I proposed a girl recently. She is undecided and we are still good friends. I am hopeful that sooner or later she'll accept. But my inner conscience says that it is not the right time to fall in such commitments and by doing so I'll lose focus from my career and job. I will not step back from my proposal and will commit myself if she accepts. But it is also difficult to ignore my inner conscience. What should be done?
2007-11-03 07:35:49 · 12 answers · asked by mohitpatwa 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
you dont need a big wedding in order toget married, sometimes the simplest things are the best.
2007-11-03 07:51:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear Friend,
You have just proposed, you have not said I am getting married right away. No body said that once you propose you need to finalize everything right away. First let her accept, second, set your self some goals. You are not the first and you will not be the last who has proposed to a female at a very early stage in their career and job. It is up to your partner to help you not lose that focus from your other commitments. Honey what does falling in love have to do with losing focus on your career and job? You need to make sure you have your priorities in order. Falling in love and proposing to your partner are two different issues. First sit down and decide are you unsure of being in love and committing to love, or unsure of proposal for marriage and the commitment that would be involved in running a happy married life. Good Luck.
2007-11-03 07:50:56 · answer #2 · answered by Simbha 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you love someone marry them. Why do you have to wait for the prefect time? The perfect time may be today but in a year things could change. If you keep holding out for the perfect time to be married, have children buy a house a car or anything else in your life you may lose those things forever. Ex. You have a great job, great wife home and insurance. You decide to have a baby. In the mean time you lose your your job. Do you lose your wife and child? Do you get rid of them because things are not perfect. Grow up! Having a relationship is also about commintment and sacirfice.You can still focus on your job but do it together. Good Luck
2007-11-03 08:03:41 · answer #3 · answered by deb b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to realize that you need to have a life other than work. Why should work dictate when you can have a relationship? You can focus all you want on work during the day but at the end of the day we all go home. Work will wait until the next day and in the mean time you deserve to have a life and to be happy.If you do not have her you will still go home at the end of the day. Why go home to be alone? We don't (or shouldn't) live to work, we work to live. If we waited on our careers to get married a lot of people would be single forever. Tell your conscience to be quiet and live your life.
2007-11-03 08:30:26 · answer #4 · answered by kim h 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is more important to you...
A loving relationship that may last a very long time and bring you a family.
or
A career that can turn into a great thing but will never keep you warm at night, or say I love you, or truly appreciate you.
This has to come from you for me I could never ever put career over love and family, but that is just me.
2007-11-03 07:52:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Proposal and acceptance is not a wedding date. You can be engaged for a long time without marriage. Love is about taking chances. Things may just work out, then again, it just may not, unfortunately.
2007-11-03 07:49:30 · answer #6 · answered by dVine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should tell her the truth maybe she feels the same way about you and the commitment that you have proposed to her; i have a feeling you are both feeling the same way but neither of you are straight out enough to come out and say it first.
Good luck
2007-11-03 07:40:24 · answer #7 · answered by mayrad 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is after all love. Once fallen in love to escape is out of question. U seem not yet fallen in love. A lover can even render his/her life career worth not more than love. Love is blind and a natural affliation.I'll suggest u if u r serious just prefer it whatever it costs u.
2007-11-03 07:57:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
love dose not see the dollars or your career .. .. good luck. i hope she says yes to you
2007-11-03 08:37:52 · answer #9 · answered by rpetch007 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its a free ride for her...she shouldnt rationalize it.
2007-11-03 07:58:33 · answer #10 · answered by csiders30 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋