman. I did confront her so I could get whatever information may have helped me realize what happened. But the fault for the break up of our marriage lies on my husband. So trying to put the full blame on the "other" person is not necessarily the right thing to do. I could really care less for that woman. Now, I care even less for him.
2007-11-03 07:33:48 · answer #6 · answered by BluePassion 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I do not blame the other person because it is not fair. Do you know what that husband tells that women? I speak from a experience. I was dating a married man a long time ago and he told me that he was getting a divorce and that he did not love his wife. I really believed him and I thought that we would have been a couple. Come to find out it was all lies and he was just being a dog, he wanted to eat have his cake and eat it too. I spoke to his wife because she found my number and this is when I found out that she was expecting a 3rd child and she had no idea that he was cheating. I told her that I was sorry and that I did not know, I will know longer have anything to do with her cheating husband.
2007-11-03 08:12:20 · answer #7 · answered by Vicky 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't understand it either. To knowingly and purposely get involved with someone who is married is just plain stupid. Tired of those who say it is the cheating spouses fault 100%; well, if there was no one willing to cheat with him then he couldn't be a cheating spouse, could he? Sorry, but my take is they are both at fault; both know what they are doing and could care less about those who get hurt.
And you know what; it is when many partners are going through difficult times that one partner may think about, or actually be unfaithful. Yes, they are responsible for taking the step and actually going through with it; no excuse for it. Just know that mine had his fling with an 'old friend' he hadn't seen in over 20 years. He now thinks of her with distaste as he realized she wasn't a friend at all, but someone who jumped on the opportunity to do all she could to break up his marriage. Why did she do this? In her case, she has a long history of going after married men; guess it is desperation and wanting someone to take care of her, in her case.
Really, it doesn't matter why they do it. They are the ones who have to live with themselves every day and know the outcome of their actions.
2007-11-03 08:02:49 · answer #8 · answered by pussycat 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I don't think the other party is always to blame. It takes two to tango. Besides, the one in a relationship is the one who is committed and should know better! It doesn't matter if the relationship is on the rocks, it's the parties involved who are responsible for fixing the problems.
2007-11-03 09:03:06 · answer #9 · answered by cherie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The real home wrecker is the spouse doing the cheating...NOBODY takes him or her away from their spouse and/or children....they make that decision themselves....With that said...I think the person that gets involved with someone that is married has no self respect for themselves or for anyone for that matter....
2007-11-03 07:46:11 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
People who have no morals, or conscious don't feel guilt. Let alone even think that what they are doing is wrong. But then again their not the only one at fault. It also says allot about the person that is in the relationship, they are far more at blame then the other woman/man. No one held a gun to their head and made them cheat.
2007-11-03 07:27:11 · answer #11 · answered by cris 5 · 5⤊ 1⤋